I think you forgot to pay me!

[Guest Lorenzo]

Today I experienced something that never happened to me before. I would like to hear your opinion. After my client and I spent some time together, he got dressed, thanked me for a great time, and said good-bye without paying me. I didn't know what to do...finally I told him that he had forgotten to pay me. He was VERY apologetic, said that I should take that as a compliment, that he could barely remember his name, and paid me. I felt horrible having to ask. He is from out of town, not a regular, and I would probably never see him again. Still, I felt really bad, even thought for a split second to just let him go without paying. I also refuse to ask for the money up front, just not my thing. Has anything similar happened to you guys?

 

Lorenzo

[Boston Guy]

It's happened to me on the other side... if it's a really, really good time, the memory can slip. I wouldn't think anything of it, especially if he was appropriately apologetic.

 

BG

[Guest Lorenzo]

Thanks, BG. That makes me feel better!

Lorenzo

[guyinsf]

I once forgot to pay a guy I hire regularly. He handled it exactly the way you did: a gentle reminder that I hadn't yet paid. Another time I underpaid him, a fact I didn't realize until he had been gone for hours. I called him very apologetically. Given how regularly we see each other, he knew I my mistake wasn't deliberate.

 

Sounds like you handled the situation well. (I definitely think it would have been a mistake for you to have let him leave without reminding him to pay you.)

[Guest jeffOH]

Yes Lorenzo, it's happened to me, more than once. I'll say something like, "I think you've forgotten something". I once had a client leave without paying, I didn't notice and he called me later that day to tell me. He then mailed it to me with a substantial tip.

 

JEFF

jeff4men@hotmail.com

[alanalt]

I think you handled an awkward situation well. As a client I always leave an enevlope in plain sight with an escort's name on it with the fee inside. I usually draw the escort's attention to it when he arrives and, so far, it's always been gone when he leaves! ;-)

 

One of the main reasons I do it that way is because I don't trust my memory and it won't result in an awkward moment at the end of the session...

 

So, yes, I think that it's entirely possible for a client to forget...

 

Alan

[Gigiloz4me]

I've done it... but when the escort asked "did you forget something?" I said, "I don't think so, why?" When he motioned payment... we both cracked up laughing because it was definitely 'to his credit!!'

[chrismac]

I've done it before too. I was with an escort at my house in Portland, OR one evening, and after a great two-hour session which ended late, he had to go. So he got up and after a last kiss and a laugh, he left. It was our second meeting. Just as I was walking back to the living room, I remembered the money - and headed back to the door. He was coming back to the door himself (obviously for the same thing). I apologized profusely, and we laughed some more. He said he had such a great time, it just slipped his mind too.

 

Made the session that much more enjoyable and memorable.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Yes, the do

 

>I think you handled an awkward situation well.

 

 

And as others have mentioned, Lorenzo, yes, you did handle the situation well. I never ask for the money up front, I believe this is inappropriate. Some clients do leave the money out in plain view but other clients prefer not to do this, as they have been "burned" by escorts who have taken the money upfront and not "performed" as expected or agreed upon.

 

Most of the time, I would say nearly all of the time, my clients have remembered, but I recently had this similar situation in which a client and I had an enjoyable and intimate experience in my hotel room, then took a cab together for a post-coital meal. We had a great meal, excellent conversation and then we shared a cab back to my hotel room and he was going to continue in the cab to his home. In front of my hotel room, as we were saying our goodbyes, I was aware that I had not been paid and I did not want to be the one to bring it up, but obviously, the situation was such that I had to. I felt uncomfortable mentioning it in front of a can driver, so I leaned over and sotto voice asked, the client laughed, apologized and took out some money, which I put into my pocket without counting it.

 

I do not know that there is ever a good way to handle this and this has been discussed before on the site and as I recall, Deej, among other clients, mentioned that it is as much the client's responsibility to remember the fee as it is the escorts, but the best we can do is be polite in reminding.

 

 

 

 

Building better bottoms one orgasm at a time.

 

http://www.gaydar.co.uk/francodisantis

[+ deej]

RE: Yes, the do

 

>Deej, among other clients, mentioned that it is as much the

>client's responsibility to remember the fee as it is the

>escorts, but the best we can do is be polite in reminding.

 

Actually, I think I said that about condoms. But I agree. EVERYTHING about one of these engagements is the responsibility of both parties.

[tedbear]

I have forgotten to pay twice. The most recent, the guy asked if I had forgotten something. I had been so happy with our date, I sort of felt as if we were two new friends parting ways for the evening. I'm very glad (and embarrassed) he asked.

 

The other time, we both forgot. We'd been together a couple of times and we were very comfortable with each other. I remembered after he was in the elevator (I live in a highrise), so I was able to call the doorman and ask that he tell my date he'd left something upstairs and to go back up! That time, he was more embarrassed than I was, and one thing led to another and we had a mini-session in my foyer!

 

Granted, it shouldn't happen, but if it does, feel free to ask if somethings been forgotten. Your client may be embarrassed, but unless he's an asshole who was trying to get out of paying you in the first place, he'll be glad you mentioned it. And it may just be a sign that he was very comfortable with you.

[VaHawk]

RE: Yes, the do

 

>And as others have mentioned, Lorenzo, yes, you did handle the

>situation well.

 

I agree that Lorenzo handled the situation very, very well especially considering how tactful he was. But, I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND how a client, especially a first timer could possibly not have the agreed upon fee readily available and on his person and forget??? Was he totally wasted on something??????

 

> I never ask for the money up front, I believe

>this is inappropriate. Some clients do leave the money out in

>plain view but other clients prefer not to do this, as they

>have been "burned" by escorts who have taken the money upfront

>and not "performed" as expected or agreed upon.

 

That's because you are an honest, caring and trusting person. Really, I totally dismiss any escort who asks to see the money out in the open, but that is just me as many clients have no problem with that and I can understand an escort, especially one who has been bilked before requesting that. And I really would like to know what escort has never demanded to be paid in full, regardless of his performance or lack thereof? If any exist, I haven't met them yet! Really, there is nothing worse than having to pay some escort who can't or won't perform as agreed upon!

 

>I do not know that there is ever a good way to handle this and

>this has been discussed before on the site and as I recall,

>Deej, among other clients, mentioned that it is as much the

>client's responsibility to remember the fee as it is the

>escorts, but the best we can do is be polite in reminding.

 

I still don't understand how a client could forget???? If somehow he did, then the best the escort can do is be polite, as you state, but I would expect that only if the client is a regular, repeat client, not a first time client.

[Bilbo]

We seem to be coming up with as many stories about escorts who forgot to pick up the money as with clients who forgot to give it. Which is beautiful!! Just a note though - Those of you who leave the money out in an envelope for the escort, etc. = It seems like you had better check when he leaves to make sure he took it with him.

[Rick Munroe]

>I have forgotten to pay twice. The most recent, the guy asked

>if I had forgotten something. I had been so happy with our

>date, I sort of felt as if we were two new friends parting

>ways for the evening.

 

Tedbear, I think that's why it's happened to me more than a few times. For me, it almost never feels like "work" and by the end of a session, I often do feel like I've just made a new friend (or sex buddy). That makes total sense that they'd forget about the transaction part...and it's never weird or uncomfortable when I have to remind them. It's just one more thing about which I can make a smartass wisecrack and end on a laugh.

[tedbear]

> I'm very glad (and embarrassed) he

>asked.

 

Just a note to clarify--I was embarrassed that I had forgotten to pay, not that he had asked me about it.