Would you include an escort in your will?

[+ WilliamM]

Yup. My #2, the gorgeous blond Argentine, got his student visa revoked 3 years ago through no fault of his. He didn't get the luck of #1 or #3, so he may end up needing more help.

 

In the meantime my #3 (who you saw at Tico that day) has a twin brother who is unemployable because he constantly smokes pot. #3's financial guru has him doing the legal marijuana grow business starting and that may well be one job the twin brother will enjoy working and be exceptionally good at. Funny how sometimes things fall into place (or not) at random.

 

The gorgeous blond's name #3? Or does it mean he is in only in third place in your ranking? Is there a #4 or #5?

[Rod Hagen]

Maybe 11 years ago, a very good friend of mine died suddenly and left a LARGE amount of money, all of his money, to an escort who used to participate on this forum, a bit. By the time my friend died, he and the escort were partners.

[gilbert]

It depends on the relationship I have with the escort and if I have anything to give. If it's a guy who I've become somewhat close to and who has made a difference in my life I can see me sending something his way when I pass. Being in the situation I'm in....closeted, living in an area where there are few gay men, a good escort can make your life a little more complete, since he would be one of the few people I can be myself around, and help me take care of my sexual needs. I realize you're already paying the guy for his services, but still there are some escorts out there who you can get somewhat attached to who you'd like to show your appreciation to by including them in your will. Of course, unless I win the lottery I won't have to worry about it.

[Rudynate]

I don't know an escort who I would want to make a bequest to, but in the abstract, I don't see why I wouldn't

[instudiocity]

Whatever remains will go to charity, including one 501©(3) that I have been personally involved for over 15 years. I have never witnessed anyone benefit, grow in wisdom or generosity after receiving a cash inheritance, and I will not waste resources like that.

Interesting... my parents estate settled, my brother’s banker made an ACH deposit to my checking account, then the next day, I paid more than my inheritance as a principal reduction on my mortgage. So from my parent’s home’s equity to my home’s equity in 24 hours.

[sexymonk]

Not at a good idea IMHO, and certainly a dangerous one to announce in advance. A highly ambitious escort might help you on your way!

 

The one I like I enjoy pampering when we are together, but a cash gift after my demise seems excessive. After all, they have already been paid for the transaction and everything else--gifts, travel--have been bonuses dispensed along the way.

To add to your reasoning here is mine, these escorts had cared you or were good with the view that it was symbiotic transaction. They were good because they were getting perks! People should ask one thing very seriously that these boys would have been with you if there were no financial transaction involved? They gave you good time because they got perks and financial security to an extent in return! For many here the dopamine is controlling the mind instead of the will power. When we go to restaurants Walmart, bestbuy, Macy’s all the servers were good and took care! How many here are including them in will? Lol no one! But escorts are considered in the will as intimacy is ruling the thinking and not the rationale thinking! I personally prefer to give my funds after me to those who genuinely cared for me without expectation! Anyways at last it is personal choice. I am trying to make point as to why escorts will not enter in my will! My best wish goes to very few who have used this medium to rise up and now are successful in life that they don’t need our assistance! I may donate to their good cause and their business which will give job to needy ones!

Edited November 26, 2019 by sexymonk

[sexymonk]

One would have to be on the kind of terms that include knowing the escort's legal name and possibly his address so whoever is administering the estate can find him.

 

That said, bequeathing personal mementos makes sense. In most circumstances, leaving cash doesn't. Give/spend your money on escorts while you're still alive!

Very well said!!!

[+ quoththeraven]

Very well said!!!

Thanks! The situation @Rod Hagen writes about is one of the exceptions.

[+ VictorPowers]

If there’s a will... there’s a way.

[RealAvalon]

If there’s a will... there’s a way.

Will is a sexy name

Edited November 26, 2019 by RealAvalon

[Rod Hagen]

On the subject of "Would you include an escort in your will" Let me ask, Would you exclude your architect-friend from a bequeathment if she had charged her fees for building your house?

 

I know at least two Lawyers who received HUGE sums of money, outside their normal high fees, from their clients as tokens of gratitude to both the quality of their work and their friendships.

 

In the instance of one Lawyer friend he has, through the years, received more than a hundred thousand dollars total from a few client-friends in the form of unasked for stocks and unasked for bonuses.

 

The other Lawyer-friend received tens of millions from two separate clients in their actual Wills.

 

Their client-friends had money to share and chose their friends, who were also their lawyers, to share it with or bequeath it to.

 

Both are damn good lawyers. And both are damn good friends. I absolutely get it.

 

They were good because they were getting perks,...rather...to those who genuinely cared for me !

 

This is a line of reasoning that seems to have followed men and women for hire as long as "for hire" has been a thing, so basically forever. I disagree.

 

Consider some cognitive restructuring around your perception of escorts' needs, motives, and genuineness.

 

The fact that they give you companionship and eroticism, and you give them financial assistance and companionship, does not preclude the possibility of real feelings developing.

 

No professional escort can be financially stable without said assistance, so maybe you're aiding a very close friend who needs the financial help.

Edited November 26, 2019 by Rod Hagen

[sexymonk]

This is a line of reasoning that seems to have followed men and women for hire as long as "for hire" has been a thing, so basically forever. I disagree.

 

The fact that they give you companionship and eroticism, and you give them financial assistance and companionship, does not preclude the possibility of real feelings developing.

 

No professional escort can be financially stable without said assistance, so maybe you're aiding a very close friend who needs the financial help.

Feelings or dopamine?

[+ WilliamM]

On the subject of "Would you include an escort in your will" Let me ask, Would you exclude your architect-friend from a bequeathment if she had charged her fees for building your house?

 

I know at least two Lawyers who received HUGE sums of money, outside their normal high fees, from their clients as tokens of gratitude to both the quality of their work and their friendships.

 

In the instance of one Lawyer friend he has, through the years, received more than a hundred thousand dollars total from a few client-friends in the form of unasked for stocks and unasked for bonuses.

 

The other Lawyer-friend received tens of millions from two separate clients in their actual Wills.

 

Their client-friends had money to share and chose their friends, who were also their lawyers, to share it with or bequeath it to.

 

Both are damn good lawyers. And both are damn good friends. I absolutely get it.

 

 

 

This is a line of reasoning that seems to have followed men and women for hire as long as "for hire" has been a thing, so basically forever. I disagree.

 

Consider some cognitive restructuring around your perception of escorts' needs, motives, and genuineness.

 

The fact that they give you companionship and eroticism, and you give them financial assistance and companionship, does not preclude the possibility of real feelings developing.

 

No professional escort can be financially stable without said assistance, so maybe you're aiding a very close friend who needs the financial help.

 

Very confusing.

[marylander1940]

On the subject of "Would you include an escort in your will" Let me ask, Would you exclude your architect-friend from a bequeathment if she had charged her fees for building your house?

 

I know at least two Lawyers who received HUGE sums of money, outside their normal high fees, from their clients as tokens of gratitude to both the quality of their work and their friendships.

 

In the instance of one Lawyer friend he has, through the years, received more than a hundred thousand dollars total from a few client-friends in the form of unasked for stocks and unasked for bonuses.

 

The other Lawyer-friend received tens of millions from two separate clients in their actual Wills.

 

Their client-friends had money to share and chose their friends, who were also their lawyers, to share it with or bequeath it to.

 

Both are damn good lawyers. And both are damn good friends. I absolutely get it.

 

Sounds like large tips to me.

 

This is a line of reasoning that seems to have followed men and women for hire as long as "for hire" has been a thing, so basically forever. I disagree.

 

Consider some cognitive restructuring around your perception of escorts' needs, motives, and genuineness.

 

The fact that they give you companionship and eroticism, and you give them financial assistance and companionship, does not preclude the possibility of real feelings developing.

 

No professional escort can be financially stable without said assistance, so maybe you're aiding a very close friend who needs the financial help.

 

I'm sure regulars and the occasional gifts and tips, are important in the business specially now that is so competitive. This thread is about a special kind of compensation that is including someone in your will for him to receive an extra compensation (money, art, car, house) after the passing of his former client.

 

Someone even talked about a reverse mortgage to pay the services of an escort, let me see if I can find it.

 

Bingo:

 

reverse mortgage for escort services

 

My advice: till when can the client change his will to benefit someone younger and cuter? How long will he be around?

[down_to_business]

I would more than likely not include an escort in my will unless we had somehow pierced the strict provider/client boundary. I similarly wouldn't put a doctor or lawyer or any other person in similar fashion. If any professional was also a very good friend, or became a very good friend along the way (even if we started as just business associates), then by all means I would consider it. Based on my past experiences, there was one escort that would have met this qualification.

In general, however, the bulk of my charitable giving is animal focused.

[sexymonk]

I would more than likely not include an escort in my will unless we had somehow pierced the strict provider/client boundary. I similarly wouldn't put a doctor or lawyer or any other person in similar fashion. If any professional was also a very good friend, or became a very good friend along the way (even if we started as just business associates), then by all means I would consider it. Based on my past experiences, there was one escort that would have met this qualification.

In general, however, the bulk of my charitable giving is animal focused.

Well said and exactly that is I too tried to say that escort provided material body pleasure and are considered in will but not the doctors, lawyers, servers, grocery store cashiers! It is dopamine that hijacks rationale mind and that dopamine is termed as feelings by many!

[blightuponyou]

If he was very important to me, why not? It sure as hell is not going to anyone in my immediate family.

[Rod Hagen]

In general, however, the bulk of my charitable giving is animal focused.

The best escorts are all animal :-)

[loremipsum]

Here for pointers!

[Bucky]

If you haven't spent almost every penny up to the point of time that coincides with the date of your passing, some would say you've simply mismanaged your finances.

Edited December 5, 2019 by Bucky

[Guest europeanman]

If you haven't spent almost every penny up to the point of time that coincides with the date of your passing, some would say you've simply mismanaged your finances.

A private banker told me about a 95 yo customer who was left with his last 100K. He used to say that he planned his finances carefully. He did not plan that he would live so long.