Getting ghosted by a regular.

[viewing ownly]

I make a point of seeing my favorite masseur when he annually travels across the country near me and have been doing so for the last four years, and what I was hoping would be "and counting". 

This year, I reach out both on his ad with a private massage, as well as send a text a couple of days later. He read at least one of my messages and didn't respond to either one. Last year wasn't nearly as good as the two prior years, and perhaps that was due to his decreased interest in me, which now has turned into no interest at all. 

At least with a different masseur I wanted to see last Summer, I got a lame excuse. Since I'd seen this guy just once, I can be fine with that, but for someone who has seen me annually, it stings. In the last year, I've lost a lot of hair upstairs, don't get as hard, and gained unsightly weight, so perhaps these are signs that my time with others needs to cease.  😟

[+ FrankR]

The first step in solving a problem, is recognizing there is one. 

You appear to be defining your self worth by how others interact with you.  Have you considered making this a year of self care? 

Providers have their own lives and drama - his lack of response may have nothing to do with you. 
 

Move on to bigger and better things.
 

 

[+ Jamie21]

Could be lots of reasons he’s not replied, I’d be wary to assume it’s because you’re less attractive than previously. I think it’s bad of him not to reply to you even with an excuse if he doesn’t want your custom. Unless he’s forgotten it’s really no excuse for not sending a ‘sorry I’m fully booked’ message or something. If this is genuinely how he behaves towards someone who has been a good client is he really worth seeing again? It’s your opportunity to find a new guy who will value your business and you. 

[+ PhileasFogg]

5 hours ago, viewing ownly said:

 In the last year, I've lost a lot of hair upstairs, don't get as hard, and gained unsightly weight, so perhaps these are signs that my time with others needs to cease.  

I’m confident he (and any of the providers here) have seen much worse.   I suspect that people don’t see us as often through the negative attributes we self identify as we think they do.   Please stop focusing on those things.  As @FrankRsuggests, self care and consistent exercise will create sexy confidence regardless of the amount of hair on your head and it even helps with the ED.  

[Nightowl]

His silence could be any number of things. Health issues, a death in the family, or something else serious might have forced him to put focusing on massage clients and related correspondence on the back burner.  If the hair loss, weight gain, and reduced hardness happened in the last year, he probably wouldn’t yet be aware of them anyway, would he?  You could always reach out again just to ask him if everything’s okay, without trying to set anything up.  If he ignores you, all you can do is move on and find someone else.