clients who don't watch the clock

[Guest j2435]

I have read many reviews from clients who praise escorts who don't watch the clock. But my question concerns clients who don't watch the clock.

 

With outcalls, obviously the escort controls when he leaves, by going out the door. I always hire escorts who do incalls. Often, after the sex, I like to lie with the escort and cuddle. Conversation always takes place. I try to be concienscious and not stay beyond the agreed upon two hours (or whatever), but so often I am enjoying myself and forget the time.

 

I admit I am not very good at reading subtle signals. I suppose it is very likely an escort may at times be subtly trying to get me to leave, and I totally am oblivious.

 

What are some of the things escorts do to get rid of clients who have overstayed their welcome and just can't figure out when it is time to leave?

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>What are some of the things escorts do to get rid of clients

>who have overstayed their welcome and just can't figure out

>when it is time to leave?

 

"Time's up - honey" always works.

 

Thunderbuns

[+ deej]

>"Time's up - honey" always works.

 

Yep.

 

And any client who hears it should hang his head in shame.

 

We complain when escorts abuse us by not giving us the full time we've paid for, but we're more than happy to be oblivious to the passage of time.

 

It's our responsiblity, as good clients, to at least notice when the time is about up and at the very least mention it. It's a matter of respect for the other individual in the bed (or on the dining room table or the laundry room floor or the pool table or whatever).

 

It's a respect issue.

[+ Charlie]

Since I tend to hire dominant tops nowadays, I figure it is up to the escort to bring the scene to a close when he is ready, as long as he isn't drastically shortening the time agreed to beforehand. I don't watch the clock while I'm having sex, but I do check as soon as we have finished, and sometimes I find that we have gone over the scheduled time. I immediately mention that fact, and leave it up to the escort to make the next move. If it is clear that he wants to terminate the appointment right away, because of his comments or his body language, I clean up and dress as quickly as possible, and leave. If it has been a good scene, I usually give him a tip to thank him for not rushing. However, quite often he gives no indication that he wants to end the appointment, and sometimes does things to prolong it further, like offering a drink or a smoke or opening a conversational gambit. I figure that is a signal that we are moving into a different, social situation. If it looks like a one hour appointment is turning into more than two hours, possibly with a resumption of sex, I mention that I didn't come prepared to pay for a longer session (my escort budget is very restricted, in fact) and assure him that I don't want to monopolize his time. The ball is definitely in his court then, and if he isn't explicit about wanting to terminate the appointment at that point, then you shouldn't feel guilty about staying on.

 

Only once did I face a situation in which the escort was in control of the time (in a room without a clock), took two hours for a one hour appointment, and then expected to be paid for two hours. Most classy escorts are more interested in the quality of the experience than the timing, and if they encourage you to stay longer it's probably because they are enjoying themselves. However, some young or inexperienced escorts may be shy or socially inept at getting across what they want, so in that situation it is your responsibility to watch the clock and be clear about your expectations (and also not take advantage of the escort).

[Guest superbob]

As an escort in Paris, I find it really easy to end my sessions. Before we get started I ask the client whether he would like me to inform him when his time is up or should we continue with no time limit. I stress that after the first hour each additional half hour will be charged. Normallt they understand very quickly and either they tell me to inform them or they keep looking at the clock themselves:-)!

[Guest Hole_4_Hire]

For first time clients (and repeats who consistently go over), I always make sure to carry a cheap watch with an alarm. (I emphasize cheap watch because I have been known to leave the watch sitting on the night stand.)

 

Prior to the meeting, I set the alarm to go off 30 minutes after the session should end. If we finish on time, I'm out the door and the client never hears the alarm. (They aren't even aware I've been timing the session.)

 

If we run over, the alarm sounds and the client is reminded of the time without me having to bring up the subject. It has happened several times with new clients. Only once did the guy not apologize and offer to pay additional for the extra time. I usually don't take the extra money but merely say, "Since we're both having such a good time, maybe we should book a longer session next time. I'd love spending more time with you."

 

I actually have one clients who asks me to watch the time because he gets so involved he often forgets to check the clock.

[Guest Emily Litella]

What's all this I hear about clients not watching the cock? Isn't cock what it's all about? And why should they watch it, anyway? Isn't it much more fun to suck cock than to watch it? I mean, I've heard of safe sex but just watching the cock...that's just ridiculous!

[Uncle Bill]

OK, I'll be the "straight man" (although I might not have the proper phrasing):

 

No, Ms. Littela, it was "watch the clock" -- "CLOCK", not "cock".

[ad rian]

>It's our responsiblity, as good clients, to at least notice

>when the time is about up and at the very least mention it.

>It's a matter of respect for the other individual in the bed

>(or on the dining room table or the laundry room floor or

>the pool table or whatever).

>

I generally agree, but what about the situation where the escort who is a regular agrees to 1 hour, but the festivities continue through the hour. Is it really up to the client to jump up and stay stop or to consider pacing himself? Isn't it also possible that some escorts wilingly and knowingly lengthen the time in the hopes of inducing a fee for the second hour? I have almost never had that problem personally, or certainly not where the escort insists on being paid for the extra time. More often, both of us just say wow, that was fun, I guess we lost track of time. If it happens repeatedly, then I agree more time should be scheduled in advance, or one or both parties need to better consider pacing!

[+ deej]

>I generally agree, but what about the situation where the

>escort who is a regular agrees to 1 hour, but the

>festivities continue through the hour. Is it really up to

>the client to jump up and stay stop or to consider pacing

>himself?

 

I'm not saying to pop out of bed like bread from a toaster.

 

Ding! Time's up!

 

I'm saying that being unaware of the passage of time can be disrespectful, coming from either side. Respect should always be rule #1.

 

Of course, like so many other things, it depends. ;-)

 

With two of my all-time favorites, I whispered in their ear that time was almost up and they whispered back "I'm in no hurry", or words to that effect.

 

Respect is a two-way street.

[Guest sdmuscl4hire]

My "subtle" hint is to get up and get a warm wash cloth to let him wipe his hands off to prepare for his shower

 

 

Works everytime

 

http://www.michaeljohnsonxxx.com

[Guest Chazzz69]

I am very consious of the escort's time and if its an out call I make the extra effort to offer the escort a ride home. This allows us a little extra time together and has led to some intersting conversations.

 

While I do not keep an eye on the clock I keep it in a location that both the escort and I can easily catch a glimpse of during our session. There are many ways to keep track of the time without being a blatant clock watcher. I will put on a CD that I know exactly how long it runs and can use this as a guide as well.

 

With my regular that I see on an almost montly basis we have dispensed with the whole time issue altogether. Our sessions have run over the two hour limit and I always make sure to tip extra since he works for an agency. Depening on how far over its $50 to $100. This does not happen with every session but its easy to get carried away when I am pounding his tight muscle butt.

 

It should be up to both parties to make sure that there is an understanding of the situation if the session goes over the agreed time. Fortunately for me when I have been in a session that goes over the escort has said he was having a great time and did not want to end so we keep going. Lucky me. :9

 

Chazzz69

[chrismac]

>I am very consious of the escort's time and if its an out

>call I make the extra effort to offer the escort a ride

>home. This allows us a little extra time together and has

>led to some intersting conversations.

 

When I met JeffOH several months ago at his apartment in Columbus, he actually offered and gave ME a ride back to my hotel (I had taken a cab to his place).

 

Now THAT'S service!!!!

[Guest cnjguy]

I think it is the escort's responsibility to "watch the clock". He is offering the services and should keep track of how much he is providing for the amount he is getting paid. I don't think this is a respect issue (although a client should never take advantage of an escort). It is up to the escort to say "time is up". If the escort doesn't do this why should the client be ashamed, apologize and agree to pay more? I don't think escorts should expect this if they allow the session to run over. I almost always want the meeting to run longer but usually the escort lets me know when it is time for him to go.

[CT Dick]

Thank you for the warning, Superbob. When in Paris, I'll be sure to avoid you.

 

I cannot think of many other less inviting ways to beging a session.

 

Dick

[Trixie]

I'm afraid I agree with this poster. Although most of my escorts are tied spread-eagle, and have no control over the time, I keep careful track of the minutes passing by, and will tell the escort when an hour has passed. Even so, I expect the escort to end the scene... although there have been times when I myself have ended the scene out of sheer boredom! If the escort wants to go on, and I do as well, we'll continue, and I do not pay for the extra time. I do tip, but I will not under any circumstances bow to the pressure of "going over an hour" unless the escort makes it very clear ahead of time... and this has never happened. Obviously, most escorts want to leave it open, "just in case"... they have a good time.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Carbon Based Redux

 

I will not go into the list of things I have done, off the clock, since I have been advised on this board to stop talking about what a wonderful escort I am and all the great services I offer to my clients, but as Chris Mac's post points out, a lot of the guys in this business for the long haul do a lot of things - from listening to you talk about your jobs, wife, children, etc, to helping move you at $20 bucks an hour (I know two guys in Tucson, Arizona who did this for a client recently), to any number of other things. This issue, as so many other issues, is a matter of respect, consideration, and good communication, for both parties.

 

I politely advise clients that a normal session is an hour. I also make it clear to them, that unless we are talking a lengthy (i.e. more than 10 - 15 minute introductory period), I do not "start the egg timer" once I walk in the door but once we start, especially since any number of my clients are first timers or nervous. However, I also do not intend to spend an hour over cocktails with someone no matter how stimulating they find me or I may find them, prior to getting down to the real reason we are meeting.

 

I also let them know that if the session runs more than 20 minutes over the hour, I expect to be paid in 30 minute intervals, at a 50% mark up. I also advise them that if they think they will run over, I am happy to discuss a reduced fee for a multiple-hour session in advance. I do not offer this for two hours, but for anything over 2 hours, there is a proportionate discount and many guys have taken to hiring me for three (and no, this is not drinks and dinner, this is pure and simple down and dirty deeds over the course of three hours.

 

The only time this is ever an issue is when I have other things to do (never another client) which I let them know in advance (one of my favorite clients often insists on seeing me on Sunday mornings after he has been out dancing all night and I like to hit the Hollywood Farmer's Market which closes up at 1:00 p.m.), otherwise, I find that it is best to be flexible and this is how I treat all my regulars.

 

I also do not want to feel I am either being disrespected or taken advantage of since they know I will stay and talk with them in bed or shower with them in a playful fashion or the like, all well "off the clock" just as I doubt Jeff expected Chris Mac to tip him or pay him for driving him to his hotel room. But I also doubt Chris Mac would assume, much less expect, Jeff to drive him home each and every single time, if he lived in Columbus and not San Diego and did not have a car. A new escort who spends extra time with you on an initial hire may be doing so partly on the expectation that it may lead to more business from you in the future. You should not simply assume he is doing so because he is having such a great time and therefore you are under absolutely no obligation to him whatsoever. If he did what you wanted and expected AND you received more than you requested, you should at minimum consider tipping the guy (especially so with the Agency guys) or consider engaging his services in the future.

 

Good escorts provide sensual intimacy, albeit at a commercial level. The entire experience can be sensual, intimate, pleasant and enjoyable for all concerned without the need of feeling like there is a stop watch on the proceedings or a constant cost/benefit analysis going on.

[ad rian]

RE: Carbon Based Redux

 

>A new escort who spends extra time with you on an

>initial hire may be doing so partly on the expectation that

>it may lead to more business from you in the future. You

>should not simply assume he is doing so because he is

>having such a great time and therefore you are under

>absolutely no obligation to him whatsoever. If he did what

>you wanted and expected AND you received more than

>you requested, you should at minimum consider tipping

>the guy (especially so with the Agency guys) or consider

>engaging his services in the future.

 

I don't get this, if he is making an investment why am I obligated to tip or rehire? That is his choice, not mine. This is precisely where the confusion starts. If the escort makes that investment of his own volition, that is his choice and his alone. He has no right to expect or demand additional payment. It is precisely that blurring of the on-time and off-time line that ends up blurring the line between escort and hustler.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

Showers. I'm a stickler for them (both before and after), and in addition to the obvious hygiene benefits they also facillitate motion. Once we're moving around the room it's a lot easier -- and less tacky -- to glance at the clock and reflect aloud on the swift passage of time.

 

In the case of playtime that just seems to be running long according to my body clock, I try to move the lube around to a part of the bed where reaching over to get it will enable me to peek at the clock. Then I think it's reasonable to ask if the client still wants to keep it at the agreed upon time, or to extend the appointment.

 

Neither party should get into passive-aggressive game-playing. The escort shouldn't be sticking around trying to rack up billable hours, and the client shouldn't be presuming on the escort's behalf that an hour "really" means ninety minutes. If both guys make a point of being considerate -- a responsibility that always falls on both sides of any interaction -- and if the first person (client or escort) who's aware that things may be running "behind schedule" just goes ahead and gently brings it up, things'll go just fine. What's sleazy and cynical is for either party to know things are running over and to think in terms of what he can get out of it.