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[+ purplekow]

I have hired a very nice and handsome escort about 5 times now. He has a fantastic body and enjoys all sorts of activities. Only issue I have with him is that he comes way before I do and then the session gets perfunctory. So there is 30 to 45 minutes of fun and after the has come, their is a sprint to the finish to get me done.

Each session, he has come very suddenly so that there was not even a chance to get him to hold off or slow down.

These are in oral sessions or fingering sessions.

I have mentioned this to him and he uses the old "you just got me too excited" routine which usually just covers for, I shot my load early.

Any ideas or should I just enjoy the ride while is lasts and be happy that he will still get me off after he has otherwise lost the sexual energy?

[john1973]

He's inconsiderate. Look for a replacement/alternate.

[Luv2play]

Actually I think 30 to 45 minutes of "fun" is really quite a lot. If by fun you mean actual physical contact. If it's only a 1 hour appointment that in fact is perfect, at least for me. Leaves a little time for cuddling.

 

If you are talking about a 2 hour session or longer, you need to pace things out unless he is a multiple cummer, which of course is divine.

[+ purplekow]

He is one and done. Usually a 2 hour session.

[EZEtoGRU]

Actually I think 30 to 45 minutes of "fun" is really quite a lot. If by fun you mean actual physical contact.

I was thinking the same thing. 30-45 minutes seems pretty normal to me...but that's just me.

[Luv2play]

He is one and done. Usually a 2 hour session.

I don't know why you would continue with 2 hour sessions if they don't please you. Why not cut back to one hour and see him more often if he's fun otherwise.

[+ purplekow]

I enjoy the session as far as it goes, the part that I do no enjoy is his lack of interest once he comes and the fact that he comes before I do. I like him and most other aspects of the interaction. In addition he comes to me and would not make sense for him to make the trip for a one hour session. Starting over with someone new is always a possibility. I was hoping that there were some suggestions as to how to better handle this.

[+ Yellowrod]

Sounds like you excite him - which is great. But it also sounds like he's inconsiderate and letting himself have the pleasure of orgasm before you do. I prefer to cum either simultaneously with my partners or at least one after the other. The post glow together is sometimes the best time of the session. You may need to discuss this with him. I don't think the "you drove me crazy and make me shoot" excuse works after so many incidents - sounds like a role reversal.

[+ Pensant]

Why not add some spice and place a clear chastity device on him?

[Guest]

Well, if he comes before you do, and you're a bottom, I guess that's a major problem. Otherwise, I don't see this as necessarily a problem. Quite frankly, I'm not into pounding someone for half an hour before he gets off. The problem may be more that he seems to feel the need to rush YOU after he's done. If you've paid for 2 hours, you're entitled to his attention for that period of time. Let him know that you expect that attention whether he gets off early or not.