When a Legit Straight RMT Flirts ... ?

[Noah]

Just wondering, how did the other massages work out with him?

[+ Pensant]

I guarantee he is not going to ask you why your pants are off. Don't say anything about it. It's just more comfortable. You'll be under the sheet anyway.

True. If you’re self-conscious wear a Speedo or briefs. 95% of the time I remove all of my clothes, even with the rare female masseuse. I’ve never gone for anything but a legitimate deep tissue massage and have never experienced any flirting, sadly.

[jjkrkwood]

I've NEVER had a massage or been massaged in my Life... I dont enjoy being touch THAT way, and if I want sex, i go find sex.. I find it thirsty and desperate of those who want sex, dont wanna pay for an Escort, and substitute a massage, hoping they MIGHT get lucky with their "technician"...

Come on guys....YES some of these "techs" can be persuaded to "play for pay", but most are there just to give you a massage and earn a living.

 

Now if I was massaging @Pensant , my thought process would be different ! ?

[MscleLovr]

I find it thirsty and desperate of those who want sex, dont wanna pay for an Escort, and substitute a massage

 

I do understand your position @jjkrkwood but I’m not sure I’d agree that others are “thirsty and desperate”. I feel that some posters here may be less open about their sexuality. Having sex as part of a massage may be a gateway to gay sex for them. Also some may have a massage/sex fantasy that they wish to enjoy.

 

As it happens, I’m your opposite @jjkrkwood when it comes to massage. I love a good therapeutic massage and I get skilled massages very regularly (every week or so). I’m openly gay and for me, massage and sex are very different.

 

In the past, I’ve had therapeutic masseurs that are str8 ask me about being gay (the physical as well as the emotional side). I think that as gay men, we forget that some guys are just curious about what we do - it doesn’t mean they would do it, and it isn’t necessarily a prelude to doing something in a massage session.

[jjkrkwood]

I do understand your position @jjkrkwood but I’m not sure I’d agree that others are “thirsty and desperate”. I feel that some posters here may be less open about their sexuality. Having sex as part of a massage may be a gateway to gay sex for them. Also some may have a massage/sex fantasy that they wish to enjoy.

 

As it happens, I’m your opposite @jjkrkwood when it comes to massage. I love a good therapeutic massage and I get skilled massages very regularly (every week or so). I’m openly gay and for me, massage and sex are very different.

 

In the past, I’ve had therapeutic masseurs that are str8 ask me about being gay (the physical as well as the emotional side). I think that as gay men, we forget that some guys are just curious about what we do - it doesn’t mean they would do it, and it isn’t necessarily a prelude to doing something in a massage session.

I understand your point totally, however it just strikes me as a bit "predatory" for a closeted gay (if thats the case) to use a massage by a presumably str8 technician to "have a gay experience"... Now, if the guy turns out to be agreeable, well then, it was worth the chance, and I will admit I was WRONG. .

[orville]

Just wondering, how did the other massages work out with him?

Same, professional but bland and cold.

And last time I heard a banging sound coming from his room before a young gay guy walked out of it.

It was too bad I got to see that because I left a 1-star review and he lost my business forever.

[jeezifonly]

@orville Your confusion about what transpired doesn’t need to repeat itself - as I read your story it took me back to the “first date”anticipation of the awkward kiss on the parents’ front porch... Who needs that again?

 

I would never go to a storefront or legit day spa and even remotely mistake what you described as a sign of interest. For example, men with shorter arms need to stretch over the client sometimes. Yes his junk might graze your arm or something - it’s nothing more than it is.

 

Even at those establishments, though, I take off all clothing and drape myself while masseur steps out.

My arms are left the outside of the sheet, and ask him to move them as needed for the work. Was your guy was working upper back without maneuvering your arms? Hmm

 

A first-visit masseur that is inviting something will place or allow your arm to fall off the table and may bring it to a spot at your side where he knows his package will be in the vicinity to graze. If at a public spa move your hand away.

Sometimes they tuck the arms under the drape once they’re done with a side. I tend to be silent during these legit sessions aside from what’s needed for him to work. Whether he has a wife/girlfriend/boyfriend (or all 3) is none of my business. Not fond of a lot of chat.

 

I have two day-spas that I would go to on occasion when I want a sauna or steam and good therapeutic bodywork. I walk out the door happy and limp as a noodle.

 

When I want “massage plus”, I consult the advertising sites most often linked here in Spa Forum. I have 2 local hybrid escort/masseurs that I find to be really good at the bodywork, each with a private and welcoming space. I will have called one of them if I want the flow of skilled touch and relaxation to move into some mutual participation. I float out the door, happy, this time with a limp noodle...

 

Try hiring a sensual massage provider based on what you really want. Like according to his advert profile, will allow MT and or HE. And that he works in a private space, or comes to you with table. Ask when you set it up.

A caring and skilled touch, that transitions seamlessly into sex, is magical. Hope you find it @orville. Only a few clicks away...

[Wolfer]

@orville

A caring and skilled touch, that transitions seamlessly into sex, is magical. Hope you find it @orville. Only a few clicks away...

This is my ultimate fantasy and I've tried quite a bit to find a guy like that. But either they were just massages with maybe a quick handjob at the end or they gave me a 2 second back rub and then jumped into the sex immediately.