PM's

[BeefyDude]

Hello all

 

Many of you know me here. I have been around a while and have hire my share of masseurs. I have shared some great feedback (which I have been recognized for both publicly and privately).

 

Lately it seems that when I get PM'ed i'm asked very specific and sexually explicit questions.

 

For me I am mostly here for the massage and NOT sex. I'm also a private person who can get uncomfortable at times sharing my personal experiences when I hire someone.

 

I have received several recently that I have responded to in a not so friendly way. I honestly do apologize for that. But understand lately I have been getting an influx of similar requests.

 

I will give any information about the person, massage styles, fees and maybe some sensual aspects. But I won't answer any specific sexual questions. I ask that this please be respected

 

My thoughts are if you are asking such a detailed sexual question then perhaps you should be hiring an escort not a masseur.

[Bluefin]

I’m the same.

 

I don’t get into specifics because there are so many variables with massage of this type and it’s definitely a “YMMV” situation - what happened during my session might not happen in your session and I wouldn’t want to create any expectations in the mind of a client that a provider may not want to live up to.

 

I will give general info and whether I’d repeat or not.

[+ 7829V]

I just don't reply when I feel uncomfortable sharing explicit details.

 

I don't have the feeling of urgency to reply to every single private message. If it's a regular poster, I feel more at ease. But someone new, I just ignore them.... ;-)

[BeefyDude]

two great replies - thanks guys

[+ blondeq]

I’m the same.

 

I don’t get into specifics because there are so many variables with massage of this type and it’s definitely a “YMMV” situation - what happened during my session might not happen in your session and I wouldn’t want to create any expectations in the mind of a client that a provider may not want to live up to.

 

I will give general info and whether I’d repeat or not.

 

100% agree. I think this is especially true in the "Spa." Most of us are probably looking for a level of technical skill followed by a level of sensuality. Seems as though it is reasonable to grade the technical skill, but for me, I am not comfortable to go beyond "MT/HE." If someone wants more info than that, they should feel free to book a session with the provider. And, frankly, if they are looking for additional services beyond those, they would probably be better served by doing their shopping/investigation in the "Deli." Sadly, I suspect many of these inquiries, seeking all the details, are probably less about decision making (hiring) and more about satisfying a fascination or fetish.

[+ nycman]

I especially avoid responding to PMs form Newbies.

No matter how polite you try to be, they will incessantly pepper

you with idiotic questions like “so did he fuck yer hole good”?

 

I assume they are all Vice looking for a lead, and I move on.

If you don't actively participate here, I don’t feel the need to

help you.

 

Even people I ”know“ get pretty generic responses like,

“he looked like his pics, he was honest, and I had a good time”.

[+ 7829V]

I especially avoid responding to PMs form Newbies.

No matter how polite you try to be, they will incessantly pepper

you with idiotic questions like “so did he fuck yer hole good”?

 

I assume they are all Vice looking for a lead, and I move on.

If you don't actively participate here, I don’t feel the need to

help you.

 

Even people I ”know“ get pretty generic responses like,

“he looked like his pics, he was honest, and I had a good time”.

 

Yes, haha. And it's funny how some of the newbies want me to describe the session for them.... including all sexual details.

 

I just ask them to send me questions so I can reply YES/NO. And I reply what I think is appropriate.

[Kody S]

All of these are good responses and I agree with being uncomfortable with details for all the reasons mentioned. I have always gotten very good recommendations from guys on this message board and more than a few times steered away from a bad experience and a waste of money. So honest feedback is very important and I always welcome that and try to provide it when asked. But... honest feedback is often very different than over-sharing on other things that may happens during a massage. That should be between provider and client.

[+ azdr0710]

as others have said, old-timers who I know or have met will get honest, more specific replies from me to their PMs.....unknowns or newbies will also receive an answer, but it may be more general and non-committal....and, of course, individual chemistry applies......I highly recommended a provider to somebody inquiring with me via PM and he later replied that their meeting was not so good.....made me reconsider the whole replying thing......

[big dale]

I get requests from people who seem to want a "Letters to Penthouse" play by play of the experience. Sorry. Not the one. Move along. Also- yes my dick is big, no you cannot see a photo.

[+ poolboy48220]

Joining the choir here :-) I'll respond in detail to a member I recognize, but newbies don't get the same level of information.

 

I'm all for the massage going over the line into something more sexual, but I keep that to myself unless it's someone I think I can trust to NOT be a cop.

[big dale]

Joining the choir here I'll respond in detail to a member I recognize, but newbies don't get the same level of information.

 

I'm all for the massage going over the line into something more sexual, but I keep that to myself unless it's someone I think I can trust to NOT be a cop.