Do you usually tell masseurs where to touch during a session?

[007kwok]

Not sure if this has been discussed. I am wondering how you communicate with your masseur during a session. For example, when the masseur worked on my butt and I was almost aroused and expected him to brush some of my sweet spots (e.g. taint and balls). I thought those areas should be included in a sensual massage, but it turned out he completely left those areas out. Should I tell the masseur where and how I'd like to be touched? I always feel very embarrassed to say something like that.

[Jamie21]

I ask at the beginning “are you happy for me to go anywhere? Head, feet and everything in between?”. The answer is usually “yes”. I’m aware some people specifically don’t like feet massage, or head massage so it’s good to check those. Occasionally clients say nothing internal but mostly they just say “it’s all fine”. So then I’ve the ok to go anywhere, including balls, hole, perineum etc.

You can read cues from how they react if you go somewhere they don’t like. It might be obvious as in touch their hole and their ass cheeks squeeze together implies they don’t want a finger inside! It might be you try something and the reaction is dynamite. I saw a client recently and during the foot massage I kissed his toe…he responded positively so I sucked it…and he went wild (in a nice way!). Great! Now I know what gets him going. 

I think if you pick a good masseur they’ll ask you the right questions and they’ll read your reactions to give you what you want. You shouldn’t need to give him a ‘shopping list’ because that removes any element of surprise. He should just know where you definitely don’t want to be touched because that’s important to respect. I’m guessing you just chose the wrong masseur, he doesn’t sound very professional. 
 

 

[+ poolboy48220]

During the massage, I don't, unless you count moaning when he goes somewhere I like 🙂 I'll discuss it before the massage starts, but to me, doing that during the massage would interrupt the flow.

[007kwok]

4 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I ask at the beginning “are you happy for me to go anywhere? Head, feet and everything in between?”. The answer is usually “yes”. I’m aware some people specifically don’t like feet massage, or head massage so it’s good to check those. Occasionally clients say nothing internal but mostly they just say “it’s all fine”. So then I’ve the ok to go anywhere, including balls, hole, perineum etc.

You can read cues from how they react if you go somewhere they don’t like. It might be obvious as in touch their hole and their ass cheeks squeeze together implies they don’t want a finger inside! It might be you try something and the reaction is dynamite. I saw a client recently and during the foot massage I kissed his toe…he responded positively so I sucked it…and he went wild (in a nice way!). Great! Now I know what gets him going. 

I think if you pick a good masseur they’ll ask you the right questions and they’ll read your reactions to give you what you want. You shouldn’t need to give him a ‘shopping list’ because that removes any element of surprise. He should just know where you definitely don’t want to be touched because that’s important to respect. I’m guessing you just chose the wrong masseur, he doesn’t sound very professional. 
 

 

Thanks for letting me know how a professional masseur does it. I agree I didn’t get the right one.

[007kwok]

1 hour ago, poolboy48220 said:

During the massage, I don't, unless you count moaning when he goes somewhere I like 🙂 I'll discuss it before the massage starts, but to me, doing that during the massage would interrupt the flow.

Thanks! I feel the same.

[Redwine56]

2 hours ago, 007kwok said:

Not sure if this has been discussed. I am wondering how you communicate with your masseur during a session. For example, when the masseur worked on my butt and I was almost aroused and expected him to brush some of my sweet spots (e.g. taint and balls). I thought those areas should be included in a sensual massage, but it turned out he completely left those areas out. Should I tell the masseur where and how I'd like to be touched? I always feel very embarrassed to say something like that.

Some will say that a 'sensual' massage does not include touching the private genital areas.  The masseur's description would have to include 'erotic' for that to happen.  It's been discussed on this forum that depending who you ask, you will get different responses.  The best advice I can give you is to set your expectations when you call to make your massage appointment.  Don't assume that you will get what you want unless you ask for it.  No need to be embarrassed.  I'm sure these masseurs have heard it all.  The most they can say is 'no, I don't do that'.

[rhh33]

7 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I ask at the beginning “are you happy for me to go anywhere? Head, feet and everything in between?”. The answer is usually “yes”. I’m aware some people specifically don’t like feet massage, or head massage so it’s good to check those. Occasionally clients say nothing internal but mostly they just say “it’s all fine”. So then I’ve the ok to go anywhere, including balls, hole, perineum etc.

You can read cues from how they react if you go somewhere they don’t like. It might be obvious as in touch their hole and their ass cheeks squeeze together implies they don’t want a finger inside! It might be you try something and the reaction is dynamite. I saw a client recently and during the foot massage I kissed his toe…he responded positively so I sucked it…and he went wild (in a nice way!). Great! Now I know what gets him going. 

I think if you pick a good masseur they’ll ask you the right questions and they’ll read your reactions to give you what you want. You shouldn’t need to give him a ‘shopping list’ because that removes any element of surprise. He should just know where you definitely don’t want to be touched because that’s important to respect. I’m guessing you just chose the wrong masseur, he doesn’t sound very professional. 
 

 

The perfect answer!  That's how I prefer the interaction, those little "signs" that you like where it's going, a moan, "I like that", "feels great".

 

Where do you operate?

[Redwine56]

48 minutes ago, rhh33 said:

The perfect answer!  That's how I prefer the interaction, those little "signs" that you like where it's going, a moan, "I like that", "feels great".

 

Where do you operate?

Unfortunately for us, @Jamie21 is in the UK.  I keep telling him that when he decides to visit the US, there will be lines around the block of his hotel.

[Jamie21]

Yes I’m based in London @rhh33. If you ever visit the UK it will be great to see you 🙂. 

Oh and I’ve said previously I will do out calls to the US…..  subject to first class flights (BA or Virgin), a 5 star hotel and limo from the airport. Maybe @Redwine56 can fix it up for me! 😂😂😂
 

 

 

[EastbayMike]

Toucha, toucha, toucha, touch me,
I wanna be dirty,
thrill me, chill me, fullfill me,
Creature of the night

[Westsideguy]

I got a massage yesterday. The guy followed up with me and asked if there was anything else he could do to make the massage better next time.   I have a few ideas.