Bottoms who come too soon.

[latinolover]

What I meant was that in my experience with these guys who cum when being fucked, as soon as this happens they find that continuing is either painful or whatever, so I stop and I'm the one who has to jack off later!

I'm genuinely curious to know from you escort guys if you get into a situation where the client is up there pumping away, and you're thinking "for god's sake how much longer is he going to take before he cums" and so bring things to an early conclusion as I have described.

[Flower]

>I'm genuinely curious to know from you escort guys if you get

>into a situation where the client is up there pumping away,

>and you're thinking "for god's sake how much longer is he

>going to take before he cums" and so bring things to an early

>conclusion as I have described.

 

 

...and you REALLY expect a lot of public confessions?

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>What I meant was that in my experience with these guys who

>cum when being fucked, as soon as this happens they find that

>continuing is either painful or whatever, so I stop and I'm

>the one who has to jack off later!

 

Question: other than your being inside them longer (and I don't mean to downplay the pleasure value of that), what would have been different if they had cum later rather than sooner? If what you're saying is that you like to cum while you're inside the bottom, then as a matter of respect for your partner's safety boundaries (whether he's an escort or not) I hope you're letting him know that beforehand. Many bottoms, even though they're using a condom, prefer that the guy pull out and shoot his load on them to minimize risks in case the condom's faulty or tears, etc. (Plus some guys just find it hotter to see the cum shot.) There's also the fact that many tops can't cum inside condoms and so the escort may well be used to a different norm than what you're used to.

 

The thing about sex with strangers is, the stranger comes with his own set of assumptions and expectations, and chances are at least some of them won't quite line up with yours. So if there's something specific you need to feel like you've had a good time, LET HIM KNOW, both for your sake and for his. Just saying "I like to top" may be too broad a statement for the outcum -- sorry :7 -- that you have in mind.

 

Also, as guyinsf suggested in the thread about tops, look for reviews that mention the bottom's staying power and remarkable powers of recuperation. There are some bottoms out there who can keep getting fucked after they've cum and that trait will not go long unremarked upon in the reviews.

 

But let's say you've taken all these precautions and the escort still cums sooner than you'd like. What I find curious is that you seem to be saying that once that happens the show's over. Apart from a quick wipe-off there's no need to skip a beat -- there are other ways to bring about an orgasm (yours), and if he's a decent guy the escort won't just lay there like a bump on a log once he's gotten off.

 

>I'm genuinely curious to know from you escort guys if you get

>into a situation where the client is up there pumping away,

>and you're thinking "for god's sake how much longer is he

>going to take before he cums" and so bring things to an early

>conclusion as I have described.

 

Yes, I have met escorts who do just that, who basically think that the sooner an encounter was over the better -- they're called people who don't like their jobs very much -- and no, they're not the kinds of guys who post on message boards. It's impossible to know whether you've been with guys who just got excited and came or guys who did it deliberately to wind things down (both types are out there); suffice to say that it'll take a certain amount of pre-appointment screening, good communication with the guys you do hire, and alas, a certain amount of trial and error before you get what you're looking for.

[Rick Munroe]

>if there's something specific you need to feel like you've had

>a good time, LET HIM KNOW, both for your sake and for his.

>Just saying "I like to top" may be too broad a statement

 

True, but that's not always possible or advisable. Some guys are apprehensive (& rightfully so...think about it) about getting too explicit in emails or phone calls. We all sort of have to say what we want in specifically vague terms. I guess he could say, "When I'm escorted on a journey where I am the driver, I prefer the trip to keep going until my vehicle has run out of gas, regardless of whether or not you, in the passenger seat, have spilled your McDonald's thick shake that you got at the drive-thru." :+

 

>Apart from a quick wipe-off

>there's no need to skip a beat --

 

Dev, I think this belongs in the "Great...FUCK...Songs" thread over in the Lounge.

[nate_sf]

>I'm genuinely curious to know from you escort guys if you get

>into a situation where the client is up there pumping away,

>and you're thinking "for god's sake how much longer is he

>going to take before he cums" and so bring things to an early

>conclusion as I have described.

 

As others have said here, cumming to get a session over quickly is not the mark of a good escort. But regardless of whether you're with an escort or another partner, if you're having those nagging doubts, ask him how he's doing from time to time. He'll probably say everything's great, but watch his response and use your intuition. I do this several times during a session just to make sure, since a lot of times we're not used to talking about these things, especially during sex.

You didn't say how much time we're talking about here... if we're talking about an hour of fucking (more power to you!) you may want to pass this by the escort beforehand, just so he won't be caught by surprise and can pace things. Some guys love long fuck sessions, others maybe not as much, so you want to find someone who loves what you love. If we're talking more like a few minutes, and this is happening to you a lot, then for better or for worse it sounds like they're just too turned on, and can't help themselves. Like others have said here, if they're good, they'll be able to refill in a few minutes for more.

;-)

[+ deej]

One of the greatest compliments ever paid to me (indirectly) was an escort who shot his load while I was fucking him and then groaned "keep going!" and shot again just about the time I did. It was so good we cuddled for an hour or so and repeated it.

 

Some guys just can't hold back when you're banging away at their prostate gland.

 

I've always had my doubts about a guy that cums too soon just to get it over with. If he's hating it so much, won't it be more difficult to get off in the first place?

[Guest GuyNextDoor]

>Many bottoms,

>even though they're using a condom, prefer that the guy pull

>out and shoot his load on them to minimize risks in case the

>condom's faulty or tears, etc.

 

Oh, this is going to sound so naive but -- it's OK & common to ask the top to pull out before he cums? Thinking especially of non-paid romps when both sides are equal.

[+ deej]

If that's your comfort level, babe, don't just ask for it ... DEMAND it.

 

And that doesn't just apply to escorts you hire. If you want your top to pull out before he comes, only you can bring that about.

 

If you don't learn how to say NO you're open to all sort of abuses and how can you ever really have a good time if you're doing stuff you can't feel good about?

 

Your limits are yours. Enforcement is yours also.