Finally back home

[Guest]

Well, my beau's finally coming home tomorrow, after 3 and a half long weeks at his family's house in South America. He said his parents said they wanted nothing more to do with him when he came out to them, so I have the house decked out with Welcome Home and romantic balloons. Hopefully he gets the message that there's unconditional love in my arms!

[Guest]

[Guest]

[MscleLovr]

I hope it goes well for you @Unicorn

 

his parents said they wanted nothing more to do with him when he came out to them

 

My bet is that once the family discover you are financially well-placed, they will want to come and stay on shopping trips, and the requests for gifts and money will soon follow. Be smart and keep a firm hold on your wallet.

 

FWIW I know of a young gay Argentine who married a much older American and of a young gay Peruvian who married an older New Yorker. Both South American families expressed their disgust...but within a few months, both had overcome their horror sufficiently to ask the Americans for money for family parties, vacations etc.

[jjkrkwood]

I hope it goes well for you @Unicorn

 

 

 

My bet is that once the family discover you are financially well-placed, they will want to come and stay on shopping trips, and the requests for gifts and money will soon follow. Be smart and keep a firm hold on your wallet.

 

FWIW I know of a young gay Argentine who married a much older American and of a young gay Peruvian who married an older New Yorker. Both South American families expressed their disgust...but within a few months, both had overcome their horror sufficiently to ask the Americans for money for family parties, vacations etc.

 

Well that's how it usually is with May/December romances or if a boy is from another country and looking for the American dream. Often times older guys are so desperate for love and partnership they overlook the downfalls, especially if they are financially blessed. One just has to be savvy and recognize if/when they are being used and then make the decision to either break ties, or become the Bank of America... Actually all the power is in the elders' hands here, so he just needs to use it wisely... PS..Good Luck @Unicorn

[liubit]

My very best wishes to you, @Unicorn.

[+ WilliamM]

Unicorn, Everything will work out. I wish you a long journey with such a wonderful husband.

[+ Charlie]

One always wonders how a loving family could turn on a child and reject him completely solely for being honest about his feelings and needs, rather than dutifully meeting all their expectations. As time passes, they may re-evaluate their response, not to take advantage of you, but because they realize their mistake. Meanwhile, it is great that you are there for him. And now you won't have to manage a big family wedding, just something more intimate.

 

BTW, I know a happy couple who have been together for decades, who started in a very similar fashion to the two of you. The younger man's very traditional family in a conservative country eventually did accept the situation, if not always graciously, and the siblings have become reconciled.

[Guest]

.... And now you won't have to manage a big family wedding, just something more intimate...

 

Well, there will certainly be dozens of people coming on my side. And he has some friends who will be coming on his side. I don't think it will be that intimate. I never thought I'd meet someone I'd love enough to marry. He's sleeping off now after some long flights....

[Guest]

I hope it goes well for you @Unicorn

My bet is that once the family discover you are financially well-placed, they will want to come and stay on shopping trips, and the requests for gifts and money will soon follow. Be smart and keep a firm hold on your wallet.

I've never met his parents, but my impression is that his family is among the better off families in his country. It would take some chutzpah for them to ask for money after the way they treated him. Especially if they don't come to the wedding. This is the type of house we might get when I retire in early 2021, if things go according to plan (a house we both like)...

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/2129-Mount-Olympus-Dr-Los-Angeles-CA-90046/20802287_zpid/

 

Or, if I want to be a big spender, maybe even this house....

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/9119-Saint-Ives-Dr-Los-Angeles-CA-90069/20799246_zpid/

 

We also both like this house, though it's a bit far from things. We like to send each other houses that we think we might like...

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/2636-La-Cuesta-Dr-Los-Angeles-CA-90046/79797128_zpid/

[MscleLovr]

I never thought I'd meet someone I'd love enough to marry.

 

When do you plan to marry @Unicorn ?

 

We like to send each other houses that we think we might like...

 

You obviously have romantic impulses to a great degree but rather than swap details of houses you “might get” with him, why not swap and discuss details of the pre-nuptial/co-habitation agreement your lawyer should be drafting right now?

[+ Charlie]

This is your audition proposal for an episode of "House Hunters," right? I'll bet the producer will be ringing your doorbell at any moment. Let us know when it will be broadcast, because I am dying to see which one you pick. I'm voting for House #1.

[jjkrkwood]

Wealth is fleeting.... Just wait for the Trump recession.....

[+ WilliamM]

This is your audition proposal for an episode of "House Hunters," right? I'll bet the producer will be ringing your doorbell at any moment. Let us know when it will be broadcast, because I am dying to see which one you pick. I'm voting

 

for House #1.

 

There are several people here much more wealthy

Edited August 20, 2019 by WilliamM

[+ Reisr30]

Wishing you all the best ?

[Guest]

This is your audition proposal for an episode of "House Hunters," right? I'll bet the producer will be ringing your doorbell at any moment. Let us know when it will be broadcast, because I am dying to see which one you pick. I'm voting for House #1.

You're right, that was the house I'm probably most enthusiastic about, although I don't suppose it'll still be available when I'm out house hunting in early 2021 (also, the construction is a little older than I'd ideally prefer). Actually, my dream house might be this one, although I'd hope it would come down in price some more. It's been on the market for 2 years without being sold, so who knows, it might still be available. What I like about it is that it's on one of the few gated streets in the WeHo/BH area. As you can see, the HOA fee is $125/mo, which I think is just for the cost of the street paving and gating (there's just a code or remote for the gate, not an actual attendant). I don't think the HOA is there to nag you about your fence, etc. In general, I wouldn't want an HOA, unless it was this type of HOA, which is just there to maintain the private street.

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/9653-Oak-Pass-Rd-Beverly-Hills-CA-90210/20532928_zpid/

[+ Charlie]

You're right, that was the house I'm probably most enthusiastic about, although I don't suppose it'll still be available when I'm out house hunting in early 2021 (also, the construction is a little older than I'd ideally prefer). Actually, my dream house might be this one, although I'd hope it would come down in price some more. It's been on the market for 2 years without being sold, so who knows, it might still be available. What I like about it is that it's on one of the few gated streets in the WeHo/BH area. As you can see, the HOA fee is $125/mo, which I think is just for the cost of the street paving and gating (there's just a code or remote for the gate, not an actual attendant). I don't think the HOA is there to nag you about your fence, etc. In general, I wouldn't want an HOA, unless it was this type of HOA, which is just there to maintain the private street.

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/9653-Oak-Pass-Rd-Beverly-Hills-CA-90210/20532928_zpid/

Love it! It would also be perfect for the wedding reception, except that parking in that area would be a problem for the guests.

[Guest]

I'm going to have the wedding locally here in the SF Bay Area to maximize convenience and attendance of my local friends (although I still have some friends from UCLA, so there are a few who would probably be more likely to attend an LA wedding)