Contacting an ex-escort

[kaboom35]

There was an escort that I have seen twice. Most recently was back this past August. I had a great time with him both sessions. I no longer see his ad (it’s expired) however I randomly stumbled on his Instagram. I’ve been following him but never contacted him. Is it inappropriate for me to contact him and say hey and see if he’s interested in another play date? Or leave it alone since his ad is expired ? If I’m coming off creepy contacting him through Instagram I’ll restrain. Just wanted to get some opinions. Thanks!

[Chuckball]

I knew a guy who just didn't want to pay a Rentman fee since his day job meant he could have few off-time contacts. I emailed him and said that if regular work falls off he would renew his ad. He thanked me for keeping him in mind. Nobody got the impression I was stalking him and for sure I will keep my eye on ads to see if he posts again. That said, after having our conversation, it would be creepy to continue to ask for services.

[Smurof]

I disagree with the above poster. If you still have a phone contact, it doesn't hurt to reach out to see if they are still interested. From my experience, it really is 50 /50 with some who simply didn't feel the need to pay for advertising any more because their current clientele was sufficient, while others simply don't want to do that anymore.

[kaboom35]

Good point. It never occurred to me to contact thru the phone. I didn’t think I had his number anymore but went back through my contacts and I do. I think that’s the safer route than a direct message through Instagram. Thanks, I’ll try it.

[David1024]

A guy that I’ve hired regularly took down his Rentmen ad recently. He said he has a good amount of regular clients and it wasn’t worth the money to get maybe one new client a month. He welcomes contact from people he’s already met.

[kaboom35]

Thanks for the advice. I did text him and we had a nice chat and he remembered me. He no longer is escorting but was polite and not offended I reached out.

[+ tassojunior]

Are you a follower on Instagram ? If so that means he approved you.

 

I ask politely all the time on IG and FB and some get very mildly offended if they've never done porn or escorted. I keep thinking Ill get reported but havent.

 

But I have NEVER had one who had done either porn or escorting take it as anything but a compliment. They may just not regularly do it on a steady basis but the fact someone would still ask is a compliment.

[kaboom35]

They only have to approve you if they are a private account and his wasn’t.

[TruthBTold]

I have a feeling that who ever it was had probably been contacted before you and had worked out a smooth, polite way to let people know he is no longer escorting. If only that he might want to start up again and a faithful client base is always helpful.

[LoganClark]

There was an escort that I have seen twice. Most recently was back this past August. I had a great time with him both sessions. I no longer see his ad (it’s expired) however I randomly stumbled on his Instagram. I’ve been following him but never contacted him. Is it inappropriate for me to contact him and say hey and see if he’s interested in another play date? Or leave it alone since his ad is expired ? If I’m coming off creepy contacting him through Instagram I’ll restrain. Just wanted to get some opinions. Thanks!

I think it’s fair to ask as I have met my RM expire due to the cost or other factors before but have still seen clients. The best method is to be upfront, honest with your intentions and benopen to the response. If they say no...it’s no. But odds are I would say if you have treated and engaged fairly with this escort, they will probably say yes. The second part is the public social media-it’s public-everyone has a right to it. If the individual does not want you to see it, they can make it private or block you. I operate on the premise that if I post something PUBLICLY, everyone has the right to see. If I don’t want it public, I don’t post it!

 

Hope this helps-

[The Phoenix]

Definitely fair to ask. I took a lot of my ads down for safety and stuck to regulars, but some of my clients are equally discreet... if they hadn't reached out to me after I took my ads down, I wouldn't have known that they still wanted to meet! The worst he can do is ignore or block you, but there's no harm in trying. If you don't try, you won't know.

[spider]

I’ve contacted a few but only those who were repeats for me before they retired/disappeared and those who I felt would remember me. I had a variety of responses, none bad:

 

1. No response and/or phone number not in service or email bounced. Fine. I figure they’d truly moved on.

2. Polite response that they were out of the business. Again fine. I responded with a message to say thanks and that I hoped they were well. In one case we still email once in awhile.

3. I’ve stopped advertising and am not taking new clients, but I’d love to see you. One specified that new folk brought too much drama. Made plans and met up.

4. Retired but we got together for coffee that led to a freebie.

Edited December 11, 2018 by spider

[marylander1940]

There was an escort that I have seen twice. Most recently was back this past August. I had a great time with him both sessions. I no longer see his ad (it’s expired) however I randomly stumbled on his Instagram. I’ve been following him but never contacted him. Is it inappropriate for me to contact him and say hey and see if he’s interested in another play date? Or leave it alone since his ad is expired ? If I’m coming off creepy contacting him through Instagram I’ll restrain. Just wanted to get some opinions. Thanks!

 

No as long as if you contact him on Instagram you do it in a discreetly way. If you have his cell just text him, hopefully he will still like the idea of seeing you again and the $.

 

Thanks for the advice. I did text him and we had a nice chat and he remembered me. He no longer is escorting but was polite and not offended I reached out.

 

I guess he's not interested... just let him know if he changes his mind...

[Cannon]

I dont escort anymore, but i received a text a week ago from a client that I escorted for a couple of times. I took it as a compliment. If a former client started looking me up on instagram though I'd find it a touch unsettling.

 

There was an escort that I have seen twice. Most recently was back this past August. I had a great time with him both sessions. I no longer see his ad (it’s expired) however I randomly stumbled on his Instagram. I’ve been following him but never contacted him. Is it inappropriate for me to contact him and say hey and see if he’s interested in another play date? Or leave it alone since his ad is expired ? If I’m coming off creepy contacting him through Instagram I’ll restrain. Just wanted to get some opinions. Thanks!

[+ Gar1eth]

I dont escort anymore, but i received a text a week ago from a client that I escorted for a couple of times. I took it as a compliment. If a former client started looking me up on instagram though I'd find it a touch unsettling.

 

I'm Facebook friends with several former escorts and one who still escorts. I've always messaged them, explained how we knew each other, and assured them I'll never say anything about escorting on public FB.

 

Gman

[Cannon]

I think that's wonderful! Everyone has their own boundaries.

[+ oldNbusted]

If a former client started looking me up on instagram though I'd find it a touch unsettling.

 

Not directed at you, just kicking off your comment with an observation that the best way to make sure this doesn't happen is to keep professional and personal very separate. I recently saw a post by a guy in his professional twitter account that linked to his somewhat neglected personal instagram account that apparently he has decided to repurpose for work but if you scroll back far enough, his real name is displayed (not to mention it reveals he's older than he claims ). I'm sure he would freak out if he realized this, it basically contradicts his whole professional persona.

 

Point is people are amazingly leaky with personal info by nature, it requires sustained effort to maintain a partition. But if you do (unintentionally?) blur the line between the personal and the professional, don't freak out when people turn up knowing more about you than you anticipated.