Overnights or shorter?

[Bob]

On another forum they were discussing overnights and the economics thereof. Is it worthwhile to pay someone to sleep beside you, etc.? In the course of the discussion someone suggested that most escorts prefer shorter sessions. What about it? Or is that a question you'd rather not touch? Obviously it is more financially rewarding to spend the entire night but do you prefer to get in and get out more quickly (no pun intended)? I have gotten that impression on a couple of overnight hires recently. Maybe I should ask, "What is your favorite length of session?"

[JT Brooklyn]

Bob..As with other Topics that really depend "Totally" on the Working Guy Involved, don't expect a "mad scramble" to answer this question, other than from the "Usual Suspects" who Contribute often.

 

I'm guessing anyone who does answer will be in the "Yes I do Overnite" Category, rather than "I donot do Overnites" because of Group. Your so-so Experience's with an Overniter are pretty typical.

Otherwise I am sure..ALOT more would be done. IMHO of course ...

[JT Brooklyn]

It's definitely a Curse to be right alot of the Time! LOL ;-)

[Guest PWIT]

I think you may have poisoned the discussion with your initial post. Anyone that responded would be a 'usual suspect'.

[Bob]

Overnights or shorter?

 

I am the original poster and I wish I could erase the entire thing, but I don't think that's possible. It was a stupid question and one impossible for an escort to answer. I had read the comment some other place and that combined with what seemed like a less than enthusiastic night with a favorite escort of mine led to my post. Sorry I wasted the ink and paper.

[KMEM]

RE: Overnights or shorter?

 

It might be a difficult question to answer but there are no honestly asked stupid questions. I didn't respond because I am not an escort. However, like everyone else who posts on this board I have an opinion about most every thing.

 

I much prefer to see an escort at least over a week-end. If the brain is the chief sex organ, this at least gives up both a chance to have some extended foreplay by getting to know each other. A fun time and experience for me is the conversation, a meal, attending a performance, etc.; not just wham, bam, thank you sir.

 

There are many pros and cons to this or any other approach which have been discussed before. The main consideration I think is to try to know the person somewhat before a long visit. It could become VERY long if you are not compatible after the first 5 mintues or 15 or 30 or 60 or however long your wham, bam lasts.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[JT Brooklyn]

PWIT..Sorry I should have said the usual "Advertisers"! We all are suspect of something at some point! LOL

 

No.. it is not a Dumb question nor one that cannot be answered. There are Working Guys who do LUV to "Travel" on Overnights.

 

Unfortunately The only thing now Traveling Costs will probably sky rocket this Summer, making any "Travel" Overniter's alot more costly

than some are willing to Pay for. ;-)

[Epigonos]

KMEM is absolutely correct about knowing the escort before you spend an extended period with him. I have always started with lunch or dinner and a couple of hours first. If that goes well and the guys overnight or longer rate is reasonable then we might arrange something. In most cases, however, I stick to a meal and a couple of hours of play time. Unless the escort is really exceptional I don't want someone to simply sleep in my bed and occupy space and that is what a lot of overnight time is.

 

The only escort with whom I ever arranged my first meeting as an overnight was Steven Kesslar and that was five years ago. I am still seeing him and never for less than an overnight and twice a year we make an extended visit to some mutually interesting place.

[nate_sf]

RE: Overnights or shorter?

 

It's not a stupid question at all, but maybe a bit hard to answer especially if not having thought about it this way.

 

When I was escorting I would have trepidations about doing overnights, at least before the actual appointment. An overnight is a long time to spend with someone you might not know very well, and being on best professional behavior can get tiring after many hours. Plus people have their own morning routines, and I know at least for me I'm not a "morning person" so am not at my best first thing in the day.

 

Having said that, the most memorable appointments I had were the overnights. With one client in particular we had overnights on a number of occasions, each one more enjoyable than the next as we got to know each other more each time. These turned out to be the best appointments!

 

So I agree with the other posts that it may be best to try shorter appointments at first, and if you hit it off try a longer appointment next time around when you know each other better. The disappointment you may have experienced with your initial overnights may have just been awkwardness of people not knowing each other very well, and nothing more than that.

[Bart]

RE: Overnights or shorter?

 

Rather than dump the thread as being unaswerable why not work with it and just a little rephrasing and ask what makes an overnight work for you the escort?

 

I still believe overnight meetings, especially a two night meeting can provide the most value for both the escort and the client. At the end communication remains the primary focus. What do you the client expect and what do you the escort feel most comfortable providing?

 

I have been averaging an overnight every couple of months for past 3-1/2 years. Usually a two night affair. I get two beds, even though I love to snuggle, while sleeping I prefer my space, a relatively light sleeper I do not like the toss 'n turn type and much to the dismay of most I am with a very early riser no matter the time I hit the sheets. I sneak out get some coffee, a walk and even do my work out, come back with coffee and shower and crawl into bed with my hunk and they like a fresh smelling guy to rouse them.

 

I would guess the two biggest items on the table would be sleeping arrangements and length of (no not dick) but in bed. Client this is one spot to be completely honest with the escort. If you want an all night sex-a-thon just say so, but do not be shocked if escort says no or that is extra and then abide by the agreement. In talking to many a guy they can deal with the 2 AM grope if they know it is coming but most likely they are still going to want a couple of hours in the morning longer. What ruins most overnights from what I have heard:

1. Clients or escorts drinking too much.

2. Clients groping when agreed before hand sleep first play later.

3. Temperature of the room.

4. Snoring and/or busy sleeper (toss 'n turn guy)

5. Bathroom issues

 

I agree it would be great to meet for lunch ahead of time but that does not work for the bulk of us who do not live in one of the top ten markets. It works for me nice clear precise detail email all are happy.

[KMEM]

RE: Overnights or shorter?

 

Good post, Bart. Exactly correct.

 

Best regards,

 

KMEM

[buckguy]

RE: Overnights or shorter?

 

I'm surprised that more escorts haven't jumped in. There are guys who clearly want the longer appointments--they basically say so or are upfront about rates for loner appointments. There probably are others who can't quite articulate it or figure out how to advertise it. Brett Mathers is one who seemed unable to come out and say (in his ads) what he wanted (perhaps for fear of alienating his hourly base), but told us.

 

The idea of "having lunch" or an hourly appointment is impractical for many people, as Bart noted. These also may not be very good samples of the kind of behavior that go into an evening or a weekend. I've done overnights or weekends with guys who were fine for an hour but not the best company for something longer. A longer appointment requires reconciling of interests, sleep schedules, etc. and these may not necessarily get worked out in a shorter appointment. I'm thinking about doing a weekend with someone during the summer. I've had multiple multi-hour appointments with him and, have been able to talk through a lot of this stuff. I'm also clear with myself that I like his company as a person and would enjoy his company regardless of some unanticipated difficulties. For someone in Bart's situation this would be impractical. Reviews that involve long appointments with guys become important if you can't really get the background info that comes with prior long appointments.

[+ VictorPowers]

Let me revitalize a 10 year old Thread. Shall we? This answer for me is simple. Yes financially speaking, an ON and longer appointments make more sense. I enjoy these type of interactions because both parties are not rushed. We can enjoy the company, conversation, and extra curricular activities on in a non rushed capacity.

[marylander1940]

I think you may have poisoned the discussion with your initial post. Anyone that responded would be a 'usual suspect'.

 

I agree, the OP already knows the answer of the question he made.

 

Let me revitalize a 10 year old Thread. Shall we? This answer for me is simple. Yes financially speaking, an ON and longer appointments make more sense. I enjoy these type of interactions because both parties are not rushed. We can enjoy the company, conversation, and extra curricular activities on in a non rushed capacity.

 

I'm glad you and other newbies are searching before posting, it's a good thing!

[FTM Zachary Prince]

My favourite shorter & sex-focused appointment length is six hours. I've easily got six hours worth of fun & interesting sex to give before I run out of ideas or start missing my HBO account... Even if someone books 3-4 hours with me, its usually not enough time to try everything in my arsenal that interests someone at a natural and relaxed pace. Six hours is perfect for that in my experience.

 

Overnights are like a marathon for me (in terms of companionship, regardless of how much sex the client wants) and I am NOT a morning person. I mean I LOVE mornings but I love to spend my first hour of the day with a cup of earl grey tea and a good book. Or a joint and my thoughts. Its very difficult for me to turn on the performance immediately upon waking up, which is typically desired when it comes to an overnight. I've given some excelllent overnight service, but it takes about 2 days out of my schedule and exhausts me, so I accordingly charge a lot for them compared to most rentboys. (My charges seem pretty normal by female escort standards tho.)

 

My favourite longer bookings are honestly 48 hours. When someone books 48 hours its typically understood that there will be down time for me to recharge my introvert-extrovert battery. Maybe the client has some business emails to answer, some meditation to do, a phone call to a family member at some point... basically it doesn't tend to be NONSTOP us focusing on each other and fucking. If I want an hour to drink tea and read a book in the morning it tends to be less of a problem because we have the whole weekend to have fun. Plus when I do a weekend date I make enough money to take about 2 weeks off: plenty of time for me to recharge. My weekend clients tend to be the most relaxed and chill guys. We have great sex but they're typically not scrambling to "get their money's worth". I really feel like a boyfriend more than a fuck toy with all of my weekend clients. So weekends are great. Its A LOT easy to give the perfect boyfriend fantasy when I'm getting the same vibe from my client in return.

 

I do have one weekend client who treats me like a fucktoy, but he books me for the whole weekend while he's on vacation with his family somewhere, puts me up at a nice hotel, pays my 48 hour rate to ensure that I won't fuck anyone else during that time period, and keeps me on call for the whole weekend. When he gets the chance to sneak away from his family he runs over to my hotel for some action. I get paid for 48 hours but he only spends about 2-3 hours per day with me. Its a strange arrangement to be honest, but for the amount I'm getting paid I never really have any complaints about it...

[Bearofdistinction]

My Ideal timeframe is an 8-9 hour daytime -- Noon- to 8 0r 1-9 === Plenty of time to play and time to break and eat - talk - or continue role play

[Rudynate]

An escort contacted me from RM and offered me a great rate for a long weekend. I'm actually thinking about it. I told him that I don't even do overnights, let alone weekends, so that it would be very out-of-character for me. But, it's not out of the question.