Bottoming 101

[Bob]

After a lifetime as a top I've recently discovered all I've been missing. So now I'm attempting to become the very best fuck in town. I'm asking all you tops and those of you bottoms who are talented to share the secret. What does it take to be an outstanding bottom other than the obvious need for cleanliness? What can I do with my ass, my body, to create the most pleasure for my top? Unfortunately I have little opportunity for practice so must read about it in a book.

 

Soon I'm having a session with an escort I've been wanting for a long time. I would really like to make it a memorable experience for him and have him begging for more.

[+ purplekow]

I suspect that individuals will vary as to what makes an encounter memorable and leaves you wanting more. For me, I like signs of responsiveness, so noise, especially grunts or moans or deep voiced adulation, will quicken my pulse and my pace. Physical responsiveness and flexibility also confirm my partners enjoyment of the situation and that is a big turn on for me, knowing he is liking getting it as much as I like giving it. Position permitting, eye contact lets me see that he is there with me. These anwers are probably too basic. I also like a nice hard slap on the ass near the end, best given by the third guy in the room.

[Guest zipperzone]

>For me, I

>like signs of responsiveness, so noise, especially grunts or

>moans or deep voiced adulation, will quicken my pulse and my

>pace.

 

I agree - I have been seeing the same escort for about three years now. The sex is great and I enjoy servicing him as much as being serviced. I know he enjoys it - he's told me so, after the fact - but there is never a grunt, groan, moan or whatever during my performance. I would find it so much more erotic if he screamed his tits off, so to speak. The strong silent types do have their place but not when my tongue is so far up their butt that it is touching their navel.

[JT Brooklyn]

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Bottom...

 

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[johnnybrk25]

Exercise helps. Tightening and relaxing those muscles on a frequent basis helps keep things tight. Try it while getting fucked its an interesting sensation for you and him.

[Guest PWIT]

> Exercise helps. Tightening and relaxing those muscles on a

>frequent basis helps keep things tight. Try it while getting

>fucked its an interesting sensation for you and him.

 

Now what if your problem is the opposite: too tight, can't relax. I've let one person try (well reviewed escort here), but it just wasn't gonna happen. He could tell it was just way too painful for me. And I was just dumb enough to allow several attempts (I can be stubborn) and many waisted condoms before waving off the attempt. How far did it get? Well, I can still claim virginal status.

 

Somehow I feel I need the experience; you know, got to try it once, right? But it just doesn't seem to be in the cards for me - top by default I guess! LOL

 

Oh...and taking any kind of chemical help is not in my cards either. So...what is the advice in this situation?

[+ purplekow]

Lube Dildo Time Repeat Then into the heat of battle choosing a partner with a rapier rather than a broadsword

[augustman]

First PWIT, you might consider hiring two versatile guys who have average size cocks. Two guys might keep your mind in other places. Two, versatile guys know what you are going through be sure to tell them that up front. Three, have one guy try using a small thin dildo. Four consider an overnight where you can start with fingers which can get you off come back later then the dildo then try an entry. Be sure to try a variety of positions. I started by me on top, lowering myself down on the cock. Now for the bigger guys, starting on my stomach to losen me up and then I am good to go.

 

Now Bob, I am an aggressive bottom. I too want to be the best bottom that I can and always review my work with the guy (s) afterward. About 75% of the tops love the fact that I practically fuck myself on their cock, no matter what position I am in. So to be honest lots of hip and leg stretching works great to develop the muscles to do that. Despite my size guys are amazed at my flexibility. Now for all the tops, even those those that want complete control, I work hard at close my hole then opening it wide, no matter the position. It takes a lot of concentration. Great sensation for the top. My best position is me on my stomach and the top laying flat on me and I work my ass and basically fucking my self and I get so tight, it is almost a vise and most guys love it. To this point most guys love my style and grip my ass has, but it does take time and effort to get better.

[Juan Vancouver]

You're in control of your bottoming.

 

Hey guys.

 

This is one of my favourite subjects, and I beg to differ with a lot of what has been said here.

 

I too, for a long time thought that I was never going to be a bottom; it simply wasn't in the charts for me. As soon as something came close to my ass, the iron vice grip tightened so hard that you could have lost a finger to it. It certainly wasn't pleasant for anyone. In my head I kept telling myself that it would be fun to be fucked, but in my body I was not so sure it was going to happen.

 

Then along came a very experienced, kind, trustworthy man who gave me the answer. "It is mind over matter" he said. No matter how many experienced tops are trying to open you up... no matter how good the lube, how small the cock, how forceful the thrust, how long the rimming, you won't open up unless you want to. "But I want to!" I yelled. (But to tell the truth there were so many prejudices in my mind about being the fuckee, and pain, and disease that I simply didn't want to go there.) Also, I never before paid attention to my pucker; it was the most neglected and unknown part of my anatomy. How could I have any mastership upon it, if I didn't even know how it looked like?

 

His recommendation was simple: He gave me a smaill, thin dildo, and good lube, and advised me to get acquainted with my own body. Find out what was pleasurable -for me, not for the top-, how to relax, how to breath, how deep to go, what to avoid, when to do it... Surprisingly, when I was alone and relaxed, I was able to little by little open myself up and realized that there was nothing wrong with my pipes... it was just my mind the one playing the games. And it was also a matter of trust. I could trust myself. After a few weeks of trainning with myself I finally got together with a hot guy who was familiar with my plight. Before meeting him I lubed up, opened up, and got ready for him. Of course when he tried to fuck me, everything was much simpler than before. It was still odd having to rely on somebody else, having to trust, but by then I KNEW I was going to be allright, and I KNEW what felt good or not in my ass. For the first time pain became non existent and I realized why is it that men moaned and groaned so loudly when getting fucked...

 

"Fuck! I'm hooked!" I thought.

 

Do not rely on what other people like or do to be good. Do no watch other bottoms do it, because you might be in danger of copying the exterior manifestations of their fun, not the real reason for which they are having it. Take control of your ass. Never wait with a dry, closed ass for a top... make it easy for him (and for yourself). Having the real thing there trying to push inside your loins is going to make you nervous, so make sure that you are ready for it.

 

Don't be shy and ask for what you want. Let him (them) know what feels good and what feels bad. A great top will have a good time with you if he knows that you are having a good time too.

 

Tightening your perineum and ass muscles regularly as a workout, (when you are waiting in line, or on the phone or driving.) will allow you not only to make your ass tight against a cock, but also to relax it to welcome it in. Also apparently it helps a lot to have better and longer erections. And in the end it's kind of fun to sit in front of everyone playing with your ass.

 

Breath deeply, smile, get ready, relax and focus on what feels good.

 

Bottom line... bottoms rule. You are on charge.

 

Happy groaning!

[soccerjock624]

RE: You're in control of your bottoming.

 

I normally wouldnt add my little tidbit of info but, I too had that problem for the first few years of gay expiriences, and until i really allowed myself to want it and not dread the fact that i was going to get fucked it never felt good. Things have now changed which is good for all you tops or vers guys but still it took a while.

[Rick Munroe]

RE: You're in control of your bottoming.

 

>Breath deeply, smile, get ready, relax and focus on what feels

>good.

 

That's what my mother says to me every time she gets out her digital camera.

[Guest PWIT]

RE: You're in control of your bottoming.

 

>>Breath deeply, smile, get ready, relax and focus on what

>feels

>>good.

>

>That's what my mother says to me every time she gets out her

>digital camera.

 

As much as I want to see more pics of you two, I am not sure the pics your mom is taking is what I have in mind. :+

[Rick Munroe]

RE: You're in control of your bottoming.

 

You haven't met my mother ("Rick, drop your pants just a little bit more!" "Derek, let me fluff you just a bit..."). :o

[Guest PWIT]

RE: You're in control of your bottoming.

 

>You haven't met my mother ("Rick, drop your pants just a

>little bit more!" "Derek, let me fluff you just a bit...").

>:o

 

ewwwwww!

[Rod Hagen]

Ask, ney BEG, the top to keep fucking you after you've cum.

[jasne]

>After a lifetime as a top I've recently discovered all I've

>been missing. So now I'm attempting to become the very best

>fuck in town. I'm asking all you tops and those of you

>bottoms who are talented to share the secret. What does it

>take to be an outstanding bottom other than the obvious need

>for cleanliness? What can I do with my ass, my body, to

>create the most pleasure for my top? Unfortunately I have

>little opportunity for practice so must read about it in a

>book.

>

>Soon I'm having a session with an escort I've been wanting for

>a long time. I would really like to make it a memorable

>experience for him and have him begging for more.

 

I still think the best tools are your fingers (partner's in this case). Well lubed, gloved if you must and good knowledge of prostate gland manipulation (massage). Most guys over-do it with this but when you get a guy that knows the anatomy, its awesome. Start with one finger, two then three should be enough and the prostate massage can help you relax and if you are a precummer, it will flow like crazy.

 

Fingers also work well in cooking, but that's another show

[Juan Vancouver]

Fingers are good for a piano

 

I guess we are all different, and that's why intimacy is so exciting.

 

In my case, when I bottom, fingers were only created for caressing, and for opening the lube and the rubber foil... I don't want them anywhere near my butt.

 

Give me a tongue, or a cock... Fingers simply don't work for me.

 

Vive la difference!

[Guest HonkingGoose]

RE: Fingers are good for a piano

 

I found that working my hole with soapy fingers in the shower was a great introduction to the pleasure of something bigger.

[Juan Vancouver]

RE: Fingers are good for a piano

 

man, I am up for anything that makes a hole loose, warm, welcoming and smooth.

[Steven_Draker]

RE: Fingers are good for a piano

 

I'm like Juan, I don't like fingers in my ass. A tongue, a big cock or a dildo work just great for me. :9 }(

 

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[Rick Munroe]

RE: Fingers are good for a piano

 

>I don't like fingers in my

>ass. A tongue, a big cock or a dildo work just great for me.

 

For those of us that are tight, a finger is just right.

[Juan Vancouver]

RE: Fingers are good for a piano

 

>A tongue, a big cock or a dildo work just great for me.

>:9 }(

 

 

Well stud, if you ever find yourself in Canada.... don't forget to say hello. :+

 

We Canadians are suposed to be a very hospitable lot.

[TruthBTold]

Well, I have found that, as with everything else, practice makes perfect or as perfect as you are going to get. I was generally a top - more from circumstance than design. I love to rim and am a very active partner so that the supposed top that was in my bed generally ended up impaling himself on me. I probably bottomed twice until I was 45. I had sometimes used my fingers while masturbating but I thought that there had to be more to the whole experience as guys really seemed to enjoy it. I imagined that the more was probably something a lot thicker than my finger.

 

So I ordered the thinnest butt plug I could find and hoped that I could take that. I used that for several weeks and then decided to throw caution to the wind and get one that was 2"W x 4. I thought if I just could not take it, I could melt it down into a doorstop. A little lube, a little porn and the course was set (damn, it felt so damn good!) The time intervals between bigger and bigger plugs grew smaller and smaller.

 

I started to try different positions. I found I could try tightening and loosening my hole and that that produced its own kind of pleasure. I started to imagine actually fucking the guys cock rather than him fucking me. The practice worked cause when I finally started to get fucked by the real old fashioned thing, guys would tell me that I was the best bottomed they ever had. I guess it was the American dream. Enough hard work and lube and there is no height (or width) you cannot reach.

[LeeOz]

RE: You're in control of your bottoming.

 

Wow, Juan that is the best advice I have ever heard and read. I am a reluctant bottom as well, and feel that I am missing out. Have to try out your tips. Wish me luck.

[+ Tygerscent]

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