Poor Ethics

[Keen_Atl_Native]

As part of individualization according to Yung, I plan to keep my integrity and never compromise nor filter my tongue. A masseur and I worked a circuit party way back in the mid 90s. We became friends and a client of his for massage and training. So, since then until 2023 you can imagine all the massages and training I received. I almost always paid in advance for the upcoming session. Who would not want that? A regular paying customer monthly if not twice a month. One week, he said he could no longer have me as a client and referred me to someone else. Say what?? Over 20 years as a customer and a friend who knows each others family to “fire” was a rejection baffling me still today. No reason just a forceful goodbye. I’m still have confusion thinking through every call and conversation to find that thing that cause this. To take it another level, my husband secretly saw him as a client in the last 12 months and neither told me nor thought it an issue. Anyone else identify something here with Kevin or maybe it is in fact me that’s the problem as to he rejected by both. 

[+ FrankR]

2 hours ago, Keen_Atl_Native said:

As part of individualization according to Yung, I plan to keep my integrity and never compromise nor filter my tongue. A masseur and I worked a circuit party way back in the mid 90s. We became friends and a client of his for massage and training. So, since then until 2023 you can imagine all the massages and training I received. I almost always paid in advance for the upcoming session. Who would not want that? A regular paying customer monthly if not twice a month. One week, he said he could no longer have me as a client and referred me to someone else. Say what?? Over 20 years as a customer and a friend who knows each others family to “fire” was a rejection baffling me still today. No reason just a forceful goodbye. I’m still have confusion thinking through every call and conversation to find that thing that cause this. To take it another level, my husband secretly saw him as a client in the last 12 months and neither told me nor thought it an issue. Anyone else identify something here with Kevin or maybe it is in fact me that’s the problem as to he rejected by both. 

Who is Kevin?  Looks like a copy/paste from elsewhere… 

[maninsoma]

I'm confused by this post.  First of all, Jung wrote about individuation, not individualization.  Broadly speaking, it's about integrating one's unconscious and conscious selves so I'm not sure how it has anything to do with expressing hurt about a masseur firing a long-term client.

I also don't know who Kevin is.

[+ azdr0710]

[+ PhileasFogg]

Taking everything at face value without consideration of Yung “ation’s” vs “ization’s”, it sounds like some inherent conflict emerged in the secret engagements with your husband.   Either that or there was something about the compensation or schedule that was holding him back from something else.

Is there something else you’ve not shared that we might find relevant?

Edited Saturday at 09:19 AM by PhileasFogg