Getting Started

[sashek]

Hi Guys,

I'd like to ask the escorts here about how you got started in the escorting business, since it's an unusual (but honourable) career choice :-) ... Obviously, finances were part of it, but were there other considerations? Any insights into how you felt about your first escorting experiences would be really interesting to hear. Thanks for sharing!

Sashek

[btmstudnyc]

Sashek, I think this post was done before...but I'm sure a new one is good for all the people we didn't hear from before.

 

I started out as a masseur....then became an erotic masseur and then an escort. I never really thought about it until I was asked to do it by a client. I never really thought there was anything wrong with it since I have been working on bodies for so long. It seemed like a natural progression to me. I have worked on so many different types of people. I have worked on people from the handicapped to the athlete...both as an escort and a masseur. I enjoyed it because it was very gratifying to make someone feel completely relaxed and comfortable.

 

I have to say that I feel useful to this world at that point. NOT USED.

 

There are books about it too...although I have to admit I have never read any. I know other guys started from rougher backgrounds and do it for entirely different reasons. Some may say that it probably is the result of sexual addiction. I think everyone has their own reasons for starting and continuing.

 

I have to admit...I wanted to do this when I was 19 but was a chicken. Don't you think it is funny for someone to start this career so late in life.....

 

I'm curious why you asked this question. Are you thinking of starting your career? Do Escorts puzzle you?

 

JIM

If it dont fit, force it

btmstudnyc@aol.com

[sashek]

Hi Btmstud,

Thanks for replying to my post. I guess I should see if I can find the "archive" on here so I don't keep asking questions that have been asked before. Anyway, I'm 50 years old, and about 80 pounds overweight, so I don't think there's much future for me as an escort :- ) ... Rather, I asked this question because I find the escorts who post on here to be some of the most honest and open men I've encountered. I grew up in a rural, red-necked part of Canada, and it took me a long time to come to terms with being gay - let alone with being as comfortable with my sexuality as you guys appear to be. Also, I haven't (yet) met any escorts in person, only street hustlers who didn't the least bit interested in me as an individual. You guys are in a totally different class, and really seem to care about your clients, and I'm interested by that. I hope my question didn't come across as being offensive, because it certainly wasn't meant that way. Thanks again for responding.

Sashek

[Guest jeffOH]

>since it's an unusual (but honourable)

>career choice :-)

 

I like your attitude already!:-)

 

Well, I had worked in retail management for a few years after college. I thought I wanted some sort of a career in fashion. I realized it was something I didn't want to do for living.

 

It was August 1991 and I had been working as an assistant manager at an upscale women's shoe store when the company went bankrupt and they closed 30 stores. This had just happened to me at another company just 2 years earlier. I thought it was a sign from God to get out of retail.

 

A guy I had sort-of-dated/had lots of sex with was working for an escort agency. I'd always thought it was something that I would like to try. So, I talked to him about it, he hooked me up with the agency for which he worked and I saw my first client the same day I "applied" for the job. He was a good-looking, blond, blue-eyed married man. It was so easy for me. I felt great afterward. I regretted not doing it sooner.

 

I worked for the agency for about a year before I decided to eliminate the middle-man and keep all my HARD-earned money for my self.}(

 

Escorting has been a fulltime gig for me for the past 12 years except for a 1 1/2 year stint at Marshall Field's during which I saw mostly regulars. I snapped one day and never went back. I'd proven to myself beyond a shadow of a doubt that I absolutely hated retail.

 

I think I've gotten better as an escort over the past dozen years. I do still enjoy it, but I'm also at a point where I'm looking at the next stage of my life.

 

Next Tuesday will be the BIG 4-0 for me. I'm facing a weekend of endless reminders(dinner/lunches w/friends, a party)that I'm the age I once considered to be OLD. But, I've decided to embrace it, celebrate it. I look around at the wonderful friends I have and I feel alot of love. Sure, for me, escorting hasn't terribly conducive for dating so I've been single for 11 out my 12 years of escorting. I've had alot of time to really get to know my self. It's been a true spiritual journey. That's been a good thing.

 

Escorting has been so good to me and not just financially. I've met so

many wonderful, interesting guys. I've heard so many stories. It's been great, making a living at something I truly enjoy.

 

Joseph Campbell was fond of saying FOLLOW YOUR BLISS! I did, I'm continuing to do that and highly recommend it to anyone who has the opportunity to do so.

 

JEFF

jeff4men@hotmail.com

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Greetings~

 

My 'intro to escorting' was pretty simple, but something i've never considered as a longterm career option. I was fresh out of college & a friend of mine had made a name for himself in the industry (escorting) already. We had talked about the positive & negative aspects to it and i decided to give it a whirl, as i was in a rut with an ad firm i was working with. Although nervous in my initial month as a workingboy, things took off and it's been nothing but good-times ever since.

 

I make no bones about saying that this isn't a 'job' in the traditional sense~ Honestly, anyone who considers this tougher work than say a drive-thru attendant at McDonalds should just consider another career choice. If you become an escort for anything other than travel, security and sex, you're in it for the wrong reasons. I've met too many other escorts out there who are miserable because they focus too much on the money & fake everything else.

 

 

They burnout, backout & bloat~ eventually retiring into obscurity and faltering back into the 'real world'

 

 

My advice to any newbie escort just starting off: Don't squander the opportunities you're given in this business. Take the friendships you make and turn them into contacts. Most importantly, SAVE SAVE SAVE while learning to invest your money wisely.

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[Guest jwraustin]

Such good advice and wisdom comming from "the kid" down the road from me.

 

I think that was well put and definitely right to the point.

 

Jon Dean

http://www.manfuck.net

[Rick Munroe]

>I was

>fresh out of college

>...i was in a rut with an ad firm i was

>working with.

 

Fresh out of college but already in a rut at your job? And I thought I had a short attention span!

 

>If you become an escort for

>anything other than travel, security and sex, you're in it for

>the wrong reasons.

 

Where's the security? This can be a dangerous & unpredictable profession.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Honestly Rick~ Would it kill you to give me a pat on the back every now & then? Sometimes i wonder...

 

There is MUCH security in this profession, IF you're willing to forgo expensive tastes & a lifestyle that would drain any incoming income. A combination of CD's, Money Markets, stocks & other LT investments will serve me well 20-40 years down the line because of the financial security i have set up for myself (and my partner).

 

There are many times when i would love to go out, blow a ton of cash on something totally frivillous & sweat about it later. Unfortunately, it's become second-nature to me that this is something that won't last forever (and shouldn't) & i'll be needing a decent cushion for the transfer back into 9-5 work. Basically, i'm being as smart as i can be monetarily because down the road anything can happen...

 

 

As for having a short-attention span~ probably Being a creative ad man is a tough business & burnout is inevitable with most. Funny this is, it's not too much unlike escorting really. Maybe that's why i enjoy what i do so much

 

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Thanks Jon

 

Why haven't we met for lunch? Is Magnolia Cafe still around? Email me & let's make some plans to get some grub...

 

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

How When Where and WHY?

 

As we all know what, the where was San Francisco, the when was the first Bush depression/deflation/economic downturn. The how and the why are more complicated and simple, so I will provide you with the simple: guys I knew who did this and also did porn suggested both because I had a big enough penis and liked (and was told I was good at) sex. I expected to go back to doing what I had done professionally (which was the case), and adult films would have precluded that possibility.

 

Now, this is what I do full time, and like Jeff, I expect to do something different with myself in a year or two, where the fact that my face has been on escort advertising will not matter either to me or to the people who will hire me, who will still be clients, except the only intimate thing that will occur between us is the preparation of food, which I personally consider a very intimate act indeed.

[Rick Munroe]

>Honestly Rick~ Would it kill you to give me a pat on the back

>every now & then?

 

OK, I'll give you a pat on the back, I'll rub your belly, and if you're really good, I'll toss you a bone.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Getting treated like a dog... I feel so kinky

 

 

Where's my damn collar then? I want accessories.

 

 

 

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[Guest Derek Ross]

>Where's my damn collar then? I want accessories.

 

Listen Benji, I know you got your tail waggin' for some Coach accessories...but you're only getting a chain and rope in this house. You'll have to earn the better goods.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

Just remember, I got dibs on the Scooby Snacks. :+

[btmstudnyc]

Aw, Come on Derek....you know that Rick has bought some VINTAGE GUCCI collar worn by BENJI from EBAY that you KNOW you need to just give away....

 

He said he only collects CELEBRITY BITCHES...BENJI hence Celebrity...DOG...hence BITCH.

 

Damn this post turned corners.

 

If it dont fit, force it

btmstudnyc@aol.com

[nate_sf]

I first got into escorting during my last summer in college, as I ran through the last of my student loan money. I'd known a masseur who had previously escorted, and had found the whole idea really intriguing, so I gave it a go as an "erotic masseur." Money was a big motivation, and I have to admit I loved the feeling of deposting cash into the ATM rather than pulling it out all the time, and being to pay my bills without having to hit up my parents. But I also really liked the encounters themselves, and enjoyed meeting the different guys. I honestly have to admit also that the idea that somebody wanted to pay me for sex, and call back to do it again, was a big deal for me since I had been kind of nerdy back in high school, and this actually built my confidence. Therapy through escorting!

 

After college, I took on conventional jobs for a few years, and eventually found myself working in a really boring suburban office park, with nothing to do at lunch. I first started just looking for tricks at lunch and after work, but eventually thought I'd try my hand at escorting again, both for the extra cash and to regain some of the thrill from before. Now a few years older, though, I attracted a totally different clientele, and found the encounters even more interesting and enjoyable than before. I met some great guys and found I enjoyed the escorting more than the tricks I'd been doing previously since there were set paramaters with the appointments and the sex was better. Again this was a boost to my confidence, and this translated into more confidence and assertiveness in my "real" job, which I continued to maintain. As before, going into this I never would have imagined that I'd be building my confidence and personality through escorting, but I soon realized that that was happening.

 

So earlier this year my "real" job and escorting finally became incompatible, since I was doing well in my career and needing to devote more time to it, and finding it harder or impossible to schedule escorting appointments on a regular basis. I regret having to drop the escorting since I really enjoyed it but knew I needed to look after my priorities, and that my career has better prospects over the long term than escorting. But I also realize that the escorting has played a part in me doing well in my career, as strange as it would seem.

 

OK, that's going a bit beyond your original question about getting started, but there's my story!