Ice Breaker

[Choclate Cub]

Ok to start off please dont judge me lol. Whenever I meet a new guy I always get nervous. I used to cut on Netflix at the start of the session to help ease the nervousness, but there have been a few times where Netflix was more entertaining then me lol.

 

What are some good things to do to break the ice when meeting with a new escort? I like my sessions to feel more comfortable and more like a friend with benefits session versus a business meeting haha.

 

Any advice would be hopeful from clients or escorts.

[Rudynate]

Ok to start off please dont judge me lol. Whenever I meet a new guy I always get nervous. I used to cut on Netflix at the start of the session to help ease the nervousness, but there have been a few times where Netflix was more entertaining then me lol.

 

What are some good things to do to break the ice when meeting with a new escort? I like my sessions to feel more comfortable and more like a friend with benefits session versus a business meeting haha.

 

Any advice would be hopeful from clients or escorts.

 

 

A hug and a kiss is a great icebreaker.

[SeattleWorkingMan]

Expecting a great time without too many expectations helps me relax. By the time we meet face-to-face and close the door, several good things have already happened: I'm attracted to him or I wouldn't have contacted him in the first place, I've showered and dressed comfortably and know I'll smell clean (without cologne that he may or may not like) and that I'll taste good, I've communicated already that I want to top or bottom so he knows how to prepare, and I'm on time & found his place. I slip the envelope onto a dresser within plain sight without saying anything to get that out of the way. I don't prescribe exactly what I expect to do every minute - allow for electricity and surprises. Have fun exploring. Trust his sexual energy and experience (he's the pro!) and look forward to learning from him and with him. If small talk happens right away, cool - if it doesn't, no problem. A "thank's for seeing me," or "I'm glad our scheduling worked out," or even an honest, "Hey, I'm always nervous at first," could help you relax and give him a chance to do what he has learned to do to help guys relax. And you don't have to say anything at all, that initial hug or kiss - if you haven't shared a hug and welcome kiss the minute you stepped in, now's the time. Have fun!

[David1024]

In my experience, some escorts have their own way of breaking the ice, while others leave it to the client. There are two that I specifically recall. The first time I met my favorite escort, and most frequent hire, we sat on the bed, he held my hand, looked in to my eyes and simply said "How are you doing today?". That somehow got me relaxed and started a nice conversation that soon moved on to an amazingly hot time. The second was an escort I met while traveling to his city. He entered my hotel room, gave me a smile, put down his backpack and immediately started kissing me passionately. No need to break any ice there!

 

When they leave it up to me, I start off thanking them for meeting me and then ask a few benign questions, such as which part of town they live, if they have a "day job". If conversation flows, I always ask "I hope you don't mind me asking a few questions, I just want to get to know you". Most don't mind at all. The transition from talk time to play time then seems to come naturally.

[desertguy1954]

The ice breaker with my two favorite escorts was different. The first one, when I arrived, we set down on the couch and talked and got to know a little about each other. He then moved closer and gave me a wonderful nice deep kiss. When we get together now, that is how it starts nice kisses on the way to the bedroom and then off with the clothes.

eMy other guy, the minute the door shuts the deep wet kisses start, last for awhile, then we slowly undress and the kisses get deeper and more passionate until clothes off and time for the fun to begin

[Rudynate]

The ice breaker with my two favorite escorts was different. The first one, when I arrived, we set down on the couch and talked and got to know a little about each other. He then moved closer and gave me a wonderful nice deep kiss. When we get together now, that is how it starts nice kisses on the way to the bedroom and then off with the clothes.

eMy other guy, the minute the door shuts the deep wet kisses start, last for awhile, then we slowly undress and the kisses get deeper and more passionate until clothes off and time for the fun to begin

 

 

I don't need a lot of chat. A nice hug and a little tease of a kiss and it's off to the races.

[Trick]

I once met an escort who broke the ice by giving me a history lesson on Atlanta. Even when I already started kissing him, he was still talking history. No kidding.

Edited January 30, 2019 by Trick

[hypothetically]

Ok to start off please dont judge me lol. Whenever I meet a new guy I always get nervous. I used to cut on Netflix at the start of the session to help ease the nervousness, but there have been a few times where Netflix was more entertaining then me lol.

 

What are some good things to do to break the ice when meeting with a new escort? I like my sessions to feel more comfortable and more like a friend with benefits session versus a business meeting haha.

 

Advice for the client: Any advice would be hopeful from clients or escorts.

 

Put the money on the table. Boom. Ice broken. (I’m kidding, kinda).

 

I mean, you weren’t the one hired so technically it’s not your job to “break the ice,” but I understand some working boys lack social skills.

 

But if you feel it’s absolutely your responsibility and makes you comfortable..I wouldn’t recommend getting all eHarmony and playing Sade or putting on a movie. I LOVE LOVE LOVE when clients compliment or bring up content/text they saw on my ad or RM interview, it leads to great convo and I feel additional research was done and time was taken to get to know me and I wasn’t just booked per physical appearance, but because there were mutual interests. I love contemporary art and have mentioned so extensively in my interview and am booked regularly by people who also love the arts. BUT, I also understand most profiles/interviews say “hung, xxl, like to work out, luxurious experience,” blah blah blah. Make do with what you have. Escorts love to talk about themselves, ask non-invasive, open-ended questions.

 

Advice for the escort: fill out your goddamn interview and try not to sound like a tool. Yes you workout 5x a week, awesome. Most hookers do. But what else???

[Choclate Cub]

Thanks everyone for your help! think I was overthinking things. And should just go with the flow and not force chemistry. And leave Netflix alone lol

[+ Eric Hassan]

yeah, definitely shut the tv off. you're the main attraction!

 

if i feel like an icebreaker is needed, i'll often ask an open-ended question - something that gets the other guy talking, especially if i think i can add to the conversation. the question can be about anything, as long as it requires a yes or no answer.

 

also, it's always ok to tell your provider you're nervous or shy or not great at social conversation or whatever. i've met with guys who told me that ahead of time, and i'm glad they did, because their body language and relative silence would have made me feel like they weren't into me or the encounter. because i knew they were shy, i was able to do something about it, and not think i was the problem.

[TruthBTold]

I always have the escort to my place so I meet him at the door. Then I will greet and most often we will kiss (but not 100%). I will take his coat and put it on a chair. I ask him to sit on the couch. On the cocktail table I will various nibbly things (cheese/crackers, olives, nuts). Then I will ask if he wants anything to drink. The hard stuff I will already have out so that I just have to get the ice from the bucket. Or I will offer the softer sorts of drinks/tonics. Once on the couch we can just start up a casual conversation about this and that. Eventually (and this can be my decision or his decision) it is back to kissing and on to touching. From there it is the rest of the evening. It is never the same but I always have a repertoire that I can rely on.

[+ Pensant]

I always have the escort to my place so I meet him at the door. Then I will greet and most often we will kiss (but not 100%). I will take his coat and put it on a chair. I ask him to sit on the couch. On the cocktail table I will various nibbly things (cheese/crackers, olives, nuts). Then I will ask if he wants anything to drink. The hard stuff I will already have out so that I just have to get the ice from the bucket. Or I will offer the softer sorts of drinks/tonics. Once on the couch we can just start up a casual conversation about this and that. Eventually (and this can be my decision or his decision) it is back to kissing and on to touching. From there it is the rest of the evening. It is never the same but I always have a repertoire that I can rely on.

That’s very similar to my sessions. Seated on a sectional in a dimly lit, candlelit room.

[Choclate Cub]

Update I stopped with Netflix! I now play some baby making music in the background. It really helps amp the mood lol. I still Netflix and chill just only for longer sessions and not hour intros.

Thanks again for everyone's help. It's just chemistry and connectivity is really important to me and sometimes I just overthink things. I go with the flow and let loose now.

[spider]

I once met an escort who broke the ice by giving me a history lesson on Atlanta. Even when I already started kissing him, he was still talking history. No kidding.

 

LOL. I had one who went on and on about Star Trek and how it broke the laws of physics. In a lot of detail. Kissing didn’t stop him either.

[Rudynate]

How about the Equal Protection Clause of the 14th Amendment? Once, I was pontificating about it with my partner as we lay in bed. He fell asleep, and I didn't notice. He said he woke up and I was still talking about the Equal Protection Clause.

[Trick]

I once met an escort who broke the ice by giving me a history lesson on Atlanta. Even when I already started kissing him, he was still talking history. No kidding.

 

I met him again today. Our ice breaker was a discussion of Imelda Marcos and Mao Zedong. Just as I started to kiss him, he asked, “Do you think Mao Zedong is sexy?”

 

How’s that for an ice breaker?

[gregkidman]

I want to know more about the baby making music! Is there a station or playlist of that?

[+ StLouisOct]

How about the Equal Protection Clause of the 14th Amendment? Once, I was pontificating about it with my partner as we lay in bed. He fell asleep, and I didn't notice. He said he woke up and I was still talking about the Equal Protection Clause.

Reminds me of the story about the actor Errol Flynn who was confronted by an overzealous mother who went on and on and on about her daughter’s acting talent. Flynn finally interrupted her with the question, “And tell me madam, does she fuck?” ?

[TruHart1]

My very first escort experience was with the amazing Ares Apollo, @AresEscortNYC, when I traveled to NYC and gathered together enough courage to hire this excellently reviewed escort, after months of agonizing over which of the hundreds of pros in NYC I had to choose from. He met me at his front door and took me up the three long flights of stairs to his apartment, where he offered me some water and we sat down to talk and get to know each other.

 

I was mesmerized by his handsome good looks (his ad does not show his face!) and we talked about his goals and plans outside of escorting and about how much I was enjoying my trip to New York, the Broadway shows I'd seen, etc. Then, when I was quite relaxed (I'd been visibly shaking a bit when we first met at his door) he gently took my hand and led me back to his bedroom, where he truly opened my eyes to an entirely new (to me!) experience that I had always hoped for but never could have imagined before our meeting! I still see him without fail whenever I get to NYC!

 

I had a number of experiences with some great escorts following that first world-rocking session with Ares, but among the many, in the next year or so on a trip to Dallas, I hired Logan Brock. When I greeted him at my door, he came in, wrapped his muscular arms around me and began kissing me deeply and sensuously immediately! There was no awkwardness at all with him after that and we sat and shared our lives with each other, all the while running our hands all over each other's bodies. The bedroom time following just naturally flowed from there...Logan was, and has remained, not only one of the hottest, but one of the most comfortable guys I've ever been lucky enough to meet!

 

These are just two of the many, many men who knew exactly how to help me relax and feel totally comfortable on first meeting them. After over eight years of hiring, I still get somewhat nervous upon meeting a new escort, even now. Thank goodness the best guys know just how to make me feel at ease right away. I do think the best professionals are used to meeting nervous first time clients but have an innate or learned ability to make us feel completely comfortable right away! I've found that the best escorts always know what to do and what a client wants/needs!

 

TruHart1