shamus

[+ bigjoey]

i had the good fortune to have hired shamus twice; he was going to come visit me for a weekend when he retired. i am happy that all is well with him in his new life.

 

however, he misses one key point why he was so good and remains the gold standard. yes, he was handsome; yes, he was very good at sex; yes, he had a great attitude; but he also had intelligence that made him a great companion. the good looks, sex and attitude can only take a person so far; when hiring for extended periods of time, for me, intelligence is a necessity.

 

his intelligence not only shows up in his writing, but also in the fact that he realized what is truly important in life: having another to share it with. while the clothes, travel, money, etc. are great, he knew that his lover was more important and like king edward, gave up his throne "for the woman i love". there is nothing greater than building a life with a loving partner.

 

wealth, good looks, fame in the end are not important; what is important is whether a person had love in their life or not. the rich, good looking and famous all meet the same end, that of the cold grave; those that have love in their life live on in those that they touched. shamus was smart enough to know this.

 

shamus left me with fond memories and two vegetarian cook books i bought in preparation for his visit. his posting here was important to me as it let me know that all is well with him and he could make the transition to civilian life. shamus, i wish that your life is always filled with good health, happiness and love.

 

p.s. the vegetarian cook books did not go to waste as i use them regularly

[Guest cp8036]

Joey,

 

Yes, was a nice post from Shamus, as was yours.

 

But, <...wealth, good looks, fame in the end are not important...>

 

WHAT THE F*$@ ... are you delusional, or do you live in Newfoundland? Ok, maybe you need not be wealthy, but you should at least be married to someone who is. I am glad that I am a trust-fund baby. Maybe good looks are not that important, but you better have a huge cock to compensate.

 

 

Seriously though, your points are well taken. However, people sure seem to forget that sharing your life with someone special is the richest way to live. We loose sight of this when we are younger.

 

Even mature men seem to put this aside. For example, how many men folk here comment only about an escort's intelligence. Most mentioned his good looks, hot body, or other things superficial. Take this to a more fundemental level, why do we hire guys that are usually younger and perahps better looking?

 

I hope the guy does well in the mainstream. Perhaps being in the biz for a short time will make it easier to stay out. A couple of retired escorts I met said was hard to transition from escort life to mainstream. At the office you have set hours, obnoxious co-workers, and a boss telling you what to do. Office mates will not make huge concessions if you turn out bad work because you are "hot". Then the time spent for the low wages. These guys said was impossible not to consider going back part-time.

[CT Dick]

>WHAT THE F*$@ ... are you delusional, or do you live

>in Newfoundland?

 

I believe that it is now called "Newfoundland and Labrador.";-)

 

Dick

[Guest IM_Moore]

hooboys posts from this escorts emails was one of the most boring things i have read, who cares, he is a faceless prostitute who no longer sells his body to men for sex. get over it, i mean aren't we all just a little too interested? i know i am not.

[Bilbo]

> i mean aren't we all just a little too interested?

>i know i am not.

 

I know you're not interest-ing. Is that the same thing, boy?

 

BTW, your small "i"s do mean you are a little leather boy, don't they?

[Guest GoutBout]

"...I'm...mind-numbingly bored and sick of dealing with stupid co-workers, broke, hating my job and hating the fact that I haven't bought any new clothes in forever and can't afford to get my hair highlighted anymore...I wish I was back in New York at my old life, escorting again and buying lots of clothes and shoes and working out whenever I wanted and jetting to Miami whenever I wanted and having highlights and facials and massages..."

 

She'll be back, folks.

[+ Charlie]

I thought Shamus's little memoir was the best single thing I have ever read on this site (except maybe nycpigboy's review of his threesome with Rex Brant, Gino Mancuso and Renn). His insights into himself and his life--and his ability to articulate them--are great for someone so young. I suspect, however, that someone who has led so many lives in such a short time is not going to be happy settling into one placid routine for the rest of his life. Right now he is content because it is what he has chosen, but at some point he will panic at the thought that his option to return to the glamor of his old life won't be there forever, and that will be the real midlife crisis for him--midlife probably coming between 30 and 35. (Shamus, are you listening?) I hope he continues to update Hooboy over the coming years; I'd much rather read him than Aaron Lawrence.

[BgMstr4u]

IM Moore writes: "who cares, he is a faceless prostitute who no longer sells his body to men for sex. get over it"

 

What a sorry point of view. I think I'm safe in saying that everyone who contributes to this site realizes that these guys are prostitutes. The issue is not sex work. The issue is treating other people decently, and in the process maybe making lives of both clients and workers better for having come together. Shamus seems to have had a good time, to have met some wonderful people, and to have made a decision to change. He is happy to have been an escort and many of his former clients are happy to have known him. Sounds pretty good to me!

 

Faceless? That's an adjective meant to demean Shamus -- he's certainly not faceless to the many guys who grew to like him.

 

Who cares? Apparently more than a few here -- guys whose lives were made a bit better by these transactions. I never met Shamus, and am sorry that I didn't. But I am glad that such evident happiness grew from his work.

[Guest cp8036]

IM

 

<...get over it, i mean aren't we all just a little too interested? i know i am not...>

 

Thanks for telling us that you are not interested. Had you not taken the time to advise, I would have guess you are interested.

[buttnovice]

Well Shamus (aka James) and I met three times in four months, the first meeting about a month or so after his first review. Just happened that I was in NYC frequently. Each and every encounter was wonderful. In fact, HooBoy, in a private e-mail I encouraged you to get your butt to NYC. Anyway, Shamus remains the Gold Standard to me and many others. He was quiet yet eloquent in his words. He was not dashingly handsome or melt my butter cute, but had a unique and very attractive look. His physique was wonderful, my only regret was the last time, he had been hitting the tanning bed. Gone was the perfect, unblemished alabaster skin.

 

But I had noticed a change in the few months since our first meeting. He seemed more hurried and a little frazzled. Nonetheless, our private time was exactly that, private and personal. I guess the tip off was he always showered afterwards, once with me (wish I would have taken better advantage of the invitations) and them proceeded to primp (in the best sense of the word) for his next appointment. Now I realize it was more than just a clean up shower for the ride home. I had a feeling he wouldn't be around for long. I recall him saying he needed to pay off some educational bills and get a head start and that he wasn't in it for the long run.

 

I once asked him, what happens if the most unGodly creation opens the door. He said "I always find something beautiful in someone" I thought it was just a line but as I got to know him only a little, I think it spoke volumes about the man behind the profession.

 

Not here to stir the pot, but just to offer my two cents worth. There are many good people on this earth. I think Shamus is among them. I wish him happiness.

[Rod Hagen]

> he is a faceless prostitute who no longer sells his body to men > for sex.

 

Yet unlike you he will not die alone.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>I thought Shamus's little memoir was the best single thing I

>have ever read on this site...His

>insights into himself and his life--and his ability to

>articulate them--are great for someone so young.

 

I agree. He captures the euphoria and ambivalence of emerging into the world of escorting, and I found his cautionary yet still promising account of life after leaving the business very helpful. He really seems to have a knack for seeing all the shades of gray.

 

> I suspect,

>however, that someone who has led so many lives in such a

>short time is not going to be happy settling into one placid

>routine for the rest of his life. Right now he is content

>because it is what he has chosen, but at some point he will

>panic at the thought that his option to return to the glamor

>of his old life won't be there forever, and that will be the

>real midlife crisis for him--midlife probably coming between

>30 and 35. (Shamus, are you listening?)

 

LOL -- even if Shamus isn't listening, I am...this is a huge concern for me looking forward. Here I think Shamus nails it: "It is very unsettling to realize that you don't want to back down from something (a power, a freedom) that a year earlier, you weren't even aware that you could or would ever possess." Hopefully what happens is that once we become aware of that power and freedom, we start to learn how we can apply them to other things which have nothing to do with escorting. After all, as much as we all talk about looks, at the end of the day they're a relatively small part of what the escort brings to the table.

 

>I hope he continues

>to update Hooboy over the coming years; I'd much rather read

>him than Aaron Lawrence.

 

I hope to keep reading them both. Shamus's insights are beautifully expressed and deal with the emotions one goes through, while Aaron's insights are extremely helpful in getting escorts to think about the non-glamorous work necessary to make sure the rewards we reap from escorting aren't confined to the months or years we spend in the business.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Shamus... One if My Biggest Disappointments

 

That he got away.

 

There really is something to Carpe Diem for surely night will fall.

 

:-(

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

I was most struck by him not being able to afford to dye his hair anymore. He mentioned that at least twice. Don't they sell "Preference" by L'Oriel where he lives?

 

Esthetically yours,

 

FFF

[Guest JustStarting]

Shamus' note was moving and inspirational. All of look back on different phases of our lives with a combination of wonder, regret and pleasure. Shamus' ability to put his thoughts into words is noteworthy and admirable. As Abba Eban said, clocks only move forward. Memories (sometimes distorted) are the only things that move backward.