Delicate situation

[Guest Dan]

I have some pics posted on a non-escort site that I use for meeting guys on my own time. I got a post today from a guy that I think should hire me rather than date me. How do I go about this?

 

I don't want to seem mercinary here, but the way he phrased his note to me it sounded like he was trying to impress me with all his toys anyway. And before any panties get twisted here, it went something like "I hope you like older men. I have a nice house, car and yacht." Made me kind of think of when they thought Bugs was Elmer Fudd and they hypnotized him to say "My name is Elmer Fudd. I am a millionaire und I own a mansion und a yacht!" (Bugs/Elmer's doctor was German.)

 

You know, if you think about it, it's almost like he KNEW that I was a personal entertainer.

 

Any advise from either side of the fence?

 

Thanks!

 

 

Dan Dare

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/dandarela.html

[Prime Muscle]

I would send him a reply letting him know that you would love to make an appointment. I would also add the standard escort disclaimer that your rates are for time only but what ever happens during your appointment is between two consenting adults.

If he knows your an escort and is trying to set up an appointment - that's innocent enough to not offend him. But if he's not looking for an escort arrangement -- that should definitely be enough.

 

Good luck.

[Juan Vancouver]

That IS a delicate situation.

As a personal rule, whenever I am looking for fun (And that includes all the pic sites, chat nicknames or going out as a non-escort person), I never mix business. I only work whenever I intend to do so, because I believe that if I dont set clear boundaries, my life can become really messy. I LOVE having good sex, and even if most of the times I fully enjoy being with my clients, work is work and pleasure is pleasure. I dont want my sexual life to become only "work" and therefore something mechanic and heartless. But that is the general rule.

However I once found myself in such a situation. A guy contacted me trough a pic-site and told me that he was ready to make all the arrangements to fly me to his city. He sent pictures of his mansion, of his cars, and a landscape picture of his beach property, with him in it, but so little I could barely see him. Then he wrote something like "I hope you are a good top, and very passionate and I expect you to keep me company for the weekend and I will be very generous with you" Or something like that. It sounded like the typical e-mail that you get from clients prior a travel arrangement.

I wrote him back asking what was that he meant, and why he was thinking of me for such an arrangement, but never disclosing the fact that I was in fact an escort, because I want to keep my privacy for myself and for my clients. He then told me that a friend of his had hired me previously and that he saw my non-escort pics with him and he recommended me.

No mystery there. We all knew. Of course he became a very good regular faithful client. But that was the only time in which I have used my fun time for work. -But that's just me.

Happy non-working times, and lots of pleasure to you!:9

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Juan,

 

I like your style... classy. Dan's and Prime's approaches strike me as a little gauche in this circumstance -- attempting to mix private and business worlds based on assumptions or worse... the other person's physical attributes. Did I mention 'gauche'?

 

If online contact comes through a nonprofessional portal then address it in that context. Don't bait and switch. It that contact brings up that you escort then they open the door and then there is no reason not to walk through it.

 

My POV.

[Guest houseboy]

I don't see what's delicate about this situation. The guy approached you on what is presumably a hook-up website and despite his ennumeration of his assets, he clearly did not contact you because he wants to pay for the "entertainment" you provide.

 

If you do not want to be mercenary (and if you told him that you would see him in the context of a formal escorting appointment, you *would* be mercenary, at least according to my dictionary*), do what everyone else does online if they are not interested in tricking with someone they are not into: tell him you are not interested in tricking with him. Duh.

 

*Merriam-Webster's Collegiate Dictionary: mercenary. Function: adjective 1 : serving merely for pay or sordid advantage

 

Sean Lespagnol

Chicago, IL

http://www.seanlespagnol.com

 

"Big and tasty - every day!"

[Guest Brazil Nut]

>I don't see what's delicate about this situation. The guy

>approached you on what is presumably a hook-up website and

>despite his ennumeration of his assets, he clearly did not

>contact you because he wants to pay for the "entertainment"

>you provide.

>

>If you do not want to be mercenary (and if you told him that

>you would see him in the context of a formal escorting

>appointment, you *would* be mercenary, at least according to

>my dictionary*), do what everyone else does online if they are

>not interested in tricking with someone they are not into:

>tell him you are not interested in tricking with him. Duh.

 

I agree with the houseboy.

You advertise on a non-escort site and he contacted you from that site. Even if it seems to you like it should have been a client inquiry, it wasn't. You have to expect things like that if you list yourself that way in addition to business listings. It's not a good idea to try to convert a social contact into a business opportunity, especially in your business. It will seem like you were trolling for clients in a bait and switch. I'd say you should either see him as a hookup if you want to, or turn him down politely if you don't want to. He gave you a perfect out with "I hope you like older men." But you shouldn't refer him to your escort advertising or otherwise introduce money. (Unless you have reason to believe from his email that he knows perfectly well who you are, and recognized your non-escort photos as being the same guy in the escort ads, and is trying to get away with something. But that is very hard to know for sure, and even then, I'd just turn him down politely and see if you later get a business inquiry from him.)

[Funseeker 22]

Dan,

You gotta quit posting on Craigslist. Some people are maybe innocently, looking for freebies or "sum lovin"

I remember you contacting me when I first posted on this board asking if I was an escort. When I said no, you asked me why I hadn`t contacted you for a session.

I told you that I didn`t think you were my type but suggested that you might want to hook up at the next LA Hooville Dinner but you were a no show. I did think some of our group would be all over you so why not come again.(lol).:-)

[+ Lucky]

Yeah, Dan, We dare you to actually show up!!

[Rick Munroe]

>I don't see what's delicate about this situation. The guy

>approached you on what is presumably a hook-up website and

>despite his ennumeration of his assets, he clearly did not

>contact you because he wants to pay for the "entertainment"

>you provide.

 

Yeah, exactly. "Duh" is right.

[Bilbo]

I bet that there are a lot of nonescorts who would pretend to be escorts to shut up a man they haven't met physically yet who brags about his wealth. Which complicates this situation, in a way. Maybe you should come off way too butch and dominant in a few messages to him and see if it scares him away. Remember, if this is going to be for free, he does have to be someone you find sexy who wants to do what you want to do.

[Guest Dan]

>That IS a delicate situation.

>As a personal rule, whenever I am looking for fun (And that

>includes all the pic sites, chat nicknames or going out as a

>non-escort person), I never mix business. I only work whenever

>I intend to do so, because I believe that if I dont set clear

>boundaries, my life can become really messy. I LOVE having

>good sex, and even if most of the times I fully enjoy being

>with my clients, work is work and pleasure is pleasure. I dont

>want my sexual life to become only "work" and therefore

>something mechanic and heartless. But that is the general

>rule.

>However I once found myself in such a situation. A guy

>contacted me trough a pic-site and told me that he was ready

>to make all the arrangements to fly me to his city. He sent

>pictures of his mansion, of his cars, and a landscape picture

>of his beach property, with him in it, but so little I could

>barely see him. Then he wrote something like "I hope you are a

>good top, and very passionate and I expect you to keep me

>company for the weekend and I will be very generous with you"

>Or something like that. It sounded like the typical e-mail

>that you get from clients prior a travel arrangement.

>I wrote him back asking what was that he meant, and why he was

>thinking of me for such an arrangement, but never disclosing

>the fact that I was in fact an escort, because I want to keep

>my privacy for myself and for my clients. He then told me that

>a friend of his had hired me previously and that he saw my

>non-escort pics with him and he recommended me.

>No mystery there. We all knew. Of course he became a very good

>regular faithful client. But that was the only time in which I

>have used my fun time for work. -But that's just me.

>Happy non-working times, and lots of pleasure to you!:9

 

Juan, you pretty much sussed out the situation. Thanks for the advice.

 

 

Dan Dare

:9

[Guest DevonSFescort]

One "pre-emptive" solution going forward might be to be upfront in your profile what you do for a living while still making it clear that the profile is for off-duty purposes. Then if someone replies who clearly bears no resemblance to the kind of guy you said you were looking for in your profile, you can politely respond that you're not sure whether they were interested in your services or...something else. I've gotten some great clients unexpectedly this way, while saving myself the trouble of meeting "hot" guys who think they're too good to date/hook up with a hooker.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Easy As Pie

 

If you are interested in someone who is cruising you for sex, you have sex with them. If you are not interested, you need not respond.

 

If a client is interested in hiring you, they will contact you and say so. When they do, you can then decide if you wish to accept or not.

 

There is nothing really delicate about this at all.

[Rick Munroe]

RE: Easy As Pie

 

Wow. Franco was concise and I agreed with every word. What is this world coming to?

[Guest TommyTam]

Tell him you are an escort, if him really a millionaire, he won't really care about that few handred dollars, if not...we all know who is BS.

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[Rick Munroe]

>we all know who is BS.

 

Barbra Streisand?

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Follow Your Nose

 

>>we all know who is BS.

 

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