Big boy Joey

[Anthony]

On 11/12/2024 at 7:29 PM, Walt said:

After.

If a provider asks for payment up front [except for travel expenses, which is totally reasonable request]  there is always a good chance it's a con or scam. Some guys on CoM with deep pockets and no budget for their hobby  think it's OK to pay up front.

 

What if they ask for payment first thing at the meeting? 

[Anthony]

On 11/12/2024 at 6:38 PM, marylander1940 said:

It's been talked about it on here tirelessly. 

Like I said I'm a novice so I don't have the decades of experience you have sir 

[marylander1940]

8 minutes ago, Anthony said:

What if they ask for payment first thing at the meeting? 

Walk away...

 

Edited November 20, 2024 by marylander1940

[Walt]

 

44 minutes ago, Anthony said:

What if they ask for payment first thing at the meeting? 

 

36 minutes ago, marylander1940 said:

Walk away...

 

I agree with @marylander1940  

It may feel a little awkward in the moment -- but in retrospect, it will feel empowering (and much better than probably getting scammed.)

[Anthony]

54 minutes ago, Walt said:

 

 

 

I agree with @marylander1940  

It may feel a little awkward in the moment -- but in retrospect, it will feel empowering (and much better than probably getting scammed.)

How will it be a scam if I'm already meeting them in person when they ask for $$$ upfront 

[Walt]

13 minutes ago, Anthony said:

How will it be a scam if I'm already meeting them in person when they ask for $$$ upfront 

Non-performance or a very, very, very short session which they spend most of the time on the phone or his spending most of the hour alone in the bathroom or.......

keep in  mind there are members here at CoM who disagree with not paying up front and it's been mentioned in a million other posts, but I can only advise from my personal experience.

 

[JTtorretto]

On 11/11/2024 at 6:32 PM, NYXboy said:

This doesn't read well for you.  It sounds very bitter Betty of you. 

What a bizarre and off the mark comment.   LMFAO
 

I gave him credit for being one of the original influencer type personas (before the name “Influencer” even existed) = thats an awesome compliment Id think that he’d appreciate.   
 

Never ever have I had any interest whatsoever in becoming an “influencer” myself.   I dont allow myself to be filmed, I dont “collaborate” and when I get requests to “film together”, lol, I think its funny but also flattering.  
Its hysterical that you assumed I was bitter hes gained notoriety as an influencer as if thats the goal of most escorts; you couldnt be more incorrect.  Some of us desire complete privacy, myself included.

[+ azdr0710]

5 hours ago, Anthony said:

Like I said I'm a novice so I don't have the decades of experience you have sir 

When meeting somebody new, I mention in PRE-MEET communication that I'm honest, but will pay at the end of the meet. And I ask him to ok this. They might want a peek at the cash in an envelope at the beginning, but it needs to be kept in your control. Yes, providers are burned by clients regularly, but too many horror stories from pre-payment. 

[NYlove]

22 minutes ago, azdr0710 said:

When meeting somebody new, I mention in PRE-MEET communication that I'm honest, but will pay at the end of the meet. And I ask him to ok this. They might want a peek at the cash in an envelope at the beginning, but it needs to be kept in your control. Yes, providers are burned by clients regularly, but too many horror stories from pre-payment. 

Agreed. If it's a new provider that I'd like to meet im setting those expectations in advance. I pay after. And if it's good I'm going back. That simple 

[NYXboy]

14 hours ago, JTtorretto said:

What a bizarre and off the mark comment.   LMFAO
 

I gave him credit for being one of the original influencer type personas (before the name “Influencer” even existed) = thats an awesome compliment Id think that he’d appreciate.   
 

Never ever have I had any interest whatsoever in becoming an “influencer” myself.   I dont allow myself to be filmed, I dont “collaborate” and when I get requests to “film together”, lol, I think its funny but also flattering.  
Its hysterical that you assumed I was bitter hes gained notoriety as an influencer as if thats the goal of most escorts; you couldnt be more incorrect.  Some of us desire complete privacy, myself included.

No: let me be more clear.  I think you taking credit for his success is very bitter and honestly - I am being kind when I say your post doesn't flatter you.    

[Anthony]

On 11/20/2024 at 11:04 PM, azdr0710 said:

When meeting somebody new, I mention in PRE-MEET communication that I'm honest, but will pay at the end of the meet. And I ask him to ok this. They might want a peek at the cash in an envelope at the beginning, but it needs to be kept in your control. Yes, providers are burned by clients regularly, but too many horror stories from pre-payment. 

Do you give the $$$ in an envelope? Is that the proper etiquette?  So if they want to "peek at the cash" first, do you give them the money to have a look and then take it back from them until the end or set it aside? This is pretty important so I want specifics please 

[JTtorretto]

14 hours ago, NYXboy said:

No: let me be more clear.  I think you taking credit for his success is very bitter and honestly - I am being kind when I say your post doesn't flatter you.    

I dont take any credit for his success.  Zero.   He was already on “early influencer path” prior to meeting me.   Rather I indicated he was impressed by my lifestyle and thus maybe it helped motivate him.  

how you can take this and turn it around to say that I’m bitter is bizarre and delusional.  Especially since you don’t know him or I.   It’s like you created “fantasy soap opera” in your little head.  
 

 

[+ ApexNomad]

28 minutes ago, Anthony said:

Do you give the $$$ in an envelope? Is that the proper etiquette?  So if they want to "peek at the cash" first, do you give them the money to have a look and then take it back from them until the end or set it aside? This is pretty important so I want specifics please 

I always give money in an unsealed envelope, especially with first-time providers. I leave it on a desk where they can see it as soon as they walk in. They’ve never counted it in front of me, and I avoid handing it to them directly (only with first-time providers). They know it’s there and will take it when appropriate. Personally, handing someone the money to inspect and then taking it back until they fulfill their end of the agreement feels awkward and unprofessional. It’s better to establish trust and respect from the beginning by keeping the process smooth and discreet.

[Anthony]

14 hours ago, ApexNomad said:

I always give money in an unsealed envelope, especially with first-time providers. I leave it on a desk where they can see it as soon as they walk in. They’ve never counted it in front of me, and I avoid handing it to them directly (only with first-time providers). They know it’s there and will take it when appropriate. Personally, handing someone the money to inspect and then taking it back until they fulfill their end of the agreement feels awkward and unprofessional. It’s better to establish trust and respect from the beginning by keeping the process smooth and discreet.

I've thought about that. Do you let them know the $$$ is on the table? If so how? I don't want the $$$ to get lost so I don't feel confident just leaving the $$$ on some random table 

[+ ApexNomad]

6 hours ago, Anthony said:

I've thought about that. Do you let them know the $$$ is on the table? If so how? I don't want the $$$ to get lost so I don't feel confident just leaving the $$$ on some random table 

Trust me, the provider will spot the envelope; I wouldn’t worry. But if it gives you peace of mind, especially with first-time providers, you can set it on a table, stand, or wherever you prefer. Look at him, smile, and step away. He’ll know! The best providers will keep their eyes on you the entire time. They’ll know it’s there and will take it at the end. After that, it’s your time to enjoy.