When your number's up

[Steven_Draker]

Recently, when I stopped getting e-mail replies from one of my regular clients, I thought that it's just natural that people move on in life. Sometimes people disappear and don't want to be bothered again.

 

To my surprise a few weeks later I've got an e-mail from the same account (his sister was writing), explaining that the person I was trying to contact suddenly passed away from a massive heart attack. I felt very bad, thanked her for letting me know and sent my deepest condolences to her and his family.

 

Since then the question that I was asking myself: what's the procedure with a personal email account when someone passes away?

 

Best regards, Steven ~

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[+ Lucky]

Why do you assume that there is a procedure? For one, the internet people don't know of the death, so they don't do anything. The survivors can take it upon themselves to close out the account, or, more likely, it just becomes dormant.

What I find interesting about your post is the way we lose touch with people, and then find later on, if we in fact do, what became of them, good or bad.

[+ deej]

There is no universal procedure.

 

With a paid internet account, presumably the account will be shut down when payments stop but that's about the only thing that's automatic.

 

It's really up to you to decide what you WANT to happen and put that procedure in place, and the only way to do that is to visit an attorney and put it in your will.

 

My own will includes instructions to the executor to remove and destroy disk drives from my computers (among other things).

 

It's totally up to you.

[Guest Chad White]

wow - you are such a nice person, you probably have a big an open HEART, do yuo feel it inside of you?

YES or NO?

[Mark Alexander]

I had a similar thing happen, except that I found out not because of unreturned emails, but because my client's family sent a kind email out to everyone in his contact list.

 

I was sad, but grateful that his family did this. They handled this right, because that way all the guy's friends knew. They didn't go through his contacts with a critical mindset, choosing who would know and who wouldn't. They just informed everyone of the loss and that was that.

[Guest skrubber]

An interesting scenario. I have had the dilemma of how to get my two favorite escorts informed of my demise or serious illness. My family has met one of them and may as well met the other due to me informing them of developments in their lives. They do not know they are escorts. So I had their names and numbers added in my living will as people to contact in such an event. I do not want to drop off the face of the earth and leave important people uninformed.

[Luv2play]

This subject made me think about what "procedure" I have put in place to close out my e-mail account in the event of my demise. The answer is none. And frankly, I have never thought about it. Since it's a paid account, I assume it would end without notice to anyone on the closing of my account by my executors. A few people on this board know me so maybe the word would get around here that I had passed on. Maybe not.

 

I recall reading of one regular poster here who died suddenly when someone casually mentioned it here. He went by the moniker "Traveller" and he always ended his posts with "Later". I sort of miss him. :-(

[KMEM]

This thread does bring up an interesting point. I may well outlive my immdediate family members and become another "last of the Mohicans:. It would be pleasant to think that personal matters might be handled by someone other than an attorney or other executor of my estate. I, of course, have friends but many if not most of them live in other towns and they might need to be notified as well.

 

I suppose the best answer, like not dying intestate, is to not die without notice to any and all who might care.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[JT Brooklyn]

I doubt that any of us being "The Deceased" would really care about whatever happens to any Earthly Small Details other than Our Final Wishes for Family and CLOSE Friends. Any Accounts "Not Paid" etc. like a Working Guy no longer being contacted Email Accounts would be dropped...and just STOP period!

 

Last Summer the Doorman at "The Monster" Sascha who was a Friend for Many Years from my Paradise Garage Days Passed..I was informed by a co-worker who kindly took it upon himself to Call those in Sachas Phone book. I do believe this is what does usually happen and is done by GOOD Friends or at least should be. ;-)

[Steven_Draker]

Working in this business allows you to develop some special relationships and friendships. There are a few people, whom I met thru "this job" that I'd like to be informed if something ever happened to me and vice versa. One day, when I move on, I hope to do so as a whole human being, specifically by being able to take something with me from this job, some ongoing friendships with people of quality that this job has given me an opportunity to meet. To me, it does not feel right, it does not feel whole, to simply cut off one's past life (like some kind of embarrassment) and not be able to look back on anything of value or permanence. To do so, for me at least, is to move on with a gap within oneself. In a sense, I guess what I'm saying is that, when this job is "over", I hope to be able to move on having good memories and good karma. And hopefully into a new phase in my life, again with a sense of purpose.

 

Steven Draker ~

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