Declining After Face Pic

[nomad]

On 7/15/2026 at 8:16 PM, ShortCutie7 said:

Here’s the thing: the face is VERY important to me, but I can tell 99% of the time if I’ll find a man’s face handsome without a full/clear pic. Usually seeing enough of a chin, a side profile, a blurred pic, a masked pic, etc is enough to get a good gauge.

What if the face is great, but the rest isn't as you thought it was from the ad?  Go or no go?

[ShortCutie7]

3 hours ago, nomad said:

What if the face is great, but the rest isn't as you thought it was from the ad?  Go or no go?

I’ve never had a provider not look like I’d expect, but I guess it would come down to whether his body looked nothing like his pics or if he was just in slightly not as great shape. I’ve encountered providers whose bodies didn’t feel as hard as they looked, but that’s not quite the same thing.

[nomad]

@ShortCutie7  Could be the six-pack is now a slight beer gut instead?  Or the hair is not thinned out instead of being full?  Man tits instead of clear pecs?  Where's the line?

[ShortCutie7]

18 minutes ago, nomad said:

@ShortCutie7  Could be the six-pack is now a slight beer gut instead?  Or the hair is not thinned out instead of being full?  Man tits instead of clear pecs?  Where's the line?

I don’t think there would necessarily be the same line for every guy- that’s where facial handsomeness would be the deciding factor! That said, it’s rare that I would find a man’s face really handsome if he’s not at least in decent physical shape… usually if a man has excess body fat he has it in the face too.

[Petris Sage]

I don't ask for a face pic when I'm looking for a masseur for the same reason I don't ask or provide one as a masseur or when I'm cruising on Sniffies or Bateworld, etc.  

With a masseur, I'm interested in his skill.  As I've been getting erotic massages in Japan, I have come to appreciate the body photos that are provided by the masseur, but that's not as important as his hands.  I like the skin on skin body contact that I receive with other men.  I'm also attracted to a pretty face, but it's not what I want or need when I'm looking to hire a masseur or connect with someone for sex. 

I don't provide mine or ask for pics because you never know what will happen to the picture afterwards. When I'm cruising on Sniffies or BW and I've made a connection with another man and we want to meet for sex, I'm tough enough to take it if he says he's no longer interested in having sex when we meet.  I appreciate his honesty.  The same is true when I'm not attracted to the man I'm meeting in person for the first time.  To be honest this has only happened once to me and once when I had to let the man down.   

I'm not looking for a relationship that lasts a long time.  I'm looking for pleasant physical touching and intimate acts that I can enjoy with another man.  I don't usually kiss, but if we're both attracted to each other, I do enjoy kissing.  Otherwise massage and masturbation are satisfying for one-time encounters.  Those, for me, don't require face pics.