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[Guest Jnich]

As a guy who never really had to worry about money, is it unheard of for guys in their 20s to be ‘Sugar Daddies?’

I’ve used RM for to hire attractive escorts (early to mid 20s) however, I often find the experience purely transactional.
Hookup apps such as sniffles have little to no guys who fit my criteria (my age (early 20s), athletic, fitness model, frat bro, etc).

I might resort to SA to really find that missing piece. Would you guys recommend pursuing?

[BonVivant]

Go for it. 

[Jon Brown]

I was 20 years old when I first hired. 

It might be rare but I wouldn’t say it’s unheard of, and there’s nothing inherently wrong about it in my opinion.

[Harryinny]

7 hours ago, Jnich said:

 

I might resort to SA to really find that missing piece. Would you guys recommend pursuing?

What is SA?

[MikeBiDude]

2 minutes ago, Harryinny said:

What is SA?

Seeking Arrangements 

[Guest Jnich]

4 hours ago, Jon Brown said:

I was 20 years old when I first hired. 

It might be rare but I wouldn’t say it’s unheard of, and there’s nothing inherently wrong about it in my opinion.

How would you say that experience went for you?

[Jon Brown]

52 minutes ago, Jnich said:

How would you say that experience went for you?

It wasn’t great mainly because I was too young, too excited and really didn’t know what I was doing

The guy asked me why I wasn’t looking for guys in bars and clubs given that I was so young, but otherwise didn’t seem to be too weirded out by the situation.

Over the years I’ve been told many times by escorts that some of their clients are very young, and some are actually very hot - which I think describes you. Never heard them complaining about such clients.

[Guest Jnich]

30 minutes ago, Jon Brown said:

It wasn’t great mainly because I was too young, too excited and really didn’t know what I was doing

The guy asked me why I wasn’t looking for guys in bars and clubs given that I was so young, but otherwise didn’t seem to be too weirded out by the situation.

Over the years I’ve been told many times by escorts that some of their clients are very young, and some are actually very hot - which I think describes you. Never heard them complaining about such clients.

Bars have never been my scene tbh. I would get occasional luck on Sniffies however, it truly is like finding a needle in a haystack. 

Based on the extensive commentary on Seeking Arrangements, I just might try it out, however I know it does take a minute to set up your profile and filter out international guys.

[BonVivant]

1 hour ago, Jnich said:

Bars have never been my scene tbh. I would get occasional luck on Sniffies however, it truly is like finding a needle in a haystack. 

Based on the extensive commentary on Seeking Arrangements, I just might try it out, however I know it does take a minute to set up your profile and filter out international guys.

What about Grindr or similar? The guys that have all the luck are young and hot. What’s your experience there?

[pubic_assistance]

I thought the consensus on SEEKING was that everyone was a con-artist, looking to milk lonely old men out of their retirement savings 🤔 . It was before Covid, but I seem to remember a thread about the frustration people had finding anyone who genuinely wanted to perform as a steady companion.

[MikeBiDude]

7 minutes ago, pubic_assistance said:

I thought the consensus on SEEKING was that everyone was a con-artist, looking to milk lonely old men out of their retirement savings 🤔 . It was before Covid, but I seem to remember a thread about the frustration people had finding anyone who genuinely wanted to perform as a steady companion.

There’s a 75 page thread here with the pro/cons of Seeking:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/73683-seeking-arrangements-success/

I’m an unabashed fan and have stated that here before. Yes, takes patience and work….it’s a “long game”. I have met some really super nice guys there, who are genuinely attracted to older. Hasn’t come close to draining my resources 😉

I tell people that the biggest problem with seeking is wildly varying expectations from both sides. Be clear on what you’re looking for, learn to filter out the flakes, and be very, very patient.

Edited October 31, 2022 by MikeBiDude
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[Guest Jnich]

1 hour ago, BonVivant said:

What about Grindr or similar? The guys that have all the luck are young and hot. What’s your experience there?

Too many crazy guys on Grindr and the app is trash in my opinion. Deleted shortly after using.

[GTMike]

20 minutes ago, MikeBiDude said:

There’s a 75 page thread here with the pro/cons of Seeking:

https://www.companyofmen.org/topic/73683-seeking-arrangements-success/

I’m an unabashed fan and have stated that here before. Yes, takes patience and work….it’s a “long game”. I have met some really super nice guys there, who are genuinely attracted to older. Hasn’t come close to draining my resources 😉

I tell people that the biggest problem with seeking is wildly varying expectations from both sides. Be clear on what you’re looking for, learn to filter out the flakes, and be very, very patient.

I would agree with just about all of this especially the wildly varying expectations from both sides which leads to needing a lot of patience.

The only small point i might disagree with a tiny tiny bit is how many and the likelihood that you'll find there are a lot of super nice guys who are "genuinely" attracted to older. I see the poster's point but in my experience they may really like being with older gent and much of that dynamic it all entails, and genuinely don't like to consider themselves as full on "escorts" and consider your relationship is very genuine as friends.

My only finer point is if there was absolutely no consideration/compensation of some sort for their time spent with said older gentlemen, then please (to those wanting to explore it) don't let your imagination run too wild and expect that their attraction would be so much as to overcome that expectation with any consistency Hahaha.

 

 

 

[rawandorderguy]

14 hours ago, Jnich said:

 

As a guy who never really had to worry about money, is it unheard of for guys in their 20s to be ‘Sugar Daddies?’

I’ve used RM for to hire attractive escorts (early to mid 20s) however, I often find the experience purely transactional.
Hookup apps such as sniffles have little to no guys who fit my criteria (my age (early 20s), athletic, fitness model, frat bro, etc).

I might resort to SA to really find that missing piece. Would you guys recommend pursuing?

Many folks on here have been hiring escorts since college!

[Isrhunter]

I'm in my late 30s and for me it is getting what I want, when I want. I have a busy schedule and I just don't have the time/effort/energy to waste on Grindr or some other app and result with my free time being wasted with flakes/Catfishes/or unresponsive people. 

[rawandorderguy]

6 minutes ago, Isrhunter said:

I'm in my late 30s and for me it is getting what I want, when I want. I have a busy schedule and I just don't have the time/effort/energy to waste on Grindr or some other app and result with my free time being wasted with flakes/Catfishes/or unresponsive people. 

more and more young in shape folks are hiring now because of Grindr fatigue! 

[+ Coolwave35]

I’ve had incredible luck on seeking. I have met over 75 guys from it, most were one offs that completely lacked chemistry at the meeting and we quickly parted ways. I can point to 6 successful arrangements that have come from it. They started as dinner dates. Progressed to travel companions, then grew to connected sex. The problem is that feelings often came with it from both sides, which made it much, much messier than rentmen. 
 

Once I was able to navigate that pitfall, and prepare the guys for the inevitability of some attachment forming, it got less messy. 

Edited October 31, 2022 by Coolwave35

[Gymowner]

5 hours ago, Jon Brown said:

It wasn’t great mainly because I was too young, too excited and really didn’t know what I was doing

The guy asked me why I wasn’t looking for guys in bars and clubs given that I was so young, but otherwise didn’t seem to be too weirded out by the situation.

Over the years I’ve been told many times by escorts that some of their clients are very young, and some are actually very hot - which I think describes you. Never heard them complaining about such clients.

may be so for hiring a gay escort. i can tell you from experience that straight escorts HATE being hired by young guys. they claim the guys are way too aggressive and want a full on sexual experience. the straight escorts prefer older gay men that take their time, make them feel comfortable and are sober. i cant tell you the times the escorts state "oh god i got a phone call at 3 am last night from a dude high as a kite to come and fist him"

Edited October 31, 2022 by Gymowner

[+ DrownedBoy]

I'd say go for it. If I had money in my 20s, I would have hired, as many here said.

Just don't turn your back on other relationship possibilities.

[Guest Jnich]

1 hour ago, Gymowner said:

may be so for hiring a gay escort. i can tell you from experience that straight escorts HATE being hired by young guys. they claim the guys are way too aggressive and want a full on sexual experience. the straight escorts prefer older gay men that take their time, make them feel comfortable and are sober. i cant tell you the times the escorts state "oh god i got a phone call at 3 am last night from a dude high as a kite to come and fist him"

Thank you for sharing. While I’m not giving up escorts as @ryanchambers and quite a few others are on my list, I do want to transition to hookup/ exploring with discreet guys my own age.

[Guest Jnich]

3 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I thought the consensus on SEEKING was that everyone was a con-artist, looking to milk lonely old men out of their retirement savings 🤔 . It was before Covid, but I seem to remember a thread about the frustration people had finding anyone who genuinely wanted to perform as a steady companion.

I wonder if they’d respond differently to someone their own age instead of a mature ‘Daddy.’

[Guest Jnich]

1 hour ago, DrownedBoy said:

I'd say go for it. If I had money in my 20s, I would have hired, as many here said.

Just don't turn your back on other relationship possibilities.

My primary purpose for transition to SA is that FWB/ relationship possibilities with those curious/ closeted guys.

[shadeheffashade]

I've been hiring since I was 24 and found a guy my age that I hired and kept around like a sugar baby last year. We would go on vacations together, dinner, partying and now we're close friends. My only advice would be to be clear about your intentions, we had a lot of drama/fights over what our true feelings were for each other. 

[fedssocr1]

2 hours ago, Coolwave35 said:

I’ve had incredible luck on seeking. I have met over 75 guys from it, most were one offs that completely lacked chemistry at the meeting and we quickly parted ways. I can point to 6 successful arrangements that have come from it. They started as dinner dates. Progressed to travel companions, then grew to connected sex. The problem is that feelings often came with it from both sides, which made it much, much messier than rentmen. 
 

Once I was able to navigate that pitfall, and prepare the guys for the inevitability of some attachment forming, it got less messy. 

Some of us like the attachment, I think that's what makes the arrangement different from hiring escorts. My current sugar baby and I have connected quite nicely and I think we're already quite fond of one another...frequent texting for no particular reason (in both directions) for example. It still feels transactional of course, but even at our first meeting he seemed somewhat reticent about getting paid. After discussing whether he would prefer something else though he said getting the money seemed to make the most sense. 

[BonVivant]

6 minutes ago, fedssocr1 said:

Some of us like the attachment, I think that's what makes the arrangement different from hiring escorts. My current sugar baby and I have connected quite nicely and I think we're already quite fond of one another...frequent texting for no particular reason (in both directions) for example. It still feels transactional of course, but even at our first meeting he seemed somewhat reticent about getting paid. After discussing whether he would prefer something else though he said getting the money seemed to make the most sense. 

Awwww. It’s kind of sweet in a way.