How would you guys handle this

[LookingAround]

I’m a gay guy in my 60’s—somewhat straight acting but 100% gay. Decided to go to HK Spa for a massage last week—my first time at that spa but not new to these type of spas. Made an appointment with a guy discussed here on the board who people recommended. 

The massage (60 minutes—only availability during my availability) was good but not too sensual. He got close to me in the beginning and I touched his thigh via his athletic wear. He avoided massaging my thighs so it wasn’t too sensual. I never got an erection. Toward the end he aimed the massage oil and squirted it toward my cock, balls and pubes but maybe because I never got hard never touched me there. Ended the massage with nothing sensual. It was the oddest thing. Did he expect me to begin to jerk myself off? I should add that in a massage when I am relaxed, I often don’t get hard unless a guy starts handling my cock. In the spa thread others have said he gave them a HE and a very sensual massage. 
Thoughts on this and what I might have done differently to have made it more sensual ending in a HE?

Thanks!

Edited May 28, 2024 by LookingAround

[LookingAround]

I wasn’t suggesting touching my cock until he sprayed oil all over my cock, balls and pubes. Wouldn’t his action be harassment? Haha (Of course I liked it and was hoping that was a sign the fun was about to begin  then nothing).  

OTOH, how does one bring up happy ending with a masseur in a spa such as HK Men’s Spa? I would find it a bit awkward but maybe I’m being too bashful about it. 

Edited May 28, 2024 by LookingAround

[Redwine56]

4 hours ago, LookingAround said:

I wasn’t suggesting touching my cock until he sprayed oil all over my cock, balls and pubes. Wouldn’t his action be harassment? Haha (Of course I liked it and was hoping that was a sign the fun was about to begin  then nothing).  

OTOH, how does one bring up happy ending with a masseur in a spa such as HK Men’s Spa? I would find it a bit awkward but maybe I’m being too bashful about it. 

I'm in your age category so can relate.  Once he squirted the oil all over the family jewels, I would have expected some caressing and massage on those parts.  When he didn't go there, I would have said something for sure.  It did seem as if he wanted you to take the lead by either letting him know to proceed or put his hand there.  I had a similar experience with a private masseur one time.  I had been to him a couple of times previously so knew what to expect.  After turning over,  he briefly massaged the front and then said "we're done"!  So I got up, proceeded to get dressed and when I was paying him, I expressed my disappointment without the happy ending.  His response was "you weren't hard this time so thought you were not interested".  Couldn't he have asked me?  Needless to say, that did it for me and I've never returned.  

[hopeman]

Also in my 60s nad feel pretty blessed to have found a great guy on rentmasseur. I'm in San Francisco so DM me if you'd like the recommendation. It was kind of a no brainer for me as he advertised "Erotic" services. After an incredibly relaxing 90-minute massage, he finished with a lovely HE. The part I enjoy the best is when I'm face up and he allows me to wander all over his legs and ass. 

[+ Vegas_Millennial]

On 5/28/2024 at 5:16 AM, LookingAround said:

Wouldn’t his action be harassment?

Joking aside, the #MeToo movement really put a damper on sensual foreplay.  I would not be surprised if the massuer was waiting for you to start masturbating, if only to avoid legal charges that he touched you inappropriately without your consent.

[LookingAround]

36 minutes ago, Vegas_Millennial said:

Joking aside, the #MeToo movement really put a damper on sensual foreplay.  I would not be surprised if the massuer was waiting for you to start masturbating, if only to avoid legal charges that he touched you inappropriately without your consent.

I thought about this later. I guess I should have begun stroking my cock at that point. 

[hopeman]

Live and Learn. I hope you go back and give him a Second Chance. 🙂

[LookingAround]

50 minutes ago, hopeman said:

Live and Learn. I hope you go back and give him a Second Chance. 🙂

I’m debating. I guess I’ll have to send a lot clearer signals this time. 

[starman05]

live and learn; my pals are always trying to tell me not to read into things too much; easier advice to give than to hear, let alone follow

 

I wouldn't call it harassment what he did but more like teasing. 

I hardly ever expect extras at a spa --- too many people around. 

sometimes I take care of all that in advance if I go to a spa, which isn't often, just so there are zero expectations.