Phone Etiquette

[buckyball]

I was wondering about something. There is an escort visiting my area from NYC so I decided to call him up to get info and to set up an appointment. The first call was fine, he told me to call about 2 hours before I wanted to see him to confirm. When I did call the second time, he put me on hold to take a call from a potential client from another city he will be visiting. When that ended, he came back and started talking again, then took another call so I was on hold again. When he came back, he asked me if I could call back when I was ready to drive out to see him. So like a silly fool I did. So he was asking me about what I expected from our session so I was giving him some info, then he takes another call this time from Australia so he tells me that he would call back in 5 minutes. By now I am put off. So he calls back and continues the conversation, takes one more call, then starts to give me his location. By now I have lost any interest but since I had made the effort I was about to go see him until he tells me where he is located. Well, it was late and I don't really like driving out to a place I have never been especially at night. At any rate, if I was not his immediate priority while we were setting up a current appointment, who knows what would have happened had we actually met. Anyway, I am just venting. I would also like to know if anyone has had similar experiences with any escort.

[2hard2tame]

ohhhh.

 

This seems to happen to me alot but on the escort side. I can go 3 days without getting a call, but AS SOON AS I ARRIVE on a call, my phone starts RINGING.

 

I have learned to just turn off the phone when i am 5 minutes before work, and not turn it one until I leave.

 

You as a client, are paying for my time, and I find it would be VERY disrespectful to you as a client to take any calls. This is what voicemail is for. I for one, do not know of anything that cannot wait an hour or two to take care of.

[Boston Guy]

I truly understand that the business of escorting can be up and down, and the desire to not lose a client by not taking a phone call. But your experience is a very good example of how the reverse can happen, when clients become put off when they are treated rudely as an escort answers his phone at inappropriate times, sometimes repeatedly.

 

I think there may be a difference in culture working here. Younger people don't think as much about multiple streams of conversations.. after all, many of them are used to carrying on multiple simultaneous IM's. So they may simply be unaware that the typical client is not pleased when they exhibit what seems to us to be very poor phone etiquette.

 

Sometimes, it may be possible to nicely explain our expectations. But I've come to think that I am not nor do I want to be a replacement for their parents. If they haven't learned by now that it's rude to put someone on hold while they take one call after another, they're not likely to learn it in the near future. And escorts who do this kind of thing are quite likely, in my judgment, to exhibit similarly cavalier feelings about other client needs and desires.

 

Consider yourself fortunate. Forewarned is forearmed.

 

BG

[+ ArVaGuy]

I think we have all been caught in this situation at one time or another. It’s the primary reason that I prefer to make initial inquiries by e-mail. If I see an escort profile that says "phone me" as his preferred means of communicating that tells me his phone is going to ringing continuously. Now it’s his right to state that the phone is his preferred means of communicating but for me it’s a red flag.

 

For me, e-mail exchanges allow the expectations to be clearly stated and there's less of a rush than by phone. This might take a bit longer with back and forth responses but it also helps build an understanding of what the client expects and the escort will deliver. We confirm the session in final over the phone. That process has worked well in my experience.

[buckyball]

I agree with you on this one. When he was asking me what I was into, I couldn't just come out and say it for some reason, I sort of made some vague references to certain activities. However, given the time to sit down and compose an e-mail, I can definitely go into what I like in some detail. Hence I also tend to prefer to e-mail the first couple of times then call to confirm.

 

Also, I never pick up my phone when I am with other people. If I am having coffee with someone and the phone rings, I just ignore it (usually it is on vibrate) or my phone is off. I find it off putting when someone picks up a phone in the middle of a face to face conversation. Maybe I am alone in this issue but I tend to give 100% of my attention to the person or people I am with.

[2hard2tame]

>I think we have all been caught in this situation at one time

>or another. It’s the primary reason that I prefer to make

>initial inquiries by e-mail. If I see an escort profile that

>says "phone me" as his preferred means of communicating that

>tells me his phone is going to ringing continuously. Now it’s

>his right to state that the phone is his preferred means of

>communicating but for me it’s a red flag.

>

>For me, e-mail exchanges allow the expectations to be clearly

>stated and there's less of a rush than by phone. This might

>take a bit longer with back and forth responses but it also

>helps build an understanding of what the client expects and

>the escort will deliver. We confirm the session in final over

>the phone. That process has worked well in my experience.

>

>

>

 

>And usually the email, email, email, email THEN phone call usually works. Until you run into that guy who wants to ask you 2 bajillion questions in the same about of fragmented emails.

 

Then i suggest a phone call. LOL

[JT Brooklyn]

Bucky..IMHO There are many Great Guys working In and Out of NYC.

BUT this Guy was a plain A-Hole..He showed No Respect for your Soon to be Hookup.

 

Unless you live where there are "Few Options" to Hookup, I would have Definitely told him "Your Way to Busy for me Guy"!

Bye-Bye Mr. Popular! :7

[rickyricardo]

LOL .. I would have moved on with all that going on.. too many escorts out here to put up with unprofessionalism like that. Hell that an indication on how the session will be.. I have voicemail and caller ID , only way I will put call on hold to answer other line if its my family an I expecting them to call me. Otherwise.. 1st call , 1st served..

 

 

RM

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[JT Brooklyn]

1st Call-1st Serve.. Rickey is Definitely a Guy who knows just how to Serve his Tastey Meat Platter! LOL :o :o

[Luv2play]

IMO this is not an age thing. People are either polite or not and it applies to all age groups. I know people in their 70's who have all these devices on their phones so they can cut you off in mid-converstion to take another call while you cool your jets. It is just so rude.If you are having a conversation to their face, they will take a phone call, even though they have caller ID and voice-mail.

 

This applies in stores too, when clerks will interupt their business with you to take a call and instead of saying "I'll call you back", will carry right on in your face while you are left fuming. And don't get me started on the subject of cell-phones!!!x(

[Steven_Draker]

Probably you didn't contact the right guy, Buckyball ;-)

 

Also sorry about Justin H who faked the other day.

 

SD ~

http://www.hotsexystud.com/uk

[JamesK840]

There's a couple things here, I think.

 

First, a client doesn't want to be reminded he's just another couple hundred dollars to the escort and not unique in any way, and this kind of phone behavior or any use of the cell phone while actually with the client really drives that home.

 

Second, there are too many escorts out there who just don't put any value on the client's time or other concerns. I'm not big on speaking on the phone, and I'm also pretty discreet, so an escort who can't setup things through email and instead thinks I'll need to call him 2 or 3 times isn't getting my business. Then there are the escorts who don't seem to read an email, re-asking things you've already answered or worse, sending out nothing but a generic reply.

 

Cell phones are great for trying to setup a last-minute appointment or if something changes, somebody gets lost, but it sounds pretty clear that clients prefer email. Clearly more escorts need to get blackberries, Treos or other smartphones WITH KEYBOARDS! (Hate having the only responce to an email with a couple questions be "gr8 c U sn!".)

 

I think some escorts believe there is some legal benefit to only discussing sex over the phone, that with email they'd be providing evidence in writing. I don't think there's much to this... Personally, I'd think it'd be easier to challenge an email in court then a legally recorded conversation...

[+ Tygerscent]

RE: Value of time!

 

Tyger Ty Hudson here... being an Escort, I have thought a lot about the value of time. Those who know me understand I am relatively free and generous with mine. I like to think of the Client's sense of time as well. Their time is valuable to them since they may be calling with restricted time or calling from work, home, overseas... The Escort's time and the Client's time is valuable by nature of the profession and the from the CLient's point of view of investment as well. Disregarding either is not appropriate many times. Sometimes a Client will state that it is okay to check emails and phone messages while an Escort is with him but generally, it would be good etticate and respectful to put the computer and cell phone away unless communication before hand impies otherwise.

Taking numerous calls while talking to a Client is just inexcusable. Personally, I feel talking about your upcoming appointments or making it appearent to Clients that you have other appointments lined up or in the making is inappropriate as well. It disrupts Client confidentiality to a degree, and that is incredibly important!!!!!!!

I do have a phone glitch and it seems that sometimes if someone is calling through, (Client or otherwise), the phone sometimes switches over to the incoming call. So, I have found it necessary to excuse myself for the few seconds it takes to press "Ignore" on my phone so that my current phone call is not disrupted.

Otherwise... I just think that if a call is coming through and you are currently on the phone with whoever... you finish the conversation with that person and then call the other person back as soon as you are able. Hopefully they will leave a message and a call back time if necessary.

Whether it is an Escort/Client phone conversation or just conversation between two people outside of that, basic respect and consideration for the person you are talking to at hand is essencial!

Tyger

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