Busted

[loremipsum]

This is why I never no longer meet guys without finding a somewhat decent reference I can mostly trust . . . although if everyone did that I guess there would be no new providers.

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_loafing

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diffusion_of_responsibility

 

?

 

I’ve already seen a fair amount of these phenomena on this site especially re: an unknown, unreviewed escort/masseur — “Someone take the plunge/leap and advise of his good/badness, etc.”

[Walker1]

We seem to be going backwards socially . Oh well. At least OP just got scammed and not arretsed with your face and anme in the papers .

[excelntsvc]

the fact that he would not show a badge should have been your automatic tip off to scream like hell and not cough up cash

[+ Reisr30]

I think if I was in the OPs situation I would have reacted the same way. I am not a big guy and frankly there are three things that I worry about when meeting someone new (specially if they are a lot bigger than me) 1. that he is a LEO 2. getting violently robbed and 3. being sexually assaulted.

 

And that is one of the reasons I find the forum and DRs invaluable.

[Yeahman]

Law Enforcement Officer

First of all this is very scary and sorry for OP. Is LEO a slang amongst gay men only? Is it safe to use in work place?

[MrMattBig]

First of all this is very scary and sorry for OP. Is LEO a slang amongst gay men only? Is it safe to use in work place?

Leo is slang for those in the provider/client community primarily.

[Yeahman]

Leo is slang for those in the provider/client community primarily.

 

So it isn’t safe to use it in work place. In other words, if I use it at work place, I might involuntarily reveal some of my secrets to my colleagues, correct?

[MrMattBig]

So it isn’t safe to use it in work place. In other words, if I use it at work place, I might involuntarily reveal some of my secrets to my colleagues, correct?

Yup correct

[+ Gar1eth]

First of all this is very scary and sorry for OP. Is LEO a slang amongst gay men only? Is it safe to use in work place?

Leo is slang for those in the provider/client community primarily.

So it isn’t safe to use it in work place. In other words, if I use it at work place, I might involuntarily reveal some of my secrets to my colleagues, correct?

Yup correct

 

I'm not sure about LEO being only "gay code." I read a lot of fantasy. I first saw the acronym when I read it in one of my books. I believe the context was a federal agent speaking with someone about local law enforcement officers.

 

Looking it up on Google -the meaning pops up immediately.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Gman

[Scorpio]

First of all this is very scary and sorry for OP. Is LEO a slang amongst gay men only? Is it safe to use in work place?

 

it used frequently on television shows, such as NCIS. The Federal agents reference local law enforcement, as “local leos”

[bud001]

I have to agree with others that this is most likely a robbery, not an arrest. If he is a real LEO, he would have had recording equipment on him that would prevent him from making demands like this on audio (remember, they need audio-visual evidence for trial). But this serves as a reminder that you really should only stick to trustworthy sites and people who are known in the business.

[Guy Fawkes]

If he was a LEO, his actions would immediately cause him to be suspended. What you had was a shake-down artist that ripped you off.

 

Once a person is placed under arrest there are certain procedures that become manitory because if they are not followed the case will be dismissed. Identification is mandatory. Maranta rights are mandatory.

 

No Police Organization will allow a sting operation to be run by a single person. This is for the LEOs protection both physically and legally.

 

What do you do? Ask for his supervisor. Ask for your lawyer. Call 911 and have them verify identity. All are triggers for Police Organizations that if not followed can lead to multi-million dollar law suits.

“You have the right to remain silent. Anything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law. You have the right to an attorney. If you cannot afford an attorney, one will be provided for you. -- http://www.mirandawarning.org/whatareyourmirandarights.html

Without a lawyer present the answer should always be "I want a lawyer before I answer any questions." Be firm and be silent.

 

I'm so sorry for your loss, both physical and mental. Hopefully this will give you some peace of mind.

 

 

 

I haven’t been on for a while, and haven’t really been actively hiring since 2017. I’ve been using Grindr and other apps/sites for this type of activity.

 

Today I set up an appointment with someone on skipthegames.com. After several messages and exchange of photos we met this afternoon. He asked that I produce payment before anything happened, and I did. As soon as I handed him the money, I heard “Sir, please turn against the wall and place your hands behind you back.” He pulled handcuffs, and I kind of chuckled and asked for some confirmation that he was LEO, and was assured that I would know he was once we were in the police car. I completely lost it and let him know that something like this would absolutely ruin me.

 

After desperately pleading with him, he agreed to turn a blind eye in exchange for additional compensation. He wanted $1,500 to make it disappear. I was able to come up with less on the spot, and had his word that this would be the end of it. He said that we both had a secret about each other that would protect us both. His rationale was that he would tell his colleagues that I got cold feet and backed out of the arrangement.

 

Not sure he was really LEO, but wasn’t really brave enough to take the chance. Dirty cop or shyster hustler? He told me that they’ve been scooping sites like skipthegames, Grindr, etc., looking for “generous men” and that they were cracking down.

 

After today, this has pretty much thrown water on my hiring at all. A painful, frightening and expense lesson to learn.

 

A truly FML experience.

Edited October 13, 2019 by Guy Fawkes

[Man Crush Morris]

Sounds like scam. I'm sorry you experienced this.

[adventurous old guy]

Scam. My condolences.

 

Scammers are growing bolder and bolder.

 

Incidentally, there are real (corrupt) cops in Tijuana who find a pretext for arresting someone, then just ask for money in exchange for release. It’s happened to a couple of friends of mine. But yeah — those were actual cops. Yours was not. And like an earlier poster noted, legitimate undercover operations are generally composed of several people, or so I’ve read. I’ve also read that they are recorded, so a real cop wouldn’t ask for a bribe, I think... Anyway, I hope this doesn’t haunt your psyche too much. That sucks.

Right, this sounds like something that LEOs wouldn't do in the U.S. But it does happen elsewhere, A young very American looking/dressing friend of mine just had drugs planted on him in a Columbian restaurant, followed by an attempted arrest by LEOs. Luckily his girlfriend, who is Columbian, saw it and confronted them loudly and shamed them into backing down in front of all the restaurant patrons as witnesses. Bottom line, beware when traveling.

[MikeBiDude]

Leo is slang for those in the provider/client community primarily.

I disagree and think the acronym is valid outside our small universe here.

[+ Reisr30]

I disagree and think the acronym is valid outside our small universe here.

It does have an entry in Wikipedia under other:

 

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leo

 

Not that Wikipedia is Oxford dictionary but it is mainstream and would validate your point...

[MrMattBig]

I disagree and think the acronym is valid outside our small universe here.

I realized I was wrong.

Still probably best to use discretion when using the term.

If I overheard someone use it out in public, I might suspect they could be a client, sex worker, drug buyer/seller, or be using the term for any number reasons to talk about law enforcement in a discreet manner.

 

Most of the general public would just say cop or law enforcement as the whole phrase.

In terms of slang as well "five-o" would be used before leo.

Edited October 14, 2019 by MrMattBig

[illhelpya]

The OP should say who the guy was, otherwise he'll keep scamming other guys.

[+ kent]

Scam. You can file a complaint with the real police.

[Phil_musc]

But wasn't the OP trying to avoid the police?

[+ kent]

But wasn't the OP trying to avoid the police?

The police would probably be interested in someone impersonating a LEO to shake people down without needing to drag the OP into things further. The complaint could even be done anonymously, depending on the jurisdiction, although that would preclude charge based on OP's own incident.

[adventurous old guy]

My two cents: I'm from a family of LEOs -- although we call them cops lol -- and all for standing up against criminal activity, but the time to do that was during the shakedown, by calling his bluff, picking up the phone and dialing 911. Now -- well, we know this guy is a creep, he knows where you live and if reported now I'd be worried about retaliation -- vandalism or other property damage, getting stalked and beat up on the street or worse. Pains me to say it because so unfair, but at this point I'd chalk this up to a $1500 lesson learned rather then spending the next 6 weeks 24/7 looking over my shoulder.

[KeepItReal]

Quite frankly, I was frigging terrified and the handcuffs looked like the real deal. If he was LEO, I didn't want to challenge him and make things worse. And if he wasn't LEO, I didn't want to antagonize him and risk being physically harmed. My brain shut down and my first instinct was to save myself from whatever. Chalk it up to me being a very stupid old man . I really never thought someone would do something like this.

 

@Reluctant Daddy Is this him?? https://friendboy.pro/boys/Skipthegames

 

I am not familiar with skipthegames.com - perhaps you could post a link to this specific ad so we can take a look?

The OP should say who the guy was, otherwise he'll keep scamming other guys.

[BabyBoomer]

@Reluctant Daddy Is this him?? https://friendboy.pro/boys/Skipthegames

 

I think the OP was referring to this website.

 

https://skipthegames.com

 

~Boomer~

[Realalist]

I'm really sorry for this experience. This is actually an old trick but if your're new to this I can see how you could get caught in it. This trick was very popular among female sex workers who would set up the victims sometimes with the help of their pimps. It was also shown in that HBO sex worker doc from the 90's.