Any advice?

[VIdeo]

I recently met an escort who had only one review in 2023, but it was someone who had a credible history of reviews. The escort’s most recent pics from 2024 were just face pics all the body ones were from 2023. He’s in another country also so I understand they don’t always have many reviews. So when he showed up the face matched up but the body definitely didn’t. He pretty much let himself go and had a huge belly. I was turned off but since he was already here I went through the motions. I just thought to myself my who am I to body shame someone, it’s not like I have a nice body either. I’ve been with escorts who seem repulsed by my touch so why would I want to make someone feel bad. He tired to please me in the bedroom and I tired to be into it as much as I can. We finished and I paid him. It was my own fault not checking if the pics were current or inquiring more. What would you do if you were in my shoes? Would you go through with it or just turn him away? Any experience is a learning lesson so I guess any feedback from anyone in a similar situation before would help. 

[+ Pensant]

8 hours ago, VIdeo said:

just thought to myself my who am I to body shame someone, it’s not like I have a nice body either

Well, that’s why you hire. I’m sorry you were deceived. I would’ve paid him half his fee and sent him on his way.

[maninsoma]

6 minutes ago, Pensant said:

Well, that’s why you hire. I’m sorry you were deceived. I would’ve paid him half his fee and sent him on his way.

I would have sent him on his way but without his fee, assuming the "huge belly" description is accurate.  I certainly went through with appointments when men were a bit more out of shape than their photos indicated, but if someone is definitely a lot less fit than their ad indicates I basically view them as fraudsters.  I'm not going to reward someone with half of his fee (which today would likely be a couple of hundred dollars) for just showing up.  At any rate, I typically preferred going to the provider's place so it made it even easier to just walk away and not hear an argument about how they spent time and money getting to me.

[Thelatin]

I’ve had that happen a few times.  Now I’m careful to check more carefully.  It helps if you can see them on other social media platforms.

 

[+ Pensant]

11 minutes ago, maninsoma said:

I would have sent him on his way but without his fee

Probably the best route. I guess I’m a bit of a soft touch; yet this has only happened to me once out of countless sessions, fortunately.

[maninsoma]

1 hour ago, Pensant said:

Probably the best route. I guess I’m a bit of a soft touch; yet this has only happened to me once out of countless sessions, fortunately.

Yes, I should have added that I rarely had to walk away because a guy was so far different from either his description or photos.  I definitely remember one guy, though, who was clearly obese and older than me when he opened his door despite having photos showing a younger athletic man.  I told him that I was leaving because he didn't look at all like his photos and he started arguing with me as I walked down his steps.  I turned around and told him that I was the one who should be angry since he wasted my time.   There have been maybe only one or two other times where I walked away.

[pubic_assistance]

3 hours ago, Pensant said:

12 hours ago, VIdeo said:

just thought to myself my who am I to body shame someone, it’s not like I have a nice body either

Well, that’s why you hire.

I don't think it's "body shaming" when you hire someone because you find them attractive.

Same way, if I order anything online that doesn't look like the photo, I send it back.

Doesn't matter what YOU look like...it's not Grindr. You're paying someone to ignore your belly...not to ignore HIS !

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[VIdeo]

Thanks for all the different perspectives. It’ll help me navigate these types of situations better in the future. 

[Thique]

I recently had a similar experience. The provider was out of shape and body did not look like the pics at all.

As a bottom, it makes it harder to just walk away…. especially if you have not eaten all day + douched. I went ahead, however the next problem was that he was not getting completely hard. The worst is a top trying to shove it in and fuck you with a semi hard dick.

Anyway, I ended the session at that point. Asked what was the rate, he gave me price for full rate. I paid and left. Did not have the energy to discuss or debate - but I certainly won’t be seeing this provider again.