sending notes

[Guest FLsweetguy]

I love to get a note from an escort after we've been together, and unless its been a total dud I usually send a thank you. Some guys are wonderful with nice, fun, sexy notes, but others never reply. Is that a message (get lost) or do some guys just not think a response not leading to another appointment are necessary?

[Guest Esc_Tracker]

The only escort who ever send me gushy spontaneous "after" notes is Alex#2 in London, who was obviously raised properly by his mom. It floors me every time, and always makes me want to see him again (that, and the fact that he has model looks and is great in bed). :9 }>

 

All the other escorts I write to afterwards to let them know I had a good time all respond. You should send yours to charm school. ;-)

[Guest jeffOH]

This has been discussed before, but I believe it's enough to thank the client at the end of the session. I mean, how long do the thank yous need to go on. If it's a weekend deal or the client has given me a gift, I may send an e-mail or give them a call.

 

Guys, you may think an escort is just being polite by calling or sending an e-mail, but some escorts may be taking advantage of you emotionally. We're not talking about a REAL date here. Ask yourself why it matters? Are you wanting to believe that the escort truly enjoyed himself with you? Do you need to think that you are somehow more special than the dozen guys he's fucked that week?

 

I think what is most important is how the escort conducted himself while you were together. Was he polite and courteous during and did he thank you at the end of the session?

 

I suppose that I am very careful not to play upon the emotions of my clients. I've known several escorts/hustlers who have done this and I thought it was wrong.

 

JEFF

jeff4hire@aol.com

[Guest Esc_Tracker]

>Guys, you may think an escort is just being polite by

>calling or sending an e-mail, but some escorts may be taking

>advantage of you emotionally. We're not talking about a REAL

>date here. Ask yourself why it matters? Are you wanting to

>believe that the escort truly enjoyed himself with you? Do

>you need to think that you are somehow more special than the

>dozen guys he's fucked that week?

>

>I think what is most important is how the escort conducted

>himself while you were together. Was he polite and courteous

>during and did he thank you at the end of the session?

>

>I suppose that I am very careful not to play upon the

>emotions of my clients. I've known several escorts/hustlers

>who have done this and I thought it was wrong.

 

LOL! Jeff, you don't have to send a lave letter swearing your undying devotion, but a simple note (especially to a client from out of town) indicating that you appreciated his patronage, and are looking forward to enjoying it again in the not too distant future, is just good manners. An escort is certainly under no obligation to do it, but have we become so socially depraved that mere professional courtesy has to somehow be seen as emotional manipulation?

 

(sign up another one for charm school)

[Traveller]

Most of the escorts that I've been with have used the cash that I've shoved in their hands to take me out to a really swanky restaurant afterwards. These escorts I never call again. The escorts that dig into their own wallet and use not only my money, but money from at least 4 or 5 other clients and not only take me out to really expensive eating joints, but also insist that I don't eat by spending the rest of the money on copious amounts of coke and tina, these are keepers and have my undying affection. Words to live by gentlemen.

 

Later.

[+ deej]

This is one of those questions where there are as many answers as there are escorts and clients combined.

 

I got a valentine's day card from one of my favorites. I got a christmas card from another. I was very touched by both.

 

Some clients will prefer no contact for discretionary reasons.

 

A little note afterwards can be an appropriate and friendly gesture, or it can be a smoking gun to be found by the husband (or wife).

 

The only real answer is "it depends".

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>LOL! Jeff, you don't have to send a lave letter swearing

>your undying devotion, but a simple note (especially to a

>client from out of town) indicating that you appreciated his

>patronage, and are looking forward to enjoying it again in

>the not too distant future, is just good manners. An escort

>is certainly under no obligation to do it, but have we

>become so socially depraved that mere professional courtesy

>has to somehow be seen as emotional manipulation?

 

I'm with Esc_Tracker on this one -- I'm a big thanker via email myself and intend it as a courtesy, not a manipulation -- but Jeff has a good point that what really matters is how the escort conducted himself during the appointment. Even though I personally enjoy the communication with my clients and see it as part of how I do business, it's still true that some people just aren't big email people -- in all walks of life. They have to discipline themselves to respond to the time-sensitive stuff as it is, and the warm fuzzies sometimes slip through the cracks. That doesn't mean that next time you see them they won't be able to pick up where you left off, and rock your world in the sack, at the dinner table, and under the stars. How people handle email may really be more a matter of personal lifestyle, so to speak, than how they feel about you.

 

I do think it's a nice touch, though, to say hello and thanks.

[Guest jeffOH]

Yes, it does depend on the individual client and I don't think that we are so socially depraved as to not show appreciation for one's patronage. I normally don't communicate with my clients via e-mail or phone unless they have expressed to me that it is OK. There are a few very regular clients(weekly)to whom I speak fairly often. But, it is they who initiate contact 90% or more of the time.

 

I have had a few situations with clients where they expressed their love for me. I suppose that in wanting to avoid such awkward moments in the future I make a special effort NOT to do anything that the client may misconstrue and turn it into a drama.

 

I have an odd situation with the escort I see. He and I have somewhat of a friendship, but of course my ego wants to know how much he enjoys the sex with me and would he be pounding my ass for free had we met under different circumstances. I very rarely call or e-mail him just to chat, but he does call me more often to "talk shop". Yet,

he does keep it all separate and never leads me on to believe that he wants more of a friendship just to keep my business. God, this pot is like truth serum. Good Stuff! ;-)

 

Of course when clients send an e-mail to thank me for the good time they had, I always e-mail them back.

 

JEFF

jeff4hire@aol.com

[Guest chaz49wm]

Two of my favorite escorts came from the school of "Suave de Fare" they have always followed up with a thanks for the fun and hope we can do it again. Of course I tend to pamper them with shows dinners and the likes and I know some other guys aren't into it at that extent. But I am very proud of my two fav's Stef and Vegas Dave from that great (Soon to be renamed Escort Capital of the World"

I agree it's not about playing with emotions it goes back to being thankful, appreciative for what ever is done to us or for us. Even when it come at a price. Sorry to say our country has arrived at an era where there is to much "WHAM BAM THANK YOU MY MAN" and not sure it has to be like that. It not all about the money and if it is then it will show my friends cause we are who we act like." Not that there will be love afterwards but thereb can be appreciation, maybe even friendship and heaven forbid a REPEAT!!!!! HUGS CHUCK:P

[jacobno]

THe majority of the time I usually drop a quick email when I get back to my apartment to tell the guy thanks for the business and that I had a good time. Sharing a little happiness makes the world go round. I have a HUGE windfall of good karma somewhere just waiting to come down on me.

[Guest EWC]

In an age when people don't send thank you notes for cooking them dinner or buying them gifts, I've lowered my expectations about receiving them for "business transactions". I would be nice, but I have long since stopped setting myself up for disappointment.

[Guest Masgboy]

Masgboy@aol.com

 

hi guys,

 

this is Louis and escort in nyc.. I think sending a note/email after an appointment is very important. I just spent a very private time with someone why would I not tell them thank you for choosing me as there date.

I don't send a note if i do not have an email address or if i was asked not to email someone for discression reasons. But I like to keep in touch with my clients.

 

thanks

louis jeralds

NYC

917-319-1445

[Guest Derrick]

I agree with Jeff, there some "ethics" that must be held in the

best interest of both parties. I've learned to never presume in

this business. Show manners all the time, unless you've been

authorized to not be formal and so polite.

 

You can never go wrong with asking and not presuming. Simply

ask the person if its OK to send such a letter of appreciation.

 

But Jeff is right don't fuck with there head, be honest and real

about the reality around both of you.

 

Derrick

 

:7

[Bilbo]

The current class about to enter college has never known a time without email. And I think that it is showing a bit in the attitudes towards discretion on this question. Jeff and myself who have been in the business longer and can offer you the fruits (heheheh) of our experience are probably old enough that we grew up with snail mail and have old snail mail trained attitudes. Perhaps in these days when one has to show a password to even find out if mail has arrived and can erase it easily and basically completely after it is read (for all normal extents and purposes), it is more discrete to send mail of this sort. Yet I still don't do it because I accidently hurt a couple of clients in the past by doing similar things and old habits die hard.

[Guest topsfstud]

I ALWAYS send a thank you note to all clients ... personalized to each one. It's a simple curtesy, and a sincere gesture.

 

I recognize that people always have a choice in who to hire. If an escort can't pay the client the simple curtesy of properly thanking him after the appointment, than that escort is not worth his rate!

 

Jake Walker

- San Francisco

[Guest jeffOH]

I ALWAYS "properly" thank all my clients after an appointment. As Bilbo stated, some of us started escorting at time when cell phones and computers weren't a part of the picture. The minority of my clients contact me by e-mail. Most of the clients that I see are regular clients whom I have been seeing for years. I still think that the most important THANK YOU is the one in person. A big kiss(tongue down throat) and a thank you where the client can SEE your sincerity

have worked well for me. I'm not saying that it's unnecessary, but I certainly wouldn't go so far as to say that an escort who does not thank a client by e-mail isn't worth his rate. I think that's an extreme statement.

 

So, clients, if you contact an escort via e-mail, arrange a date and the escort is polite and courteous throughout AND you have a great time, are you not going to call him up again because you didn't get an e-mail thanking you? Or, if you had an OK time with an escort and then he sends an e-mail thanking you for your business and tells you he had a nice time with you, who are you going to hire again? The escort with whom you had a great time(no e-mail thank you) or the mediocre escort(e-mail thanks)? I don't know, perhaps you'd use the e-mail thanks thing as some sort of tie-breaker if you had an equally good time with two different escorts.

 

JEFF

jeff4hire@aol.com

[Rick Munroe]

>I ALWAYS send a thank you note to all clients ...

>personalized to each one.

 

What about clients who contact you by phone only, or don't have email, or don't give you their email address? Are you saying that you send them a real snail-mail "thank you" note? In that case, what about guys who come to you for in-calls? No personalized note for them?

 

> If an escort can't pay the client the simple curtesy of

>properly thanking him after the appointment, than that

>escort is not worth his rate!

 

Hey, and all this time I thought we were getting paid for our body, personality, sensuality, and ability. Who knew a Hallmark card was really what it's all about?

[Traveller]

>What about clients who contact you by phone only, or don't

>have email, or don't give you their email address? Are you

>saying that you send them a real snail-mail "thank

>you" note? In that case, what about guys who come to you

>for in-calls? No personalized note for them?

>

>

>Hey, and all this time I thought we were getting paid for

>our body, personality, sensuality, and ability. Who knew a

>Hallmark card was really what it's all about?

 

Ricky,

 

This incredibly condescending attitude is undoubtedly what cost you this year's tramp tiara; or is it called a whore hat. Whatever, it's still placed over a prostitute's pompadour. Matty would never show such attitude, which is why is remains the reigning Cock-for-Cash. If you don't change your perspective you'll never regain your title of Slash-for-Cash. Always looking out for you, big guy.

 

Later.

[Guest jeffOH]

Who knew a

>Hallmark card was really what it's all about?

 

Can you just imagine a line of greeting cards for escorts and clients?

Too funny! For those incall clients, we could have a card ready to hand to the client as they leave. "Thanks for your money, you're such a honey and I promise not to tell the wife that you're leading a double life!"}>

 

JEFF

jeff4hire@aol.com

[Rick Munroe]

Trav, check the time of my post (2:23 PM)...a full half hour before I usually wake up. Blame the crabbiness on my horny boyfriend, who insisted on using the Munroe Mouth at an ungodly hour today.

[Guest Ant415]

<coke and tina.

 

I hope you share vis-a-vis the review who these guys are. It's rare to find such generous men.

[Guest jerseyguy]

Speaking as a client, I like getting a note from the escort I have been with. I understand it may be just good manners and it may just be a business tactic to earn more business.

What he writes and how the escort writes the note is critical to what the client perceives of the intentions of the escort. If an escort wants to just thank the client for his patronage, then that's all the note should say. If the escort "really" enjoyed the meeting or found the time with a certain client more enjoyable than most it would be ok to let that client know how he feels.

I have written notes to escorts after our meeting to let them know that I found our encounter enjoyable. Most of my meetings have been decent, but some were really great and I let the escort know that. I don't write to all escorts. I don't always have their e-mail address. I have let an agency know I really enjoyed an escort too.

As a client it is some what exciting to see an e-mail on your unopened mail list from an escort. It's like waiting to open the door in anticipation of the event. I say send the e-mails; it has to be good for business. I would consider an escort that sent me a note favorably over one that did not.

[Guest need2Btopped]

I just got together with Matt-Vancouver the other day. True to his tiara, Matt sent me a nice email after the session, thanking me for the get together. (And, given the great time we had, I responded in kind. Matt's reputation is well deserved.)

[Bilbo]

Could this also be a geographic thing? Are any of the client posters who are so interested in a note writing from the midwest or the Bible belt?

Bilbo (from Houston, the buckle on the Bible belt)

[Guest MikeConway]

Hey there, I think its really nice of you to do that! I remember when a client sends me an email afterwards. I like to also send an email afterwards, especially when I have really enjoyed the clients company!

 

I say keep on doing it.

 

Mike in Toronto