What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What would make you become a regular??

[AaronWestin]

I'm an escort and am trying to better my client/escort relationships and retain more regulars. I've built up a few fairly good guys that I have formed a sort of friendship with. I prefer to have a person that I see frequently and get to know personally. I feel that it makes the whole experience all the more enjoyable. Is it wrong to try and get to know a client on a pesonal level or do most clients hire simply for the moment?

[+ Axiom2001]

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When I hire an escort-- I'd hope he'd be free from obvious attitude. Thus far I have been indeed fortunate in not having any escort reject me or cop an attitude once we've met. Of all of the men I've met during the past two years, I've seen three of them more than once; I liked our connection and the overall services rendered. They exhibited a human side and a personality to which I could relate.

 

There is one escort in SF whom I see regularly; he's relatively handsome; we have great conversation; he has a very pleasant personality; he has very definitely pleased me sexually, and we correspond via email whenever we've set up the "dates"!

 

Fortunately, for the both of us, I've kept the emotional component from entering into the picture. He, I know, am pleased with this; I know that I am, for I would have gone out of my mind if I'd wanted another type of relationship and knowing that it would be impossible.

 

P.S. If a man likes you in your totality-- he will want to see you again and again and again. There is no true formula as far as I am concerned. I extend the best to you, and maybe one of these days I might just become one of your clients.:-)

[Traveler North]

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I have developed a close relationship with an escort whom I have been seeing regularly for several years. Initially, I was attracted to the awesome sex we had. But I also came to see him as not only physically beautiful but also as a caring, sensitive and level-headed person who really cares about his clients and about people in general. I call him or chat with him online frequently and we set up our meetings well in advance. He is well-educated and has a wide background which makes it easy to converse on a wide range of subjects. I really think the guy is great and want only to see him. I suppose that is being emotionally involved but being with him is a great experience each time.:7

[woodlawn]

One thing I would like to see escorts do is to stop using the word "guaranteed" in their ads. The word "guarantee" usually means a promise to compensate one of the parties to a contract if that party does not receive the full benefit of the bargain. Who compensates your customers if they are not satisfied, and how are they compensated? If that isn't what "guarantee" means when you use it, what does it mean?

[Guest Merlin]

I tend to hire a number of escorts on a recurring basis, and would hire others if they were still escorting. Most I only see when I travel so I see them two or three times a year but year after year. I cannot define what draws me to them other than to say that I like a very good body, smooth with little body hair (usually), and an acceptable personality. A bad attitude would turn me off, but I don't want or expect a pretended close involvment. Some I would consider friends, but others are just fun guys for an hour once in awhile.

[ready182]

I cannot speak for everyone, but for me the illusion (real or not) that the escort is having a good time is key. For example, If I have the perception that the escort would rather be somewhere else; is bored; overly tired; going through the motions; etc. -- then the experience is at best mediocre. On the other hand, when the escort creates the illusion that there is no place he'd rather be - that he is truely enjoying your time together - and that he really would like to see you again -- that, as they say in the commercial, is "priceless".

[guyinsf]

Congratulations on having developed some mutually beneficial relationships with regular clients. It sounds like you have the skills to accomplish what you want. Since you do have some regular clients, I would suggest listening to them in terms of discerning what keeps them coming back to you over and over. (I'm not necessarily suggesting that you directly interview them about this issue, just that you listen for their spontaneous statements as to what they most appreciate about you.)

 

I've seen a few guys more than once. I've been seeing one guy regularly for nearly three years now. The keys to repeat business from me are: attitude, personality, looks, and performance. By "attitude" I mean that there should be none, that the escort should come across as enjoying being with me. By "personality" I am referring to how interesting the guy is apart from sex, and most importantly if he allows himself to be a "real person" with me instead of just a provider of services. Of course I want an escort who looks like his pictures and one who is interactive in bed in the manner discussed in advance. The guy I've hired the most and the longest scores high in all of these categories. I regularly hired one guy for a little over one year mostly because of his looks and sexual performance; while he didn't have attitude, his personality was a little off-putting, and ultimately that's why I stopped hiring him. A couple of other semi-regulars just sort of "faded away" -- like when you start dating someone and end up feeling after several dates that you aren't as interested in him as you hoped you would be.

 

This might set me up for attack, but another thing I look for is a reasonable rate. When I find someone with whom I "click" and he charges a rate I can afford repeatedly, then I'm much more inclined to see him repeatedly. If I'm paying the top-of-the-market rate, then the tug to see someone else instead is stronger.

 

Interestingly I've seen a number of guys whom I thought I would end up hiring more than once because I enjoyed my first "date" with them. There are two reasons why I didn't end up hiring any of these guys a second time. For some of them, it was the escort's inability to maintain the fantasy of an enjoyable time outside of the bedroom: I remember sending an excited 2 or 3 sentence email to one guy whom I particularly enjoyed, indicating I looked forward to hiring him again. His responding email was simply his phone number! What would I have preferred? Something like, "I look forward to seeing you again" or "I'm glad you enjoyed being with me so much. Give me a call when you want" or something that indicated he had actually read what I wrote. The second reason is that while I enjoyed the first appointment, after the escort left I felt unsatisfied. This is largely due to an escort hurrying an appointment along. It can be fun to encounter someone who's extremely passionate, but if the tempo of the appointment results in both of us cumming and then the escort rushing out the door in significantly less than an hour, then I feel cheated. I like both foreplay and "the afterglow." I realize that for an hour-long appointment, I will likely not get much "afterglow." Even five minutes of touching in bed at the end of the appointment makes a difference, though. Someone getting up to clean himself off and then immediately putting his clothes on conveys to me that the guy really wants to leave. If I've just paid $150 to be with someone for an hour and this is happening after 40 minutes, I'm disappointed -- even if I did just receive a lot of sexual pleasure.

[guyinsf]

After posting my other response, I noticed that not only do you live in San Francisco (where I live) but also that there are no reviews of you here. Since you have some satisfied regular clients, ask them if they would be willing to review you here.

[+ glutes]

... I can't even address this one, butt

How 'bout good speling!!!

[Chuck50]

I look for a guy who is honest and fun to be with. Responsive and can hold a conversation. LOves to have sex whatever it might be. Someone who does not have an attitude and can be with most any one. Someone who likes to have fun be it show, dinner, drinks or a romp in the Hay. Did I mention Dave ie SD Dave. HUGS Chuck

 

Caring , loving and someone special!!!

[Boston Guy]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

I don't think it's accurate to say that guaranteed "usually" means what it means in contract law. The word is used colloquially in many contexts and I would assert that most people use it informally and understand it in the same way.

 

It would be nice, I suppose, if it meant a money-back guarantee. But I've read his closing statement instead to mean "I promise you'll be satisfied"... meaning he's (a) asserting confidently that his customers will be satisfied and (b) stating that he's going to undertake to make certain that they are.

 

Both of these separate uses of "guaranteed" are legit and well within any dictionary definition (see below).

 

BG

 

 

tr.v. guar·an·teed, guar·an·tee·ing, guar·an·tees

* To assume responsibility for the debt, default, or miscarriage of.

* To assume responsibility for the quality or performance of: guarantee a product.

* To undertake to do, accomplish, or ensure (something) for another: guaranteed to free the captives; guarantees freedom of speech.

* To make certain: The rain guarantees a good crop this year.

* To furnish security for.

*To express or declare with conviction: I guarantee that you'll like this book.

[Rick Munroe]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

>* To assume responsibility for the quality or performance of:

>guarantee a product.

 

As in..."I guarantee that I give the best fucking head on the planet" (no, I'm not gonna say, "or your load back").

[Boston Guy]

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1. Honesty. I don't want to know everything about an escort that I've hired and I don't want to pry into his life and I don't want to share all of the details of my life with him. Boundaries are fine. But if you tell me things, be honest.

 

2. Friendliness. I recently asked a clerk in a small store in Boston if she was always so unfriendly. She looked at me in surprise and said "I haven't done anything to you!" I agreed and said "But you've been surly ever since I walked in to buy the newspaper." She said she was supposed to have left 30 minutes prior and was waiting for her replacement. I replied that it didn't matter -- while she was representing her employer to the public, she had a responsibility to be friendly and polite. The next time I went in, she was very friendly (even though she was probably thinking "here comes that SOB"). When you're working -- which is anytime at all that you're with a paying client -- you have a responsibility to grin and bear it, be friendly, be enthusiastic, the whole nine yards. Sometimes it's hard. That's why they call it work. Welcome to life.

 

3. Being sexy in appropriate situations. Learn how to act in different social situations. If you don't already know, by all means ask the client for advice -- honesty counts! -- or emulate what he does.

 

4. Being fun. Sometimes that means being spontaneous. Sometimes it just means enjoying the other person's companionship.

 

5. The ability to listen well -- not just to the client but also to others with whom you and your client may come into contact while together. When was the last time you heard someone complimented for being a good talker?

 

6. A sense of proportion. A client may hire you to have fun with and may well pay a generous fee. That doesn't mean he should suddenly want to start buying you gold watches and other expensive presents.

 

7. A sense of tact.

 

8. The ability to be sexy and fun in bed and even romantic without going over the deep end. It should be possible to have lots of fun and then part without either party misunderstanding the emotional context.

 

9. A sense of generosity. I've had escorts do all sort of little things for me, including at times when I was on the other side of the country. Often a small but thoughtful gesture goes a long way toward saying "I see you as a real person and not just as an ATM and I'm glad that you are in my life." That's important. The relationship must somehow be mutual or it will not last.

 

10. Professionalism. For God's sake, show up on time and don't leave early. Give more than you bargained for -- it's the old "under-promise and over-deliver" idea. If you're going to be late or -- God forbid -- miss an appointment, communicate that to your client at the earliest possible moment. Be generous and flexible in arranging a makeup.

 

11. Discretion. No one wants their life's details to be spread to other people. This is a big one and it's very important. Loose lips sink relationships of all kinds.

 

12. Cleanliness. It's so fundamental that it almost -- almost -- goes without saying.

 

 

That's all that occurs to me right now.

 

If you take all that and put it together, you get a fun, sexy guy who's got his head on straight, respects and likes his clients and shows it and conducts his business in a professional manner.

 

BG

[Boston Guy]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

Yes, you've got it exactly.

 

BG

[woodlawn]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

>I don't think it's accurate to say that guaranteed "usually"

>means what it means in contract law. The word is used

>colloquially in many contexts and I would assert that most

>people use it informally and understand it in the same way.

 

But Aaron, or Mark, or whatever his name is this week, is not using the word informally. He is not recommending a book to a friend. He is using the word to advertise a service that he provides to customers in return for money. And in a business context, "guarantee" always means a promise that a party who does not get the benefit of a bargain he made will be compensated in some way.

 

>(b) stating that he's going to undertake to make certain that

>they are.

 

And how is he going to do that? If they're not satisfied, what is he going to do? If the answer is "nothing," then his use of the word is extremely misleading.

 

>Both of these separate uses of "guaranteed" are legit and well

>within any dictionary definition (see below).

 

I did see below. And I see that of all the definitions you list, only the very last one, which is used in informal rather than in business situations like the one we're discussing, does not track what I said.

 

>tr.v. guar·an·teed, guar·an·tee·ing, guar·an·tees

>* To assume responsibility for the debt, default, or

>miscarriage of.

>* To assume responsibility for the quality or performance of:

>guarantee a product.

>* To undertake to do, accomplish, or ensure (something) for

>another: guaranteed to free the captives; guarantees freedom

>of speech.

>* To make certain: The rain guarantees a good crop this year.

>

>* To furnish security for.

>*To express or declare with conviction: I guarantee that

>you'll like this book.

[Guest Joseph]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

Truly enjoyed our short meeting in San Francisco. Sorry we have not yet had the opportunity to spend time together and hope soon we will be able to cross paths. Guess what I look for is prior agreement on expectations and then delivery. Both parties should be up front with what they expect from the other.

Also, Evan though it is an exchange situation, friendships can develop and that is nice, especially if traveling together. Have had some very good experiences with escorts that I have seen regularly.

Best wishes,

Joseph

[bluenix]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

>He is using the word to advertise a service that he

>provides to customers in return for money.

 

A few years back I did business with a youthful vendor of Web services. After reading his company's contract I pointed out a particular clause stating exactly the opposite of one of the things he'd promised. His enthusiastic response: "Oh, that language is just to keep our lawyers happy; but our business promise is just as I explained."

 

Cracked me up.

[woodlawn]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

>>He is using the word to advertise a service that he

>>provides to customers in return for money.

 

>A few years back I did business with a youthful vendor of Web

>services. After reading his company's contract I pointed out a

>particular clause stating exactly the opposite of one of the

>things he'd promised. His enthusiastic response: "Oh, that

>language is just to keep our lawyers happy; but our

>business promise is just as I explained."

>

>Cracked me up.

 

That sort of thing is not uncommon. But with Aaron we have the reverse situation. Instead of promising something that is contradicted by the legal language in a contract, he's using legal language to imply a promise he's not really making.

[Flower]

RE: What qualities do you look for in an escort?? What ...

 

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]Well, for starters, how do we get ahold of you? A web page would be nice but short of that, some pics and email and phone # :+

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Mainly, I Check To See IF Their Balls Have Dropped

 

But I know that puts me in the distinct minority in this crowd, so definitely do not go by me....