Blocked without even contacting the provider

[ayk000]

Three providers of the ones I have viewed on RM have blocked me. I've done nothing more than view their profile...but then when I returned to their profile, I am blocked. Do providers on RM become annoyed by potential clients who view their profile but who don't reach out immediately?

[The Dude]

Go to your RM privacy settings and toggle on "Do Not Track Me." Providers won't be able to see if you've visited their profile.

[afterfallhours1]

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On 12/16/2024 at 7:34 PM, The Dude said:

Go to your RM privacy settings and toggle on "Do Not Track Me." Providers won't be able to see if you've visited their profile.

Make another profile, do the step above, and to the ones who blocked you, make arrangements to meet but when it's time to meet don't show up. Ghost and block em

[Vin Marco]

56 minutes ago, afterfallhours1 said:

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Make another profile, do the step above, and to the ones who blocked you, make arrangements to meet but when it's time to meet don't show up. Ghost and block em

That's just playing more games... a no show....  that's a justification for being added to Mr. Number and another reason  for working guys to tell their working friend pals to also ignore and never respond to those that no show...  

Over the years I've had people I've never met before  cancel on me ... I make a note, generally if it's within 12-24 hours before we were set to meet they generally don't hear from me again unless they offer to make it right at which point I make  a discretionary call about taking cancellation money; more often than not I don't take it and tell them just the fact that they offered tells me they are someone I'd still be interested in connecting with. 
If you can believe  it or not, in all my years, I've never knocked on a door and had someone not be there nor have I ever had  no-show.  If I did, they would be blocked and they would never hear from me again. It sounds harsh, but in the long run, it reduces the wasting of time, energy and  the playing of games.  I don't get many cancellations or flakes because I've sifted and filtered out a lot of the folks who don't value my time or those of my fellow men of the night.  

Edited December 20, 2024 by Vin Marco

[Vin Marco]

On 12/16/2024 at 6:25 PM, ayk000 said:

Three providers of the ones I have viewed on RM have blocked me. I've done nothing more than view their profile...but then when I returned to their profile, I am blocked. Do providers on RM become annoyed by potential clients who view their profile but who don't reach out immediately?

And by the way, I'm sorry that happened to you. Sometimes you're dealing with people who are volatile and or maladjusted ... I always say there are many people in the business that have no business in the business.... 

[+ ApexNomad]

58 minutes ago, afterfallhours1 said:

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Make another profile, do the step above, and to the ones who blocked you, make arrangements to meet but when it's time to meet don't show up. Ghost and block em

It’s better to take the high road. There’s no need to keep the cycle going. Focus on what brings you peace instead.

[+ JamesB]

1 hour ago, afterfallhours1 said:

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Make another profile, do the step above, and to the ones who blocked you, make arrangements to meet but when it's time to meet don't show up. Ghost and block em

 

Responding to childish and unprofessional behavior in the same way achieves nothing except lowering yourself to the same level of immaturity.

[SirBillybob]

On 12/17/2024 at 1:25 AM, ayk000 said:

Three providers of the ones I have viewed on RM have blocked me. I've done nothing more than view their profile...but then when I returned to their profile, I am blocked. Do providers on RM become annoyed by potential clients who view their profile but who don't reach out immediately?

Not sure what happened. You viewed them without having toggled the ‘do not track my views’ option but you returned to simply view the profile? Or you ascertained you were blocked because you attempted to message them through the platform? Surely you can still check out the profile. “When I returned to their profile” means …? You wrote “without even contacting the provider”. Do you mean that you attempted to contact and they had preempted? 

Whichever way you discovered whatever impediment to the ad occurred I cannot think of anything in it for the advertiser and it implies he’s a just chip off the old block. Doesn’t he still have a list of blockees to manage? That could be a longer list stuck in his dashboard than the breadth of messages subsequently initiated by previous viewers that he may need to sift through, ignore, respond to, or delete. In which case he’s not making his work life particularly easier. Surely the quantity of viewers vastly exceeds messengers. 

Edited December 20, 2024 by SirBillybob

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

15 hours ago, afterfallhours1 said:

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Make another profile, do the step above, and to the ones who blocked you, make arrangements to meet but when it's time to meet don't show up. Ghost and block em

This is a classic dumb as fuck move.

If your fledgling ego is so small that you'd need to pull this, the problem is you, not them.

Edited December 20, 2024 by BenjaminNicholas

[+ DrownedBoy]

Providers get stood up enough. Nothing new to them.

If a provider acts suspicious , report their actions here at CoM.

Edited December 20, 2024 by DrownedBoy

[+ keroscenefire]

I've had this happen a few times. I often look at several guys in a new city right before a trip. If some see that I looked and then reach out, that's often a great way to start the conversation and get things rolling when I arrive.

Last time I went to San Diego, a guy reached out after I looked at the profile. Then messages me. Then about 30 minutes later said "F you. I don't deal with cheap a-holes anyway." Then blocked me. This all happpened while I was on the flight and had no access to internet or Rent.men.

Sometimes its really a blessing when they block on their side because they self-select out the ones that are clearly strange, unprofessional and irrational. Better to deal the professionals.

Edited December 20, 2024 by keroscenefire

[d.anders]

On 12/16/2024 at 7:25 PM, ayk000 said:

Three providers of the ones I have viewed on RM have blocked me. I've done nothing more than view their profile

Wow, that seems extreme. I might question the software, and contact RM. When I was a Premium Member, I went back and forth on every NYC ad. I was doing research, so I can only imagine what the providers were thinking. The only a-hole who attacked me for not booking was Michael the Russian, and that was without ever emailing him. We had no contact whatsoever. I think he went by MeltInMyHands. His a-hole behavior was notorious. Several threads here. I wrote RM and complained. I sent them the threatening emails this a-hole sent me. I believe he got kicked off RM.

The NYC market seems more professional, even among the HE group who have had no training at all. I can only imagine what RM is like for others. Scary.

16 hours ago, Vin Marco said:

Over the years I've had people I've never met before  cancel on me ... I make a note

Cancellations happen. They are a fact of life. Yes, some a-holes will abuse, but it's never considered professional to assume all customers who have to cancel are a-holes. I had to tell a recent first-time masseur that my body sometimes rejects the medication I take. I usually know in the early morning, and I typically book massage for later in the day. He told me he would not accept a last minute cancellation, so I did not book with him. What was I supposed to do? Would he have treated me better if I had a full blown accident on his table? Sometimes, with certain people, you can't succeed. Much better to simply move on, and give your money to someone more worthy.

Edited December 20, 2024 by d.anders