How to know the "signs" that the masseur will provide extras

[Guest]

Hey there.

i get that if i book with rentmasseur or masseurfinder, it will show if they provide erotic/sensual.

but I've had a couple massages at other places I either found through recommendations or just store fronts, where I felt like there was some sexual tension and maybe some signals that the guy wanted to touch me or have me touch him. But I couldn't tell for sure if I was reading the signs right, so I didn't do anything, for fear that I was wrong and didn't want to cause a scene if I tried something.

So, what are the signs in a massage that the masseur wants to do something more? And what signs can I give?

[Nightowl]

1 hour ago, JD-Angel said:

Hey there.

i get that if i book with rentmasseur or masseurfinder, it will show if they provide erotic/sensual.

but I've had a couple massages at other places I either found through recommendations or just store fronts, where I felt like there was some sexual tension and maybe some signals that the guy wanted to touch me or have me touch him. But I couldn't tell for sure if I was reading the signs right, so I didn't do anything, for fear that I was wrong and didn't want to cause a scene if I tried something.

So, what are the signs in a massage that the masseur wants to do something more? And what signs can I give?

We all suffer from that same dilemma with a new masseur.  The first sign that something more could happen might be if you discover his hard cock right next to your hand on the table or if he maneuvers it into your hand.  Better yet if you discover his cock near your mouth.  If he was clothed when the massage started but is eventually naked, another sign.  Signs that you are up for more will probably be dictated by your body.  If he touches the right places you’ll get a hard-on, which he will notice.  If you’re lying on your stomach and he’s massaging your inner thighs, raising your hips to give him access to your cock also signals openness to extras.  Even with all of this, there’s no guarantee he will be as open to extras as you are since he may have four massages scheduled that day.  I once tried the direct approach once I was naked on the table: I asked him what the rules were.  He said “there are no rules.” Music to my ears.

[56harrisond]

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[Guest]

2 hours ago, 56harrisond said:

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Thanks! i Hadn't seen these other threads before. Good info

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 12/20/2024 at 6:27 PM, Cdog123 said:

I feel like my masseur gives me signs he is willing to provide extras: he lets his elbow go between my cheeks, brushes across the tip of my dick; now, I was wondering how I could ask him for further services. I worry that it could end badly and he may refuse to massage me in the future. 

When a massuer sticks his finger in my ass, at that point I believe the odds are in my favor to ask for more.  So, I promptly let him know that he his welcome to insert more.

Edited January 21, 2025 by Vegas_Millennial

[Guest]

1 hour ago, Simon Suraci said:

 

Masseurs willing to do more on the sensual and erotic spectrum will clearly get the message and indulge you. Those who won’t will refrain, but it’s pretty hard to misinterpret all these signs.

When your masseur is not responding in any way to your cues, it means he is not going there. Let it go and move on. Enjoy the massage for what it is.

This was crazy helpful. If I book on rentmasseur or masseurfinder, I always make sure ahead of time that they do erotic/sensual. But your explanation is very helpful for the times when I've booked through other organizations, like MassageBook, and I have a HUNCH that the guy might be willing, but I don't know for sure, so I have to figure it out during the appointment!

[jmichaeliii]

When meeting a new provider, I think it is so great to not know the possibilities ahead of time.  You can kind of figure some things out from pictures and how a profile is written.  

I never ask ahead of time, but if I think there is a possibility, maybe its a gentle touch when they are in front of you or how you react to something they did to you.  

For me, I really like the surprise and where things go.  My favorite is when the masseur asks me if anything is off limits before they start.  Then you know a good time is gonna happen!

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On 12/20/2024 at 3:27 PM, Cdog123 said:

I feel like my masseur gives me signs he is willing to provide extras: he lets his elbow go between my cheeks, brushes across the tip of my dick; now, I was wondering how I could ask him for further services

As he's performing those moves, you can acknowledge it feels good.

[TonyDown]

On 3/12/2026 at 6:49 PM, Vegas_Millennial said:

As he's performing those moves, you can acknowledge it feels good.

Consent is an important part of it right?  A little dialogue can help.

"I love that" or

"Oh that feels good"

both seem clear enough for whatever he might be up to.

Might it also be helpful to simultaneously part your thighs a bit when he lightly grazes your inner thighs and lets his fingers touch down there?

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How to know the "signs" that the masseur will provide extras