SEEKING ARRANGEMENT / SEEKING.COM / IS IT WORTH $89.95 MONTHLY

[robberbaron4u]

Is this site as a "farming" tool really worth $89.95 monthly or $250.00+/- annually?

[GTMike]

There have been many discussions on other threads about SA. One recent one where it was mentioned was about other sites besides RM that people found useful. I have used it in the past but can't always justify the monthly cost and opted for the free version since March though that was specifically due to not meeting people due to Covid and budget tightening.

 

i can say that i've encountered all types from both RM and SA both positive and negative.

[MikeBiDude]

Is this site as a "farming" tool really worth $89.95 monthly or $250.00+/- annually?

Grab a chair end enjoy 65+ pages of replies here:

https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/seeking-arrangements-success.111203/

 

I’m a fan, but am taking a hiatus from my paid membership due to Covid and not wanting to meet anyone right now.

[MikeBiDude]

$250.00+/- annually?

I don’t believe that’s the annual amount, that looks like the quarterly charge to be a gentleman seeking. The younger set looking get college discounts, free access, etc.

[+ DrownedBoy]

If you're concerned about $90, SA definitely wouldn't be worth it...

[jayjaycali]

Got one meeting out of it, but not much else.

[Mkdeeton]

In my very limited experience almost anyone I’ve found there wants a limitless allowance to send photos/videos and pretend to be interested in meeting up.

[GTMike]

The problem is you will never know unless you do get at least one month's subscription so you can message and communicate to be able to even start the triage process finding out mutually satisfying good matches.

[+ FrankR]

Like most things in life: the effort you put into it will drive the results you get out of it. If you work it hard, sure you will find some opportunities come your way. If you are passive about it, then no, there will be very little value.

 

[mixer17]

Paid for one month. Found it difficult to connect to sugar babies as they are frequently offline and check messages very rarely. They send replies ..... eventually.I think its a good medium to meet guys but be prepared to pay for several months of membership to make actual connections. Results yielded to about 5 contact information exchanges with guys, 2 or 3 though I highly suspect as fake. 1 meet-up. YMMV in your location but I found the above to be true for Northern,Southern California and Las Vegas members.

[mixer17]

Got one meeting out of it, but not much else.

 

Did you find most guys in SF rarely online as well, like I mentioned above?

[GTMike]

I posted the commentary below a few months ago in a different thread

There have been many discussions on other threads about SA. One recent one where it was mentioned was about other sites besides RM that people found useful. I have used it in the past but can't always justify the monthly cost and opted for the free version since March though that was specifically due to not meeting people due to Covid and budget tightening.

 

i can say that i've encountered all types from both RM and SA both positive and negative.

 

My Commentary regarding SA in a previous thread.

 

I've perused the site sporadically in and out since Jan 2016. I've had numerous chats on and off the site and I've gone ahead and met 6 from it during that itme.

 

One i cut-off communication as i think he's not 100% psychologically sound and was screaming to be a future potential train wreck. A second was "ok", and i was initially borderline to not interested in further meetings but then he made the decision easy as he way overvalued himself anyway and in my opinion out of touch with reality in general.

 

A third we communicated a ton and met once and still communicate but he's a self-admitted hustler and we enjoy each other's numerous and deep conversations about life but it's never progressed beyond one meeting and being text pals.

 

And the three others are really good guys (in Undergrad and Grad Schools) in their own different way and we communicate regularly. One lives in a different continent, (we've met once) but we will meet in the future again, one we met up regularly (Pre-Covid) and the other we still communicate but i've elected to keep it to just friends in all respects but he still gets and appreciates a tremendous amount of valuable personal and career mentoring etc..

 

It does take a lot of work though to establish trust, mutual respect and understandings etc..

[MikeBiDude]

In my very limited experience almost anyone I’ve found there wants a limitless allowance to send photos/videos and pretend to be interested in meeting up.

There’s always been a smattering of these types...but photo/video “platonic only” guys have exploded during pandemic. One reason I’m going on hiatus there and not renewing.

 

Like most things in life: the effort you put into it will drive the results you get out of it. I

This ??

[marylander1940]

If you're concerned about $90, SA definitely wouldn't be worth it...

 

Exactly having a kept boy it's more expensive than 90!

 

Unfortunately some go to SA hoping to find an amateur who would charge less or someone who simply won't escort for anybody.

[CuddleBuddy]

Is"Seeking" a good site to look for a Mentor who can & will provide good advice on rising capital (IPO).

[+ DrownedBoy]

Is"Seeking" a good site to look for a Mentor who can & will provide good advice on rising capital (IPO).

 

The ratio of sugar daddies looking for male babies is like 1:20.

 

If you're looking for real SDs who'd pay out at least 1k/month, it's at least 1:100.

 

There's a lot of competition for very little money, and SBs need to be aggressive and decisive as well. And stand out. The Covid recession is skewing that ratio even more.

Edited July 22, 2020 by DrownedBoy

[The_Impeccable_G]

At the risk of oversimplifying, a sugarboy is a relationship, an escort is a transaction.

[Studsearcher]

For me it’s been worth it as I live in an area with few Rentmen who are my type, but a decent number on Seeking. I also prefer discretion and feel the ones I meet on Seeking do too.

 

You don’t need a paid membership to browse profiles and decide if there are enough prospects to make it worth a shot. I suggest only paying for one month and after exchanging initial pleasantries take the conversation to another app, as Seeking has a reputation for banning accounts without warning or refund.

[Gymowner]

in my opinion "sugar baby" relationships rarely work out over the long run. i have friends who go that route. something in them has the notion that paying for a young hot guy that is all "warm and fuzzy" at first solidifies a true and real, meaningful relationship...not. over time the sugar baby becomes more and more detached, less and less sex if any anymore and more and more bringing over new hot young "friends" for their own personal enjoyment, not the schmoes enjoyment. then the breakup becomes complicated and involved with all sort of accusations of "what am i suppose to do now" and "you are ruining my life". as if this is the first time (not the tenth time) that this has happened to the sugar baby. the schmoe feels guilty, thinks that maybe things can improve and endures much more time and $$ getting nothing more than grief and stress from the situation. usually they end when the sugar baby sees the writing on the wall, knows the inevitable will happen soon and "dumps" the schmoe for a new one.

 

remember.... with an escort you arent really paying them to come to your bedroom as much as you certainly are paying them to leave!

[MikeBiDude]

in my opinion "sugar baby" relationships rarely work out over the long run.

I’m curious what you consider “long run”. Your comment is correct though!

 

remember.... with an escort you arent really paying them to come to your bedroom as much as you certainly are paying them to leave!

haha it was an ESCORT who first opined this to me many, many years ago!

[GTMike]

I posted the commentary below a few months ago in a different thread

 

 

My Commentary regarding SA in a previous thread.

 

I've perused the site sporadically in and out since Jan 2016. I've had numerous chats on and off the site and I've gone ahead and met 6 from it during that itme.

 

One i cut-off communication as i think he's not 100% psychologically sound and was screaming to be a future potential train wreck. A second was "ok", and i was initially borderline to not interested in further meetings but then he made the decision easy as he way overvalued himself anyway and in my opinion out of touch with reality in general.

 

A third we communicated a ton and met once and still communicate but he's a self-admitted hustler and we enjoy each other's numerous and deep conversations about life but it's never progressed beyond one meeting and being text pals.

 

And the three others are really good guys (in Undergrad and Grad Schools) in their own different way and we communicate regularly. One lives in a different continent, (we've met once) but we will meet in the future again, one we met up regularly (Pre-Covid) and the other we still communicate but i've elected to keep it to just friends in all respects but he still gets and appreciates a tremendous amount of valuable personal and career mentoring etc..

 

It does take a lot of work though to establish trust, mutual respect and understandings etc..

I'll add to my previous comment that in retrospect the membership has worked out for me. Though i would do as others have suggested and maybe get the premium for a month or two, establish some contacts and move it to private communication. Then let the membership lapse for a bit as you take stock in your fishing expedition. Hahaha.

 

In full disclosure, I've started back up with my "Pre-Covid" regular after taking precautions and only meet spaced out every 2 to 3 weeks. He's basically a B+ or an 8 out of 10 in terms of "a perfect match" for me but i shouldn't complain as we can schedule to hang 2 weeks in advance and he's never flaked once meeting up despite a good amount of travel distance to hang for an evening. We're incredibly flexible on terms which has evolved mutually and respectfully over time. He's smart and has a clear plan and path for his career and is dedicated sticking to it while in School which i love for so many reasons. (In fact we both know that once School is done and work starts our status will stop.) We know an equal and respectful amount about each other's personal lives and (so far, knock on wood) there's never been any drama or major problems relating to each others boundaries. For example he lives with his girlfriend and she has known all about it since the beginning and is totally fine with the side hustle. There's no BS as we always do what we say we're gonna do and don't do what we say we're not gonna do. But of course that takes time to be able to confidently trust that's the case.

 

I guess I'm sticking up for the potential and good possibilities that SA can bring hahaha, but yes there's a LOT of BS and it's a LOT of time, effort, money and luck for it to really work well in my experience.

[Gymowner]

long term... long run....

[MikeBiDude]

long term... long run....

I’m curious because I had a few that ran 6-9 months from seeking, nothing longer than that. Although there is one I’ve remained friends with over years but he moved away so arrangement ended amicably.