Response from an escort

[TJM]

I recently was looking to hire and emailed an escort as I normally do explaining a little bit about myself and what I enjoy sexually. Included in the email was the fact that I enjoy kissing. I received the following reply:

 

"sorry... i dont kiss, and dont even lie and pretend and tell people i do.... infact i think its repulsive and disgustiong, two complete strangers kissing as if they know each other or actually give a damn about each other.... save the kissing for your lover and use an escort for what its intended to be, anaonymous hard pure sex..... kissing is supposed to signify that you care..... and lest face it you only care for mew what i can provide, and vice versa.... you dudes really need to start getting real with that shit.... would you kiss a trick you met in the bookstore or bathouse... and if you would that screams volumes of you.... no one can be that starved for affection!"

 

I was just wondering what others thought about this kind of response to a potential client.

[TJM]

I recently was looking to hire and emailed an escort as I normally do explaining a little bit about myself and what I enjoy sexually. Included in the email was the fact that I enjoy kissing. I received the following reply:

 

"sorry... i dont kiss, and dont even lie and pretend and tell people i do.... infact i think its repulsive and disgustiong, two complete strangers kissing as if they know each other or actually give a damn about each other.... save the kissing for your lover and use an escort for what its intended to be, anaonymous hard pure sex..... kissing is supposed to signify that you care..... and lest face it you only care for mew what i can provide, and vice versa.... you dudes really need to start getting real with that shit.... would you kiss a trick you met in the bookstore or bathouse... and if you would that screams volumes of you.... no one can be that starved for affection!"

 

I was just wondering what others thought about this kind of response to a potential client.

[Rick Munroe]

I think kissing a stranger is an exciting way to establish immediate intimacy. Plus, it fucking gets me hard right away. }(

[Rick Munroe]

I think kissing a stranger is an exciting way to establish immediate intimacy. Plus, it fucking gets me hard right away. }(

[TJM]

OK...so when you coming to Florida Rick? :9

[Rick Munroe]

>OK...so when you coming to Florida Rick? :9

 

We should be headed to Miami next month...

[VaHawk]

"would you kiss a trick you met in the bookstore or bathouse...

 

DUH!!! YES!!!!! Don't most gay men do so who are out cruising??????

 

"and if you would that screams volumes of you.... no one can be that starved for affection!"

 

Screams volumes to me that this guy is an obvious "gay for pay", useless pos as an escort! Does he have a tattoo on his forehead that screams AVOID???

[Boston Guy]

>I was just wondering what others thought about this kind of

>response to a potential client.

>

>

 

My take would be that the "escort" is an uptight young-ish guy who should be working in some other profession. He sounds uptight and no fun at all, not because he doesn't like to kiss strangers but because of the way he expresses that dislike.

 

He would have to pay me to have sex with me.

 

BG

[OneFinger]

I wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of that e-mail!

 

But, on the positive side, I do appreciate his honesty. At least he warned you in advance that he has limitations. Plus, he gave you great in-sight into his personality and people skills.

 

So, have you considered revealing his identity or do you think that would be inappropriate? Is he reviewed on this site and what is his track record on reviews?

 

I really appreciate you sharing the e-mail with us. I also normally contact first-time escorts by e-mail and provide similar info on my likes and expectations. Never had a response like that.

 

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"We need to have more respect for each other. Things have just gone really crazy, out of control. ... We're on a very weird kind of cycle." Stevie Wonder

[TJM]

>But, on the positive side, I do appreciate his honesty. At

>least he warned you in advance that he has limitations. Plus,

>he gave you great in-sight into his personality and people

>skills.

>

 

I agree One...I appreciated his honesty also, but not his obvious arrogance. Here's my email response to him:

 

"Thanks for the response...guess we just have two different ideas about escorting...for you it's obviously hard core anonymous sex...for me it's about fantasy and I listed everything that is part of the fantasy that I'd be paying for...I've never been to a bath house or bookstore, so can't comment on that...I just ended a seven year relationship, so yes, I am starved for affection and so part of my fantasy is about having a lover...finally, we all have things that satisfy us sexually and I don't think a guy in your business should be making judgments about what should be sexually satisfying for others...a simple, "I'm sorry, I don't kiss" would have been a much classier and appropriate response that didn't imply any judgments...I appreciate your honesty in letting me know we are not sexually compatible because of kissing...I don't appreciate your arrogance in telling me what you think I should want or need."

[augustman]

Thanks for sharing your response from the escort as well as your response. I am very much into kissing and I agree that it is part of fantasy and mood. In addition, I find the tongue can add so much to the outing for both participants. The usual response I receive in cases where the escort does not include kissing is "I prefer to leave kissing as the one intimate part for my partner." I find this not only appropriate response usual a fair one because kissing is a very intimate moment for me.

 

The tone of his response was very unprofessional. Why burn bridges, very inmature. I just recently had an escort who initially did not kiss, but realized what the market demanded and he changed his mind and included. He is a decent kisser but fortunately he has many other fantastic qualities that I am happy he changed his mind. But his intial response was very professional.

 

I am amazed when escort chooses to comment in such an aggressive tone. Isn't this the easier issues to deal with. I mean you have a client up front about what he is looking for and opt decline why start criticizing a potential client about an act that is hardly gross. I have a had a few off the wall comments by escorts when issues about the meeting arise. I am thankful the escort showed his true colors before I actually wasted the money.

[Boston Guy]

Young escorts are often in the position of being fawned over by clients. Over time, some let it go to their head and start believing all of the great things the clients are saying to and about them. This can lead guys who started out ok to develop bad attitudes and feelings of superiority. Unfortunately, this path also leads them to unhappiness sooner or later when they come back to Earth, as they inevitably must.

 

I find it's best to avoid guys in the middle of such exaggerated feelings of self-worth.

 

BG

[jasoncarter_dfw]

>I think kissing a stranger is an exciting way to establish

>immediate intimacy. Plus, it fucking gets me hard right away.

>}(

 

I concur 100%...the rare times I meet a client and he avoids kissing, I actually feel kinda weird. A good kisser is more valuable than fine wine...and makes my cock rock hard as well!

 

- Jason Carter - Dallas, TX

- jasoncarter53@hotmail.com

- (972) 365-0120

[Rick Munroe]

>I concur 100%...the rare times I meet a client and he avoids

>kissing, I actually feel kinda weird.

 

Don't feel weird; it's probably nothing personal about you. Some guys just feel that it's something they reserve for lovers, spouses, etc., and that's cool. Also...I should say that I don't always kiss or expect to kiss everyone I meet. Some situations/scenes wouldn't work that way (e.g., an oral "piggy" kind of guy who wants to worship my cock, ass, whole body...I know those guys aren't looking for passion or romance so I go with the flow and it's equally as hot without the kissing) and sometimes there's the breath factor but I won't go there. :o

[jasoncarter_dfw]

Well...in law-and-orderese...allow me to retract and rephrase my statement:

 

I don't feel "weird" per se...it's kind like when you order pancakes at IHOP and they're out of syrup (and you're hungry, of course). Sure, you'll eat the pancakes (and even flirt with the waiter if he's cute), but you won't enjoy them as much when they're smothered in gooey maple syrup ;-)

 

- Jason Carter - Dallas, TX

- jasoncarter53@hotmail.com

- (972) 365-0120

 

>>I concur 100%...the rare times I meet a client and he

>avoids

>>kissing, I actually feel kinda weird.

>

>Don't feel weird; it's probably nothing personal about you.

>Some guys just feel that it's something they reserve for

>lovers, spouses, etc., and that's cool. Also...I should say

>that I don't always kiss or expect to kiss everyone I meet.

>Some situations/scenes wouldn't work that way (e.g., an oral

>"piggy" kind of guy who wants to worship my cock, ass, whole

>body...I know those guys aren't looking for passion or romance

>so I go with the flow and it's equally as hot without the

>kissing) and sometimes there's the breath factor but I won't

>go there. :o

[Guest skrubber]

Excellent response TJM. It shows ytou have more class than that escort. I would never hire him.

[Guest Merlin]

He is clearly a very judgmental person,i.e. one who quickly forms negative opinions about most other people. Hire him and he will be noticing that he doesn't like your hair, your nose, you choice of clothing etc. etc, and he will probably tell you so. Not someone I would want to hire.

[Guest Jesse Dane]

>I think kissing a stranger is an exciting way to establish

>immediate intimacy. Plus, it fucking gets me hard right away.

>}(

 

I agree as well. ;-)

 

Kissing is totally what gets me going at the beginning of a session generally. Whenever a client doesn't want to kiss it throws me off for a split second trying to figure out where to start then.

[latinolover]

I've always found it ironic that the escort who refuses to kiss (and I've met my fair share) will almost certainly suck you dick as much as you like, so it's not as if he doesn't like having bits of you in his mouth! My biggest problem is escorts who say they kiss (and I do always specify when I book that it's expected) and then when the time comes deliver little more than a peck on the cheek, such as you'd give and old aunt. When challenged, I had one say "Well surely you didn't expect me to kiss you as if you were my boyfriend". Well, yes, actually.

On the bright side, I've met escorts who are absolutely stunning kissers, so they make up for their less willing collegues.

[+ Charlie]

The first time I had sex with another man (I was 17, he was 18), he introduced me to all the standard acts--sucking cock, getting sucked, fucking ass, getting fucked--but I didn't actually cum until he KISSED ME! Kissing for some people is much more intimate than any other act, and for someone who makes a living from having sex, it may seem to be crossing the line between business and a more personal relationship. I find it a thrilling climax to a good sexual encounter with an escort, but only if he initiates it, not because I specify it as part of the scene.

[RockHard]

"would you kiss a trick you met in the bookstore or bathouse"

 

I don't do bookstores but I've seen my share of bathhouses; I reserve the kissing thing for a rare few, those who meet the criteria. It's not that I'm prudish in any way but a stranger's mouth is as important to me as his ass: I'm not going anywhere near it unless I know it's reasonably safe.

 

Most anonymous men dive for my cock and want to suck until I cum. It's never that quick and easy for me. Some romantic types dive for my lips but if they're too aggressive, I will turn my head. If your mouth smells like a wet ashtray, a sewer, or a brewery, I will lose my erection and it won't come back no matter how hot you are. Only love can redefine certain odors for me.

 

Some escorts have awful breath and they think gum and/or mints can mask it. Bullshit. There's no running from bad mouth hygiene. I do my best to screen well beforehand which is why I, too, write as much as I can and leave no stone unturned in my introductory email. I'm amazed by the number of "no responses" I get. Either some guys aren't serious about the work or they figure I'm too demanding. As long as my time and money aren't being wasted, I see this as a win-win for me.

 

I got used to escort rejection at the Gaiety. For a long time I wondered why so many hot dancers flew by me and jumped into the arms of ugly beer-belly types. Until one night, when one of the hot Latino dancers felt safe enough to approach me, he told me the boys were convinced I was an undercover cop. Trying my best to keep composure, he had no idea how funny I thought that was. Oh well.

[Rick Munroe]

>Only love can redefine certain

> odors for me.

 

Isn't that a song?

 

Only love can break a heart,

Only love can redefine certain odors for me

 

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[Lankypeters]

>>Only love can redefine certain

>> odors for me.

>

>

Not the most graceful lyric ever penned, is it?

 

 

Lankypeters

[Greathands]

This post has been on my mind since I first read it. I've hired escorts quite regularly over the past 10 or so years .. that is, until recently.

 

About a year ago I met my current partner, with whom I now live. In the past, I usually hired escorts for at least two hours, because it was more than just sex I was looking for. An encounter with an escort was about companionship as well as fun.

 

Well, now that my lover and I live together, I don't have a "need" for companionship. Nor do I need to hire an escort for sex. Hell, the boyfriend is quite younger than I and is a hottie ... now the problem is that he is always wanting sex ... which is a great problem to have I realize ... lol.

 

However, I've come to realize what I truly miss about seeing escorts is the thrill of kissing and making out with someone new. I don't think I ever realized at the time that a large part of the excitement really wasn't the sex ... but it was from being intimate with someone you just met. Some people may think this is depraved and immoral ... but I just think it's HOT!

 

Luckily, I have a great partner in that he has encouraged me to continue to hire an escort if I'd like to, knowing it has nothing to do with the relationship between the two of us.

[Guest HonkingGoose]

I very much agree--a little up front inquiry makes for a much better experience. Its better to get unanswered emails than to find yourself in a hotel room with a guy who wants your money but doesn't want to do what you want.