What do you wish a newbie/inexperienced client would know before their first session?

[LGatton]

Hey guys,

 

I'm about to take my first plunge into hiring and I've been learning a lot from reading the forum here.

 

I'll be taking a trip soon and I booked a guy who is well reviewed and regarded, but I am completely inexperienced. I have disclosed this to him and he asked me what I was looking for. I told him I wanted someone who could be gentle and understanding with me but could "take charge", not in a dom/sub sort of way but just guiding me on what would be most enjoyable since, for me, it's all been theoretical fantasies to this point. We left it at that and he said we'll get in touch again as we get closer to the appointment.

 

My question to providers is, what would you want a new inexperienced client to know or communicate to you before the appointment? Would you like more clear details what they expect or would you feel comfortable guiding the experience for them?

[Keenan]

I feel communication is key. Clear details from what you are looking for makes my job easier. We can't read your mind. While we are there for you I feel both client and escort need to set the pace together. Example, when the escort arrives depending on how much time you have booked with him you may either want to sit down and talk some or you may want to offer to help the escort feel more comfortable. Overall just make sure you communicate and then things should feel less awkward.

 

Keenan

[MscleLovr]

I’m not an escort but I’m sure @Keenan is right about communication.

 

all been theoretical fantasies to this point

 

What may help you have a great first date in real life is if you convey clearly what you find attractive, romantic and sexy. I’m guessing that you must have seen some gay porn at least...

 

For instance, I have a passion for handsome men and good underwear. I will be undressing a good looking man and I find it sexy if he’s in tight white briefs. I still recall fondly a blond muscleboy-bottom who noticed my passion and told me he shared it. Before each further date, he used to call me and ask what I wanted him to wear: jockstrap or briefs, coloured or white. He said it excited him on the way to me that I’d be horny at the prospect of stripping him.

 

Similarly, I enjoy lots of things but I really like foreplay with lots of kissing, using tongue, and I really enjoy being sucked off. The same goes for sexual positions; I like to top but I don’t like a guy sitting on top of me. There must be some activities that you find more arousing than others, and some sexual activities that you definitely want to explore so mention them specifically beforehand.

 

I don’t want you to miss out on something you’d enjoy simply because you’re too diffident to mention it to the guy you’ve chosen. I hope you have a wonderful time with him.

[+ nycman]

“You gotta wash your ass” - Redd Foxx

 

The rest you can figure out as you go.

[+ newatthis]

A long -- very long -- time ago, I asked a similar question here. The most useful answer I received was to communicate the things I fantasize about, which would give an escort a place to start from.

[keefer]

Completely agree with the above recommendations (communicate before, during and after).... before our first meet, an escort once asked what my top three favorite porn vids were, and which role I saw myself in... still quite memorable first (and many subsequent) meets...

[LGatton]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Next time we chat I'll be sure to get into more detail with him and be more direct with my fantasies. He's done some videos and there are two in particular that real drew me to him. Maybe I can use them to give a good outline of what I want.

[Keenan]

Hey guys,

 

I'm about to take my first plunge into hiring and I've been learning a lot from reading the forum here.

 

I'll be taking a trip soon and I booked a guy who is well reviewed and regarded, but I am completely inexperienced. I have disclosed this to him and he asked me what I was looking for. I told him I wanted someone who could be gentle and understanding with me but could "take charge", not in a dom/sub sort of way but just guiding me on what would be most enjoyable since, for me, it's all been theoretical fantasies to this point. We left it at that and he said we'll get in touch again as we get closer to the appointment.

 

My question to providers is, what would you want a new inexperienced client to know or communicate to you before the appointment? Would you like more clear details what they expect or would you feel comfortable guiding the experience for them?

 

To add to what I said earlier when I go to see I customer I won't initiate any contact or getting undressed. This is to protect myself just in case the customer is in fact with law enforcement. If they want to see me naked or kiss me they have to make the first move and communicate.

 

Keenan

[LGatton]

To add to what I said earlier when I go to see I customer I won't initiate any contact or getting undressed. This is to protect myself just in case the customer is in fact with law enforcement. If they want to see me naked or kiss me they have to make the first move and communicate.

 

Thanks Keenan, that's the kind of nuanced detail that's good to know. I want my wishes and safety respected but l also want to respect him in return and this is something that wiil help me do my part

[Islesguy]

To add to what I said earlier when I go to see I customer I won't initiate any contact or getting undressed. This is to protect myself just in case the customer is in fact with law enforcement. If they want to see me naked or kiss me they have to make the first move and communicate.

 

Keenan

That's very interesting. My first hire I told him I wanted to go slowly because I would be very nervous. As soon as we got into his hotel room, he went right for a deep kiss. It freaked me out. It still ended up going well, but those first 10 or so minutes were really awkward for me.

[+ easygoingpal]

Might be a good idea not to eat 2 or 3 hours before the meeting... You don't want food to be part of the play time.

[Keenan]

That's very interesting. My first hire I told him I wanted to go slowly because I would be very nervous. As soon as we got into his hotel room, he went right for a deep kiss. It freaked me out. It still ended up going well, but those first 10 or so minutes were really awkward for me.

 

The escort should have let you set the pace instead of setting the pace for you in my experience.

 

Keenan

[Islesguy]

The escort should have let you set the pace instead of setting the pace for you in my experience.

 

Keenan

He definitely should have. My last hire was the first one that really let things go at my pace and was by far my best experience.

[DallasClient]

As others have said, communication is key.

 

Be clean all over, brush your teeth, use mouthwash, and be presentable. I can't make myself 20 years younger but I can make sure what I give you to work with is fresh and clean.

[Floridasexman]

I can't help but wonder at the times I have seen on remarks about being clean. That should be a given, escort or just a date. If a client or provider is not prepared for a sexual encounter, 1) the provider should not be in the business and 2) the client should not be hiring. It is just decency guys,

[LGatton]

Yeah, the cleanliness thing is something I consider basic human decency and was already planning on being diligent about. I get why people feel the need to say it though. I'm sure there are few horror stories both providers and clients who are on here could talk about.

[LGatton]

Yeah, the cleanliness thing is something I consider basic human decency and was already planning on being diligent about. I get why people feel the need to say it though. I'm sure there are few horror stories both providers and clients who are on here could talk about.