Isrhunter Posted April 7, 2022 Share Posted April 7, 2022 As a top I feel like often times a provider who is my taste but come to find out he is a top/dominant only. Do you feel that it is easier for us who are tops or for those of us who are bottoms? Topbreed, Cruiser7 and muscmtl 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Todd Jenkins Posted April 7, 2022 Share Posted April 7, 2022 1 hour ago, Isrhunter said: As a top I feel like often times a provider who is my taste but come to find out he is a top/dominant only. Do you feel that it is easier for us who are tops or for those of us who are bottoms? It's VERY hard as a TOP client to find a HOT, MUSCULAR bottom provider. I thought I had found the PERFECT GUY recently, but after a few months of 'getting to know each other,' he's completely ghosted me. I am debating sharing his name here. MikeBiDude, Isrhunter, muscmtl and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mike carey Posted April 7, 2022 Share Posted April 7, 2022 3 minutes ago, Todd Jenkins said: It's VERY hard as a TOP client to find a HOT, MUSCULAR bottom provider. I thought I had found the PERFECT GUY recently, but after a few months of 'getting to know each other,' he's completely ghosted me. I am debating sharing his name here. If you have had conversations or even met, and he has decided to stop talking to you, I would say keep your peace. He has decided to move on. An explanation would have been nice, but I don't think he is under any obligation to give you one. Either of you could have done that. If, on the other hand he has ghosted you on an appointment, it's not unreasonable to share that information here. Isrhunter, needbodywork and Cruiser7 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epigonos Posted April 7, 2022 Share Posted April 7, 2022 Most escorts don't want to spend "a few months" communicating with a potential client. After that much time, I would imagine, they come to the conclusion that the clients is NOT serious about setting up a meeting and is wasting their time. Thus they sever communication. pubic_assistance, Kevin Slater, + cougar and 2 others 2 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isrhunter Posted April 7, 2022 Author Share Posted April 7, 2022 A few months is too much time to talk. Best to keep it short and direct. Act25 and Kevin Slater 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ KensingtonHomo Posted April 7, 2022 Share Posted April 7, 2022 As a bottom, I sometimes find that providers who top have a script in mind that isn't necessarily what I'm looking for. I also find many of them present themselves as "masc" and humorless. I'm attracted to a variety of gender expression but lack of humor is a turn off. But I don't necessarily fault those providers because gay male culture mostly regards masculinity as superior to femininity. And we've seen even on here people besmirching femme or just not uber butch providers. Rand, HoseMaster, jtwalker and 1 other 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wanderoz Posted April 8, 2022 Share Posted April 8, 2022 L 17 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said: As a bottom, I sometimes find that providers who top have a script in mind that isn't necessarily what I'm looking for. I also find many of them present themselves as "masc" and humorless. I'm attracted to a variety of gender expression but lack of humor is a turn off. But I don't necessarily fault those providers because gay male culture mostly regards masculinity as superior to femininity. And we've seen even on here people besmirching femme or just not uber butch providers. Yes. Too few tops get that it is about pleasure for & sharing control with both top & bottom. I am vers & I think that helps me to know both sides of the situation. + KensingtonHomo and HoseMaster 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amused1 Posted April 8, 2022 Share Posted April 8, 2022 18 hours ago, KensingtonHomo said: As a bottom, I sometimes find that providers who top have a script in mind that isn't necessarily what I'm looking for. I also find many of them present themselves as "masc" and humorless. I'm attracted to a variety of gender expression but lack of humor is a turn off. But I don't necessarily fault those providers because gay male culture mostly regards masculinity as superior to femininity. And we've seen even on here people besmirching femme or just not uber butch providers. I too find that a number of tops seem to feel they have to be overly serious. It's not like we're getting together to propagate the species here. In my case it's about experiencing the unique pleasure of being with another man. I enjoy that connection and often laugh with joy during get togethers. Some tops get it and it's a blast (Alex Ward & Joshnineplus for example). Some more serious tops take my expression of joy as some sort of negative comment on their performance. Those gentleman tend to go in my "too bad, so sad" file. + KensingtonHomo 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted April 8, 2022 Share Posted April 8, 2022 (edited) I've never hired a top...but I would expect that they were the more difficult match. I remember when I was younger, ( and would bottom for older men ) there was a BIG range of skills amongst top men. The only thing I ask of a bottom is to NOT lay there like road-kill. The rest I can manage on my own. Edited April 9, 2022 by pubic_assistance Isrhunter, + KensingtonHomo, thomas and 5 others 1 3 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HoseMaster Posted April 9, 2022 Share Posted April 9, 2022 On 4/7/2022 at 10:31 AM, Todd Jenkins said: It's VERY hard as a TOP client to find a HOT, MUSCULAR bottom provider. I thought I had found the PERFECT GUY recently, but after a few months of 'getting to know each other,' he's completely ghosted me. I am debating sharing his name here. So were you just communicating those few months of getting to know each other, or did you actually meet up several times over those few months, like him, and then he ghosted you? peter831 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jtwalker Posted April 9, 2022 Share Posted April 9, 2022 (edited) As a bottom, it’s sometimes hard to find anything other than a wham-bam-thank you-man. Many tops just want to top, but I prefer the passion and extras over quick sex. Edited April 9, 2022 by jtwalker typo bluestorm, + KensingtonHomo, Rand and 3 others 2 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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