Escort-iquette?

[Chairmans Pig]

Hi there...

Be gentle! This is my first time posting.

 

I recently emailed a 'Coverboy' from my AOL account regarding a 'visit'. I hadn't heard back so I emailed again from hotmail thinking that his response might've ended up in my spam folder.

 

I didn't hear back from the hotmail email either.

 

In my email I stated what I was after (a 3-way w/my partner)

 

I guess my question for the assembled crowd is, if an escort isn't interested in what's proposed would you reply with a 'Thanks but no thanks' or just ignore the request?

 

Thanks...

[Guest houseboy]

I would definitely respond, even if I was appalled (as I have been in the past) by the choices on the menu. A while back, I tried to contact a number of escorts regarding a possible engagement with my roommate as a belated birthday present to him. To date (6 weeks later), his birthday is forgotten and I am still waiting for a reply. Granted that there are sometimes technical issues with spam filters, viruses, worms, and what have you, but it seems that these days, even God has a faster respond time than some escorts.

 

Sean Lespagnol

Chicago, IL

http://www.seanlespagnol.com

 

"Big and tasty - every day!"

[giovoni]

You should probably find about 5 - 10 escorts that appeal to you in the same way as this coverboy that you wrote. From my own experience and those of some of my friends who also hire if you only write one person you're setting yourself up for being dissapointed.

 

There could be any number of reasons why you dind't get a reply. Some escorts are slow, some are busy. You may get a reply in a week or so after he returns from a trip in which he quite appropriately didn't check his email while with another client. You may never get a reply. In any case don't take what happens personally and move on to other people as quickly as your own patience dictates.

 

Good luck

 

Gio in Denver

 

"Never Argue with a Fool---Those around you may not notice the Difference"

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey there.

I always see our profession like any other service provider out there. If you call your phone provider and he repeatedly doesn't answer, you switch to another, right? It is all about a good service-oriented attitude.

If I was not able to provide the service that you are looking for, I would definietly let you know, and probably would refer you to somebody who can. After all, we do know each other the most of the times.

But kindness and a good attitude, will ensure us, service providers lots of business and happy customers.... and friends!

Find a kind one and have fun!!!

[Rick Munroe]

>if an escort

>isn't interested in what's proposed would you reply with a

>'Thanks but no thanks' or just ignore the request?

 

I always reply, regardless!

[VaHawk]

Good for you Rick, as that just goes to show that your reputation as a "class guy" is well-deserved!

 

Just an aside, I noticed that you and Derek don't advertise on RentBoy anymore. My only point in bringing this up, is to ask that when you did so, did you get your emails from that site when someone clicked on email the escort? I ask this because I have never received an acknowlegement back from any escort when doing so, and I've done that at least 15 times and as such, it just seems "strange" than I never got even one response. Thanks.

[+ Oliver]

God Sean -

 

You certainly do respond! }( Oh, and in answering messages, too. They are entertaining, provacative, and helpful, obviously not taken from some file of stock answers. Not only that but you say "thank you" by message afterwards, even when the menu includes grapefruit. :9

 

Oliver

[Guest gentle guy]

>Hi there...

>Be gentle!

 

You called? :+

 

 

>I guess my question for the assembled crowd is, if an escort

>isn't interested in what's proposed would you reply with a

>'Thanks but no thanks' or just ignore the request?

 

 

I think everyone, escort and otherwise, has answered the question for you: the polite, responsible thing to do would be to reply to your email. It is clear that many guys who post here, like Steven, Rick, Franco, and Sean, among others, will do so. Other guys who tend to be on the road a lot, like Benjamin Nicholas and Matt in Vancouver, may not respond immediately, but will do so as soon as they have the opportunity. Unfortunately, there are lots of guys (and I suspect they tend to be younger) who simply ignore emails. I think the absence of a response has little to do with AOL problems or mistaken spam or accidental deletions; it's simply a lack of manners (or business sense). It would great to be able to list them for shared experiences, but HB only permits no show reviews. There is no forum for a "no response" list.

 

Gio gave the best advice--don't take it personally. You may be irritated, disappointed, or both, but it's best to move on.

[VaHawk]

You make a very good point. However, I have to take exception with your observations on Benjamin’s response time to his emails (damn where are those pompoms when you need them?).

 

From my personal observations/experiences that man does not sleep! , as he is way too busy answering the 100’s of emails he receives every day. Damn, the man takes a lap top with him on the plane, so he can answer his email and has even been noted as replying via phone from a plane!

 

Based only on my own personal experiences, I can attest that Benjamin took less than 1 hour to respond to my initial email to him, and I sincerely believe that he responds as soon as possible to anyone who sends an intelligent email to him inquiring more info about him and the services that he can offer. Of course, he has enough class to turn off the phone and/or internet in order to give his entire focus to a client that he is with at the time, and that is truly appreciated by his clients, so if you experience any kind of “delay” in response, it is only because he is with a client at the time of your inquiry, but even so you will still get a quick response. Unless, of course you send some kind of crude, nasty email, in which case you shouldn’t expect a reply, as Benjamin, at least imho, does not reply to such emails.

 

Benjamin, imo, deserves all the accolades that have been expressed in the many reviews about him on this site. All the accolades about feeling that you have found a friend, are honestly TRUE! If you ever have the good fortune to be a client of Benjamin’s you will find that he will always immediately respond to an email from you, anytime and anyplace, regardless of how busy he is, and you will find his responses to be honest, caring and full of compassion! 

[Rick Munroe]

>Good for you Rick, as that just goes to show that your

>reputation as a "class guy" is well-deserved!

 

Thanks, Hawk. I am bad with sending "thank-you" notes after appointments, though (because I like to delete all info ASAP), so I probably get some demerits for that.

 

>Just an aside, I noticed that you and Derek don't advertise on

>RentBoy anymore. My only point in bringing this up, is to ask

>that when you did so, did you get your emails from that site

>when someone clicked on email the escort?

 

Yes, and I always wrote back or occasionally called back if they left a phone number. That's odd that you never got a response; sounds like your ISP could be blocking all mail from rentboy. I am not a techie but if it's happened to you 15 times, that makes sense.

[AaronScottDC]

>In my email I stated what I was after (a 3-way w/my partner)

>

>I guess my question for the assembled crowd is, if an escort

>isn't interested in what's proposed would you reply with a

>'Thanks but no thanks' or just ignore the request?

>

>Thanks...

 

You definitely shouldn't take it personally. I have contacted several escorts over the last year or so either to inquire about whether they were available for 3-ways with clients of mine that were interested, or just to say hi. MOST of the time, I don't ever hear any response. So, I guess there are a lot of really busy escorts out there, or a lot of really lazy ones. You can decide which one is true!

 

Aaron Scott DC

http://www.erados.com/AaronScottDC

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/aaronscottdc.html

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Rah Rah Rah

 

Before he became even more well-known, I wrote to BN, on his first trip to Los Angeles. I wrote to him because another escort, who would often write to me at the time, included BN on his list, so I thought - well, I would ask if he needed anything or wanted some suggestion on what I thought was his first trip to Los Angeles. I never heard back. Rick Munroe, when we did correspond with one another, always wrote back - usually to ask me to not send him any attachments as they clogged up his "in box." Some guys I write to regularly, like Jeff in Ohio, always read their e-mails but do not always respond - however, he and I speak on the phone regularly and usually catch up then.

 

It does, as someone pointed out, definitely depend on travel schedules. In the winter and early Spring, I only travel in Southern California and many days, like today, I will check my e-mail constantly and frequently. In the late spring, summer and early fall, when I am often on the road a week or more at a time, I try to check e-mails at least once a day, but I will be the first to admit that I have missed a very few days.

 

Also, in the last twelve months, even though many sites are aggressively blocking spam, the number of spam (on AOL, on Yahoo, even on a standard ISP account) has increased. Also, it takes time to respond to read and respond to every request, even if it is something you are not able to or interested in participating in.

 

It definitely requires organization and persistence; something that not all escorts - at any age or reputation - share. I counsel patience on the part of the clients, good subject lines on the e-mails and persistence as well.

 

Good luck!

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Thanks Hawkster... Email can be overwhelming

 

I do admit that lately my response time has gotten to usually more than 5 hours when emaling me, as i've been doing extensive overseas travel and Continental's airphones ALWAYS bump me off when i'm trying to get some webwork done en route. At the hefty price they charge, it makes me insane to constantly reconnect at $5 a pop...

 

In any event, email gets done efficently and i totally appreciate your 'shout-out' to me. A big thanks. As for those pom-poms, i liked them better in a shade of yellow... Goes with your complexion better *wink*

 

And to Franco: We did corresponded long ago about going for coffee in LA, so i'm quite unaware of any unanswered emails. My spam blocking tools could be the culprit, but methinks it may have simply been a webglitch. Who knows. Apologies to you though.

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[Alex Berlanti]

Hi I always try to maintain a high level of professionalism in my work. I have a great deal of respect and concern for all of my clients and future potential clients. I will always respond to an e-mail sent to me even if it may not be to my liking. And I will be the first to appololgize if I do not respond in a timely manner, in which case I was out of town.

 

Best Wishes.

 

Alex Berlanti

[+ Lucky]

All I know is that if Benjamin Nicholas sent me an email, I'd respond! I wonder if he has any Latin cousins...

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

What's your email addy again Lucky?

 

Would you like that email dirty or oh-so-clean? A little verbage in the form of heavy breathing looks a little silly on the computer screen, so we may just have to take this to the tele.

 

*wink*

 

... and as always, that'll be $2.99- $4.99 a minute. You'll be calling into India BTW. My new phonesex service has just outsourced and all of our operators are now in Bangalore instead of West Hollywood.

 

Here's hoping you find the new accent sexy.

 

*snicker*

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[Guest skrubber]

Oh, the phenomenon known as Benjamin Nicholas. VaHawk let us join pompoms in a salute to the most fantastic escort on the face of the planet.

 

Everybody loves Backa Baa.

[Chuck50]

Here Here the 9ninth wonder of the WOrld BN HUGS Chuck:P :P

[+ Lucky]

That's very funny! See you get me hard and make me laugh! That sure calls for pom poms!

[+ friendofsheila]

Thanks for posting this. I was just about to post something similar based on my not getting replies this last week.

 

Now, I plan to give the 2 guys in question just one more try via email instead of voicemail, then chalk it up to being overworked, bad manners (and blame their moms, as Miss Manners says to do!:+ ) or poor business sense if I get no reply.

[btmstudnyc]

>I guess my question for the assembled crowd is, if an escort

>isn't interested in what's proposed would you reply with a

>'Thanks but no thanks' or just ignore the request?

>

 

All pro guys respond no matter what. Some out of town, some missed the hour or the date of the request and don't bother cause it is too late, and others get their mail back because they are blocked or the address doesn't allow mail from the escort's ISP. Best thing to do is email AND call. If they don't mail or call...then it's just an anonymous bullshit artist.

 

JIM