Overnights and working

[DallasClient]

I spoke with an escort from another state and invited him for an overnight Saturday to Sunday visit. He agreed and booked a flight and I paid for it. I asked him to send me the flight info and I would pick him up at the airport. He said he booked it for Wed arrival and Sunday departure since he thought he would work in Dallas a few nights before seeing me on Saturday.

 

I was a little taken aback by that. I felt like I paid a premium that other Dallas clients didn't have to pay and I was on the tail end of the trip. I kind of feel like if he was going to work here, the flight should have been on him or he should have worked in Dallas after being with me. I didn't say anything because I didn't want any wierdness during our time together.

 

Am I being unreasonable? I'm not out more money than if he just stayed in the area one night and it was with me. He covered his own expenses in the city and paid his own Uber to my house.

 

Just wondering what others think. We did have a nice overnight.

[GTMike]

I understand what you're feeling like you were potentially somewhat taken advantage of or others got benefits that you paid and provided for. But think of it this way. You got to meet someone who may not of visited your city for a long time and you commented that you did have a nice overnight. So potentially in the future if and when he's in Dallas again you got a "known quantity" and reliable friend that established trust and rapport with. But also it's also quite possible that the Wednesday to Sunday round fare may have been cheaper for you than a shorter Saturday to Sunday trip. Yes it might feel more special if the entire trip was just focused on you but i've done the same but encouraged the gentleman to feel free to take advantage of the "free" trip, sight see if he wants, book other clients at a hotel etc.. as long as I'm comfortable he'll be reliable and respectful during my time with him. I atually think it can help establish boundaries and balance when meeting for the initial time if your the type that likes to hire for long lasting regulars.

Edited September 1, 2019 by GTMike

[mike carey]

Am I being unreasonable? I'm not out more money than if he just stayed in the area one night and it was with me. He covered his own expenses in the city and paid his own Uber to my house.

I think your concern is understandable, but I wouldn't fret about it if I were you. In a way this appointment was a proof of concept that it can go well in such circumstances. Even if he had made this an exclusive trip for you, you would have had no control of what he did up to the moment he went to the airport. As you note, his extended stay made responsibility for other expenses for the visit his rather than potentially yours. (I'm aware this is the 'Ask an Escort' forum and that I'm not one.)

[LookingAround]

Let it go. Lots of more important things to worry about.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

If his performance wasn’t affected by his previous encounters and the cost wasn’t any different to me, I wouldn’t have an issue with this situation.

 

After all, if you don’t want to share a guy with others, get a boyfriend instead of hiring a sex worker.

[jawjateck]

You took a chance on a provider and were rewarded with a good time. All's well.

[Nebost]

You specified the nights, so really , you were his first priority, anything else he did worked around your schedule. So long has he was a good provider during this time, and you did not incur additional expense, I think he fulfilled his end.

[DallasClient]

Thanks for all views. I didn't let it get to me and I didn't let it affect our time together. It was just the first time I had it happen this way and was curious about it. It was probably a tinge of jealousy thinking "I flew you here and all of Dallas gets you before me?" LoL I wouldn't have given it another thought if he worked in town after me.

 

All is well though. I really enjoy reading different points of view.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I spoke with an escort from another state and invited him for an overnight Saturday to Sunday visit. He agreed and booked a flight and I paid for it. I asked him to send me the flight info and I would pick him up at the airport. He said he booked it for Wed arrival and Sunday departure since he thought he would work in Dallas a few nights before seeing me on Saturday.

 

I was a little taken aback by that. I felt like I paid a premium that other Dallas clients didn't have to pay and I was on the tail end of the trip. I kind of feel like if he was going to work here, the flight should have been on him or he should have worked in Dallas after being with me. I didn't say anything because I didn't want any wierdness during our time together.

 

Am I being unreasonable? I'm not out more money than if he just stayed in the area one night and it was with me. He covered his own expenses in the city and paid his own Uber to my house.

 

Just wondering what others think. We did have a nice overnight.

 

You're the anchor in this situation. It's a normal thing, although if I were that escort, I'd have been much more discreet about it.

 

For the future: If you wanted him exclusively, that's the bonus of booking the ticket yourself. You maintain that control.

Edited August 30, 2019 by Benjamin_Nicholas

[marylander1940]

I spoke with an escort from another state and invited him for an overnight Saturday to Sunday visit. He agreed and booked a flight and I paid for it. I asked him to send me the flight info and I would pick him up at the airport. He said he booked it for Wed arrival and Sunday departure since he thought he would work in Dallas a few nights before seeing me on Saturday.

 

I was a little taken aback by that. I felt like I paid a premium that other Dallas clients didn't have to pay and I was on the tail end of the trip. I kind of feel like if he was going to work here, the flight should have been on him or he should have worked in Dallas after being with me. I didn't say anything because I didn't want any wierdness during our time together.

 

Am I being unreasonable? I'm not out more money than if he just stayed in the area one night and it was with me. He covered his own expenses in the city and paid his own Uber to my house.

 

Just wondering what others think. We did have a nice overnight.

 

He should have told you in advance about his plans.

 

You're his anchor client, the reason why he went to Dallas knowing already he'd make a profit because of the overnight and the fact that you paid for his flight.

 

I know a local escort who goes to places if he's invited for an overnight or multiple hour appointment but he's upfront about it and thanks the clients who made his trips possible. He used to travel to Honolulu for an overnight, stay on his own after and thank the client before flying back home with a 1 hour freebie right after he would drop him at the airport.

 

You're the anchor in this situation. It's a normal thing, although if I were that escort, I'd have been much more discreet about it.

 

For the future: If you wanted him exclusively, that's the bonus of booking the ticket yourself. You maintain that control.

 

For the record... I think I coined the term anchor on here but you @Benjamin_Nicholas destroyed the Dallas mafia!

 

Post number 15. Should I also add the definition of anchor to the Urban dictionary?

Edited August 30, 2019 by marylander1940

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

For the record... I think I coined the term anchor on here

 

You are correct sir.

 

And from this day forward, anytime someone uses that phrase, they owe you a royalty.

 

$1 is fair, right?

[+ DERRIK]

somehow the term "drop anchor" takes special meaning in this thread

 

[+ pdxleo]

When I've done this in the past, I've always offered to set up the escort's flights as a "do you want me to get your flight home for a couple days after we are done?" so that he knows that his free time would be after our visit had ended. Never been a problem in my experience.

[acks0104]

I can definitely see it both ways. If anything, I think he should have just said that he was flying into town early to attend to some other personal things prior to meeting up with you. I don't think escorts really need to talk about their other work unless asked.

[big-n-tall]

As people stated, as long as the hire's performance wasn't affected by seeing other people before your time with him... its all good.

 

I had a similar situation with a popular escort. However, instead of working before our meet up, he worked after.

 

Years ago I flew him in from Cali to my area. We discussed it ahead of our meet up but I got his tickets so he would leave a number of days after our weekend. He wanted to work the area a number of days after we parted ways.

 

This worked great for me because when it came time to give him his fee... he wouldn't accept his full weekend rate. He figured me adding days before his departure allowed him to more than make up for the amount he subtracted when he would see other clients those extra days.

 

So I ultimately had an absolutely amazing weekend with a great, very sexual and sweet guy at a discounted rate.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

at a discounted rate.

 

Everyone please keep in mind that this is the exception and not the norm.

[mike carey]

Everyone please keep in mind that this is the exception and not the norm.

I would have thought that even if the eventual rate charged were contingent on other factors (like exclusivity, billable hours foregone during travel etc) that most escorts would have factored those into the rate they quoted rather than give a 'discount'.

[big-n-tall]

Everyone please keep in mind that this is the exception and not the norm.

 

And I would absolutely agree. I was surprised he did it and I asked him multiple times if he was sure about it.

 

This escort is the only escort I’ve encountered who has asked me to bake in extra days with his tickets. He also is the only one who offered a discount after our agreed upon rate.

 

I’ve seen him a few times since. He is obviously a great guy and I wish I could see him more.

[+ DERRIK]

I have two kinds of business

 

My business

 

Not my business

[ncc1701d]

I see both sides too and have experience both ways, so totally agree. Which is why I liked some escort who has the concept of "you pay ticket and get xx hrs or service" but you know he will stay longer for others...

[+ Reisr30]

I find this interesting. I flew a companion to the city I was visiting. I set up the flights and covered the ticket. I also covered all meals and ground transportation to and from airport. Is that pretty standard? I just assumed I needed to cover all expenses.

[+ OliverSaks]

Yes, standard, and much appreciated because those trips to and from airport add up

[+ VictorPowers]

Ouch. If the client pays for travel, I strictly DO NOT “Double Dip” and stay longer for other business. I do not know industry standard but that’s how I have always operated.

[marylander1940]

I think thats why sometimes its best to hire an escort when you're in their city or when their in your city.

 

For a first encounter no doubt but what if they client wants a weekend or an overnight somewhere else.

[DallasClient]

I find this interesting. I flew a companion to the city I was visiting. I set up the flights and covered the ticket. I also covered all meals and ground transportation to and from airport. Is that pretty standard? I just assumed I needed to cover all expenses.

 

Yes, I think so. I cover all transportation and meals along with any admission or cover charges to any movies/museums/plays/clubs, etc. and any drinks or snacks at those places. Before they come to visit, I try to find out if they prefer a particular soda or snacks and I try to have those on hand. Also, i try to have fresh fruit and bottled water always available too.

 

It's no different than having any other respected guest in your home.