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[Rick M]

I followed an advertiser's instructions and texted him concerning a visit to my locale he had listed. I thought I was being inordinately polite; but his first response was along the lines of "I'm busy, get to the point." I got to the point, and he broke off contact. I wouldn't mention this, but he has been favorably (non-) reviewed here, and nothing in his profile suggests that what I asked was out of the question. I won't give his name, because everyone has bad days, and maybe he IS so popular he doesn't need my business.

[KeepItReal]

I followed an advertiser's instructions and texted him concerning a visit to my locale he had listed. I thought I was being inordinately polite; but his first response was along the lines of "I'm busy, get to the point." I got to the point, and he broke off contact. I wouldn't mention this, but he has been favorably (non-) reviewed here, and nothing in his profile suggests that what I asked was out of the question. I won't give his name, because everyone has bad days, and maybe he IS so popular he doesn't need my business.

Yes, this has happened to me before as well. One of the reasons why I tend to shy away from booking guys who travel (few exceptions). It's probably not anything you said. When we cant have a brief, respectful and cordial discourse, odds are we are not a match anyway... Find somebody more worthy!

 

[+ Pensant]

I have rarely had a stellar experience with a traveling companion.

[Rick M]

O gee the select traveler is ideal for me... Can't find anyone locally who would scratch my itch satisfactorily on a regular basis. YMMV.

[+ FrankR]

O gee the select traveler is ideal for me... Can't find anyone locally who would scratch my itch satisfactorily on a regular basis. YMMV.

I feel for you - I do. Finding a good local provider that is willing to repeat and improve the experience is simply the best in my book.

[DallasClient]

I have had similar responses. I am polite yet to the point without being too explicit. As soon as I get a rude tone, I cut it off. It puzzles me because who would expect me to be a client to someone who was just rude to me. As mentioned above, I think it's better you found out sooner than later. But I feel for you if you're in a limited market.

[KeepItReal]

I have had similar responses. I am polite yet to the point without being too explicit. As soon as I get a rude tone, I cut it off. It puzzles me because who would expect me to be a client to someone who was just rude to me. As mentioned above, I think it's better you found out sooner than later. But I feel for you if you're in a limited market.

Well @Rick M I can perhaps add that when I have had the need to reach out to a traveling companion, I tend to wait until they are actually in my city and then wait for the last two days or so of their trip. It helps me avoid those that indicate a location to test the waters but never actually travel to my location and they also try to squeeze in as many people as they can in the first few days of their visit, so the experience is never what I hope for. Traveling companions tend to be more accommodating as their trip comes to an end, at least that is my experience...

[Epigonos]

Years ago I learned that I was "always" more successful traveling to an escort I wanted to hire rather than hiring an escort who was visiting my location on his own. Now I certainly understand that many clients, because of various reasons, are unable to do that. One of the great advantages of being single and retired.

[+ oldNbusted]

As soon as I get a rude tone, I cut it off.

 

This! These encounters are supposed to be mutually beneficial. Any hint that someone thinks they are doing me some kind of favor and I am done.

[+ JEC]

O gee the select traveler is ideal for me... Can't find anyone locally who would scratch my itch satisfactorily on a regular basis. YMMV.

I hear you on this @Rick M. Some due to a limited pool of local talent (Boston). Some of this is on me, I'm always looking at the next "shiny object". But, a few traveling guys have been multiple repeats for me meaning if I had good chemistry with a local guy it could be a regular thing.

[Chad Constantine]

I followed an advertiser's instructions and texted him concerning a visit to my locale he had listed. I thought I was being inordinately polite; but his first response was along the lines of "I'm busy, get to the point." I got to the point, and he broke off contact. I wouldn't mention this, but he has been favorably (non-) reviewed here, and nothing in his profile suggests that what I asked was out of the question. I won't give his name, because everyone has bad days, and maybe he IS so popular he doesn't need my business.

 

#1 there is not such thing as so popular you dont need business. Everyone needs business just maybe doesnt not have any extra available time. However, your usually born an asshole and that was pretty much an asshole thing to say. Sorry to hear of your bad experience. Of all the travelers that I have met only one I have heard on other blogs that has become worse ego wise is https://rent.men/Fitness/#platinum.

 

So far The https://rent.men/Mister_Mister/ seems extremely nice but have not met yet but he was given Best Guy of 2019 by @latbear4blk

The @MrMattBig is fun and very interesting.

Not sure what your style is but maybe try and see one of these two if they come to your area or if your traveling then you can add [uSER=12155]@Dominiking[/uSER] too.

[+ tassojunior]

You have to try and see it from their viewpoint. The guys get dozens of messages a day and try to set up their schedule in between seeing clients. They are not secretaries and if anything are really bad at secretarial skills. And you'd be amazed at how many people intentionally try to waste time and never book. They're just after free online contact with a hot guy and it becomes a tedious game of spotting them.

 

A "normal" routine would be a guy finishes a 5pm incall at 5:20 and has to groom for a 6:30pm incall and hops on the phone for messages to arrange future dates and tries to get to as many of the 20 messages as possible but one or two of the first 10 want to get into detail about some fetish or see pics or talk about sex for as long as they can keep you online. You have to be rude to discourage them from wasting your time again and this rudeness may carry over into other texts with unknown clients. It's their livi hood and they have to be efficient as possible. 90% of what they want to know is what time do you want a slot and incall or outcall. The rest is details and there may be a dealbreaker. The ones they appreciate are those who say " I'd like an outcall at 7pm today at xxxx address." I'm a top (or bottom). Who pays the Uber, smoking or not, kissing, etc are all details they work out (or very rarely don't).

 

They're not looking for online romance or pen pals.And they have a lot of other texts to try and answer and that's why they may seem curt.

Edited January 1, 2020 by tassojunior

[Kevin Slater]

90% of what they want to know is what time do you want a slot

 

Who are you calling a slot?

 

Kevin Slater

[former lurker]

You have to try and see it from their viewpoint. The guys get dozens of messages a day and try to set up their schedule in between seeing clients. They are not secretaries and if anything are really bad at secretarial skills. And you'd be amazed at how many people intentionally try to waste time and never book. They're just after free online contact with a hot guy and it becomes a tedious game of spotting them.

 

A "normal" routine would be a guy finishes a 5pm incall at 5:20 and has to groom for a 6:30pm incall and hops on the phone for messages to arrange future dates and tries to get to as many of the 20 messages as possible but one or two of the first 10 want to get into detail about some fetish or see pics or talk about sex for as long as they can keep you online. You have to be rude to discourage them from wasting your time again and this rudeness may carry over into other texts with unknown clients. It's their livi hood and they have to be efficient as possible. 90% of what they want to know is what time do you want a slot and incall or outcall. The rest is details and there may be a dealbreaker. The ones they appreciate are those who say " I'd like an outcall at 7pm today at xxxx address." I'm a top (or bottom). Who pays the Uber, smoking or not, kissing, etc are all details they work out (or very rarely don't).

 

They're not looking for online romance or pen pals.And they have a lot of other texts to try and answer and that's why they may seem curt.

 

Exactly. Worse still are those who clients who book an appointment and then gather further information and decide to renege.

[alkan]

Who are you calling a slot?

 

Kevin Slater

Slots are a minority interest on this forum.

[Epigonos]

No tassojunior I really don’t have to see it from their point of view. All of us have had jobs, professions, or career that had different requirements both positive and negative. I for example, taught high school for over thirty years and was required to deal, in a positive manner, with lazy, recalcitrant students and hysterical demanding parents. If I could not do those things then I should not have been teaching. Escorting is no different than any other job, profession or career in that it has some very specific requirements. If an escort cannot be polite and learn how to handle talkative clients, shy clients, make appointments and keep them he should not be escorting. In a buyer seller relationship the seller ALWAYS needs to make the accommodations not the buyer. Over time a good escort will learn how to deal effectively with ALL type of potential and real clients. If he cannot do that he is NEVER going to be all that successful and should probably get out of the business.

Edited January 2, 2020 by Epigonos

[former lurker]

No tassojunior I really don’t have to see it from their point of view. All of us have had jobs, professions, or career that had different requirements both positive and negative. I for example, taught high school for over thirty years and was required to deal, in a positive manner, with lazy, recalcitrant students and hysterical demanding parents. If I could not do those thing then I should not have been teaching. Escorting is no different than any other job, profession or career in that it has some very specific requirements. If an escort cannot be polite and learn how to handle talkative clients, shy clients, make appointments and keep them he should not be escorting. In a buyer seller relationship the seller ALWAYS needs make the accommodation not the buyer. Over time a good escort will learn how to deal effectively with ALL type of potential and real clients. If he cannot do that he is NEVER going to be all that successful and should probably get out of the business.

 

Escorting is not a "job" in the same sense that teaching, especially in the public schools, is a job. An escort has clients, not an employer. It's a "profession" that operates outside the law and thus isn't regulated. It's not governed by laws, licensing requirements or collectively bargained contracts. If an escort fails to meet your expectations, you don't hire him. But he doesn't risk losing his "job" the way a teacher does for misconduct and repeated unprofessional behavior.

 

Although in theory teachers are held accountable, in practice many are not. I say this as the child and nephew of teachers (great ones). I had teachers who, toward the end of their careers, were clearly weary of dealing with high schoolers. A few became petty, snide and vindictive toward some of their students. The issue wasn't pressed, except in one case where a teacher had an epic meltdown in class and then promptly retired. Others were tolerated long past the point when they should have been nudged into retirement.

[RadioRob]

Well you certainly don’t HAVE to do anything but I think Tasso did a good job of explaining what happens on the other side of the keyboard.

 

Sometimes a provider can come off as rude or less than interested because of other things happening. While in an ideal world, it would be about the client and only them... it rarely is an ideal world.

 

If they’re communication is that off putting, you move on and find someone else. But for those with a little understanding and ability to just chill and go with the flow... there could be a really awesome diamond in the rough.

 

And just as you say if the escort does not learn how to deal with all clients they won’t be in the business long... the inverse is true too. This is a two way street where BOTH sides should be a little understanding.

[+ ITakeItDeep]

You're paying them. If it doesn't start out right..it probably won't end right. Be grateful you found out early in the process and find someone else...