Young Men Not Having Sex

[+ tassojunior]

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/male-abstinence-research_n_56183d7ce4b0e66ad4c812f6?guccounter=1

[+ WilliamM]

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/male-abstinence-research_n_56183d7ce4b0e66ad4c812f6?guccounter=1

 

When I was in college in the early to mid-1960s, all male and all female colleges were still the norm for most private schools. There were fewer opportunities to meet women.

[LivingnLA]

I believe the latest GSS data showed something like 18% of young women and 28% of young men did not have sex in the last year. There are a great many reasons why sexual activity is declining. Nearly 60 years after the start of the Sexual Revolution in the USA, the fact remains that we are seeing less sexual activity. This is partially a result of our long fight toward real equality for all humans, regardless of gender and sexual expression. Couple that to the growing reasonable expectation that every human being has the right to control their body and access to it. Then throw in how technology and other societal shifts (inequality, loss of hope/opportunity, success pressures, performance anxiety, porn, etc.) have increased emotional and physical isolation along with the added stress of our unhealthy lives and we create a world where less sex happens. We should all be worried since touch and healthy sex lives both play huge roles in emotional, mental, and physical health. Our society is broken and the drop in sexual activity is one more of the many warning flags waving to get our attention before it's too late.

 

If you're looking for a very good and readable overview of this complex topic, I suggest this great Atlantic article:

 

https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/

 

A shorter read that pulls out a key theme or two of the article can be found at the Tribune:

 

https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/stevens/ct-life-stevens-thursday-why-theres-a-sex-recession-1115-story.html

 

Here's a Psych Today write-up by a respected expert who summarizes and responds to the Atlantic article:

 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201811/7-reasons-why-young-people-are-having-less-sex

[+ tassojunior]

Many men would say it's scary as far as diseases and legal trouble now. No means no but no one's sure what means yes short of a witnessed written agreement. A young man's life can easily be ruined. Too much trouble when porn's free.

[LivingnLA]

Many men would say it's scary as far as diseases and legal trouble now. No means no but no one's sure what means yes short of a witnessed written agreement. A young man's life can easily be ruined. Too much trouble when porn's free.

 

Men who are worried about "legal trouble" need to wake up and update their thinking as we build a society that is finally starting to demand equal protection for all human beings. It's this simple: enthusiastic consent means yes, consent may be withdrawn at any time, and any form of pressure (emotional, physical, social) nullifies consent. Those 3 basics plus a clear understanding that any mind altering substance compromises consent is all that's needed. In other words, respect whoever you're with as you want to be respected. None of my children have ever expressed such a fear or concern nor have any of their friends as far as I'm aware, but we have believed in and taught enthusiastic consent from an early age.

 

http://www.mtv.com/news/3119428/how-to-practice-enthusiastic-consent/

 

Are there some "legal troubles," yes but as usual sexism and fearmongering blow them way out of proportion. The best studies I've seen have false reports in the 2-6% range. Yes, that is terrible for the 2 to 6 people (not all are guys) out of every hundred who have to go through the experience. But, studies show anywhere from 50 to 60% (or more) of sexual assault goes unreported. The vast majority of victims suffer in silence because of our sexist society's refusal to see how deep and pervasive sexual violence is, even today. Our children deserve better. We need to stop the BS, grow up, and fix this now.

 

https://theconversation.com/heres-the-truth-about-false-accusations-of-sexual-violence-88049

[+ Tygerscent]

Many men would say it's scary as far as diseases and legal trouble now. No means no but no one's sure what means yes short of a witnessed written agreement. A young man's life can easily be ruined. Too much trouble when porn's free.

You bring up a good point: the online presence of sex~

While sexual encounters “appear” to be going down according to provided reports, that says nothing about couples in relationships and people masturbating to online porn~

Who was being poled to get these statistics~?

If you look at porn hubs annual and financial report, their business is on the rise~ ?‍♂️

https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2018-year-in-review

[muscmtl]

The absolute worst is to see a 25 years old at the bat house using Viagra. No one in their 20s need Viagra absolutely no one. 20 and 30 years old allready have problem maintaing an erection this world is fucked up

[LivingnLA]

The absolute worst is to see a 25 years old at the bat house using Viagra. No one in their 20s need Viagra absolutely no one. 20 and 30 years old allready have problem maintaing an erection this world is fucked up

 

There have been cases of men in their 20s and 30s who have ED because of various psychological issues and even some physiological issues. Accidents and trauma can happen at any age. Excessive porn use can lead to certain cognitive habituation that makes ED a high possibility. There are many reasons why they might need assistance.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

There have been cases of men in their 20s and 30s who have ED because of various psychological issues and even some physiological issues. Accidents and trauma can happen at any age. Excessive porn use can lead to certain cognitive habituation that makes ED a high possibility. There are many reasons why they might need assistance.

 

Agreed. You can't know someone's history and sure as shit shouldn't judge them for using ED meds.

[NYCBttmDad]

There’s also the nofap movement, which has guys into staying away from porn and jerking off to “reset”’ their brains, and a bunch of guys into semen retention.

Best answer.