Seeking Hooville's Advice

[+ purplekow]

As eloquent and definitive as the Duchess has been, I feel it necessary to add a less

polished voice to this discussion.

 

No one can tell you how to feel about anything unless you let them. You can choose to analyze and socially critique your escort hiring activities, if you have that much spare time, but why beat this to a pulp.

I am a fat, bald middle aged man who first dealt with his homosexual leanings after a lifetime of enjoyment of a very satisfying heterosexual life. Now, to ease this transition, i have enjoyed having beautiful, sexy, muscular, hard breathing, hard driving, passionate younger men with whom to fuck and suck and kiss and ultimately to bring to orgasm, while they do the same for me. I sincerely doubt any of these men would have picked me up at a bar and brought me home for a hot one night stand. I also doubt, that any of these men, under other circumstances, would have sought out my counsel, support, advice, friendship. So I know I am there for the pleasure it gives me and they are there for the money. I am not lessened by the nature of it. I am not less of a person, less of a man as a result of this. In fact, these encounters usually lift my spirits, and give me cause to smile more often. There is a happiness in sitting in a dream like state at a business meeting picturing the handsome face of a hot escort just as it starts to move into an orgasmic grimace and envisioning his muscles tensing and his penis spewing his hot ejaculate over his flat hard abdomen, all the while some white collar grab every dollar colleague drones on.

I am funny, wise, considerate, a great listener and a great talker. I have opinions about everything, including things I have never thought about. I bring an awful lot to any relationship I have, I just don't bring it in a very pretty package. Now when i hire for the first time, I am looking for a very pretty package. When I hire the second time, there better be something of value in that package or why bother, I could just move on to the next pretty package.

So do I use escorts. You bet your hairy ass I do. And if i hire them for an overnight, I try my best to use them as much as I can. Do they use me? Well, a man has to pay his rent. But beyond the carnal, for me, there has to be more and that is not predicated on money, or beauty or sex. In this aspect, we are not using each other any more than any two friendly acquaintances do.

So TomKat, yes, if you befriend and hire them you are using their services but you are not using them. As to whether your self esteem takes a hit when you hire, only you can answer that as each of us answers that for ourself. As for me, I am planning a rendez-vous at the bathroom at Prime and neither one of us will feel like a lesser human being.

[josephga]

As eloquent and definitive as the Duchess has been, I feel it necessary to add a less

polished voice to this discussion.

 

No one can tell you how to feel about anything unless you let them. You can choose to analyze and socially critique your escort hiring activities, if you have that much spare time, but why beat this to a pulp.

I am a fat, bald middle aged man who first dealt with his homosexual leanings after a lifetime of enjoyment of a very satisfying heterosexual life. Now, to ease this transition, i have enjoyed having beautiful, sexy, muscular, hard breathing, hard driving, passionate younger men with whom to fuck and suck and kiss and ultimately to bring to orgasm, while they do the same for me. I sincerely doubt any of these men would have picked me up at a bar and brought me home for a hot one night stand. I also doubt, that any of these men, under other circumstances, would have sought out my counsel, support, advice, friendship. So I know I am there for the pleasure it gives me and they are there for the money. I am not lessened by the nature of it. I am not less of a person, less of a man as a result of this. In fact, these encounters usually lift my spirits, and give me cause to smile more often. There is a happiness in sitting in a dream like state at a business meeting picturing the handsome face of a hot escort just as it starts to move into an orgasmic grimace and envisioning his muscles tensing and his penis spewing his hot ejaculate over his flat hard abdomen, all the while some white collar grab every dollar colleague drones on.

I am funny, wise, considerate, a great listener and a great talker. I have opinions about everything, including things I have never thought about. I bring an awful lot to any relationship I have, I just don't bring it in a very pretty package. Now when i hire for the first time, I am looking for a very pretty package. When I hire the second time, there better be something of value in that package or why bother, I could just move on to the next pretty package.

So do I use escorts. You bet your hairy ass I do. And if i hire them for an overnight, I try my best to use them as much as I can. Do they use me? Well, a man has to pay his rent. But beyond the carnal, for me, there has to be more and that is not predicated on money, or beauty or sex. In this aspect, we are not using each other any more than any two friendly acquaintances do.

So TomKat, yes, if you befriend and hire them you are using their services but you are not using them. As to whether your self esteem takes a hit when you hire, only you can answer that as each of us answers that for ourself. As for me, I am planning a rendez-vous at the bathroom at Prime and neither one of us will feel like a lesser human being.

 

 

 

I think that's the most truthful posting iv ever come across ever.

[doitb4ugo]

It no less wise because it's less polished

 

Wow, Purplekow. I hope your response makes Tomcat rethink his present funk. It was a great, plain, no-nonsense response. I think in Tomcats case, he is faced by a much more life-altering situation but like me in a lot of ways, he is trying to think through years worth of his journey where it is not posible to map out the path. Sometimes you just gotta start walking and life will help determine where you end up. After all it is the journey that presents us with happiness and meaning, not the destination. We should always remember that the destination of life is death. That is where we all end up...It is as Hamlet says, "The readiness is all".

 

Purplekow, you certainly made me stop thinking too much about all of this. Tomcat's situation is very different from my own. He is searching for a new meaningful life and that requires a good bit of thinking and over-thinking. My situation only requires me to address a small part (different as it is) of my current life which is not going to dramatically change nor would I want it to.

 

There have been a number of your repones that stop me in my tracks and put things in a very healthy perspective (granted your own). I think you boiled down my angst over my first gay escort encounter as..."It only sex, if you don't get it right, you can do it over". I paraphrase but your palin punwisdom speaks volumes.

 

I want to extend my best wished to Tomcat that all the advice he finds here helps him resolve his dilema. Best to you, Tomcat.

[NYTomcat]

ROFLMFAO. Pk why do I even post I should just email you and duchess and send you my check for therapy. Ok may I paraphrase pk with a movie reference. As I read through your answer all I could see was Jack palance turning to Billy crystal and saying "you city folk worry about a lot of shit"

 

Thanks for everything and always. Some times I just need that splash of cold water or slap in the face.

 

Hey pk who is the best hire for a slap in the face in the bathroom at prime. I bet he knows. LOL

[+ purplekow]

Hey pk who is the best hire for a slap in the face in the bathroom at prime. I bet he knows. LOL

 

 

Depends on whether you want to be slapped with an open hand or a hard dick. My guess in your case is the dick.

[NYTomcat]

Yeah baby. You know me

[Guest socal30]

I think every relationship is a tradeoff. Even regular marraiges-how many are in it for love? How many "fall in love" because the mate is rich or beautiful or fills some other need. At least this relationship is more honest. Both of us get something out of it and when it is done, we both go our separate ways. Look at Donald Trump and his wives. How many of those women would have agreed to marry him if he was just a janitor at a school? Same thing with Britney Spears and Kfed. However society thinks that is ok and not this.

 

Society may not accept of it-but there must be a reason why the proffession is still thriving since time memorial.

[KMEM]

I was always told it was cheaper to rent than own.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[Guest greatness]

oh my

 

What an ideal prince~~~

 

I am funny, wise, considerate, a great listener and a great talker. I have opinions about everything, including things I have never thought about. I bring an awful lot to any relationship I have,

[NYTomcat]

Absolutely. A prince among men to go with out duchess truly hooville royalty.

What an ideal prince~~~

[Guest DuchessIvanaKizznhugg]

As eloquent and definitive as the Duchess has been, I feel it necessary to add a less polished voice to this discussion.

 

Less polished? Hardly.

More succinct.....absolutely.

 

Don't sell yourself short, pk. There are always others too willing to do it for you.

[NYTomcat]

Less polished? Hardly.

More succinct.....absolutely.

 

Don't sell yourself short, pk. There are always others too willing to do it for you.[/color][/size][/font]

 

Just please let me know when the Canadian royal family are touring the colonies. I have a cow and duchess to take to lunch to lunch in NYC.

[Tristan Waters]

Great Advice

[NYTomcat]

Great Advice

 

Honestly Tristan I come back and reread this thread a lot. Whenever I start to overthink an encounter. This and another pk quote that is just as unforgettable. " its only sex. If you screw it up. You just have to do it again "

 

But seriously this is one of the best advice threads around. Though I Still wish jawjatek would update on the outcome of the original