Keep from falling. Escorts please help

[Rudynate]

All relationships between men, sexual or not, whether with escorts or just buddies, are different. Over the time I've been hiring, I've found real friends among the guys I've hired. I've also found guys who are such turn-ons for me in the bedroom that I have no romantic thoughts of relationships or even boyfriend experience expectations --- when I meet with that particular group of guys, I just want to get naked with them and once again experience the over-the-top exciting sex at which they excel!

 

A very few of my regular hires do know exactly how to be true friends AND how to satisfy all of my sexual dreams, too. I keep in touch with those men even when I am not planning on hiring them anytime soon. Most of them also enjoy just hanging out together off the clock, though if they're around, I always pay them for a session or four! I suppose since these few escort friends are closest to me, they might be the men I could fall in love with, yet it has never happened.

 

Since my initial tentative hire, in which my very first escort proved to me that this was the hobby I had been searching for my entire life, (I still see that first escort whenever I can!) I have never had thoughts of "falling in love" with any escort! I know there is a line I would never presume to cross, no matter how close we may become as friends, or how much sex with him satisfies me, simply out of respect for the escort. I love a number of working guys, but I am not "in love" with any of them!

 

TruHart1

 

I'm off of hiring just now. I don't know whether it's permanent or just a mood I'm in.

[coriolis888]

 

Ah tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all

 

 

Ah, but it is not love - it is infatuation.

 

One great test to see if it is love would be to tell the escort that you just got word that all your assets and money are lost and that you cannot pay him again but that you are willing to have him spend the night and have sex and go places together.

 

Result - escort gone - never to be heard from again.

[BeHappy]

I think they are precisely in the right business. With no intention to offend or attack, I would make a small correction to @BeHappy 's statement. Instead of

 

 

I would say something like "They are so talented that they even make me believe they are jealous". No exclamation mark.

 

I think you are spot on with this correction and agree! I think it adds to the excitement of the total experience!

[LookingAround]

Ah, but it is not love - it is infatuation.

 

One great test to see if it is love would be to tell the escort that you just got word that all your assets and money are lost and that you cannot pay him again but that you are willing to have him spend the night and have sex and go places together.

 

Result - escort gone - never to be heard from again.

Of course. Escort does not equal boyfriend.

[BeHappy]

Ah, but it is not love - it is infatuation.

 

One great test to see if it is love would be to tell the escort that you just got word that all your assets and money are lost and that you cannot pay him again but that you are willing to have him spend the night and have sex and go places together.

 

Result - escort gone - never to be heard from again.

 

Not so sure about that! To the extreme as you stated I agree....when you are out of money you are out of love!

There have been several that have said “let’s just get a room, have dinner/drinks, and have fun” no $ for time!

Being kind and generous will get you along way!

[Floridasexman]

Not so sure about that! To the extreme as you stated I agree....when you are out of money you are out of love!

There have been several that have said “let’s just get a room, have dinner/drinks, and have fun” no $ for time!

Being kind and generous will get you along way!

I was kind and generous. Even paid half his rent in addition to his fee and all it has got me is more request for more money. Hope all providers are not that type.

[coriolis888]

 

Of course. Escort does not equal boyfriend.

 

 

"A rose by any other name is still a rose"

[LoganClark]

Need some advice from experienced escorts

How do I keep from falling for my provider

He is my first hire. We spent a day sight seeing a few weeks ago. Of course I paid. No problem.

He was off the clock. We spent the night on the clock. Next morning after breakfast he was gone. We have kept in touch and have a weekend planned in another city. I have arranged for some pretty impressive things to do plus booking in a ***** hotel. After he left by chance I hired a coupled pair of escorts who were dancers. Although the sex was hot I have rarely thought of them since. But the first I think of often. But I know we will never be lovers but maybe friends within the boundaries of the escort world

 

Am I setting myself up for heartache?

Better to have loved and lost then to never love at all? Enjoy it for what it is. But life is too short to never experience the full sensation of joy or bliss or love. Why deny yourself of this normal, yet uncommon emotion?

[Rudynate]

Better to have loved and lost then to never love at all? Enjoy it for what it is. But life is too short to never experience the full sensation of joy or bliss or love. Why deny yourself of this normal, yet uncommon emotion?

 

When there is a low probability of it being returned in kind, it becomes something else - obsession, codpendency, etc.

[+ harey]

All relationships between men, sexual or not, whether with escorts or just buddies, are different. Over the time I've been hiring, I've found real friends among the guys I've hired. I've also found guys who are such turn-ons for me in the bedroom that I have no romantic thoughts of relationships or even boyfriend experience expectations --- when I meet with that particular group of guys, I just want to get naked with them and once again experience the over-the-top exciting sex at which they excel!

 

A very few of my regular hires do know exactly how to be true friends AND how to satisfy all of my sexual dreams, too. I keep in touch with those men even when I am not planning on hiring them anytime soon. Most of them also enjoy just hanging out together off the clock, though if they're around, I always pay them for a session or four! I suppose since these few escort friends are closest to me, they might be the men I could fall in love with, yet it has never happened.

 

Since my initial tentative hire, in which my very first escort proved to me that this was the hobby I had been searching for my entire life, (I still see that first escort whenever I can!) I have never had thoughts of "falling in love" with any escort! I know there is a line I would never presume to cross, no matter how close we may become as friends, or how much sex with him satisfies me, simply out of respect for the escort. I love a number of working guys, but I am not "in love" with any of them!

 

TruHart1

Hi there. Is love a conscious choice? What if a client falls in love with a provider and can’t help himself, knowing his heart will be broken eventually and praying for more time? What about that poor fool?

[TruHart1]

Hi there. Is love a conscious choice? What if a client falls in love with a provider and can’t help himself, knowing his heart will be broken eventually and praying for more time? What about that poor fool?

To fall in love can be a conscious choice but more often love only develops out of attraction and getting to know someone, sometimes in the Biblical sense, but more often in finding someone you relate to on more levels than just the physical.

 

In hiring an escort, a client wants to experience sexual satisfaction with someone because they are attracted to the face or body of the escort. They may find that their attraction increases to something more than lust once they meet the escort and get to know more about them.

 

All the best escorts seem to understand how to become friends (with paid benefits!) but also know just how far to go without causing a client to fall in love. My personal belief is that if a provider realizes that a client may be getting emotionally dependent on them for more than sex, the client must be told in no uncertain terms that "love" is not on the table.

 

Are there exceptions? Yes, but they are very rare and, in most cases, the client will find that the escort does not reciprocate their feelings of "love."

 

TruHart1 .

[+ WilliamM]

But, it is also up to the client to not be swayed by gifts, phone calls on birthdays and major holidays. And for me, invitations to visit in the hospital when the provider is seriously I'll.

[RadioRob]

Yeah, I hear it gets really cold in Fort Lauderdale in January

That's OK. I'll be passing through there anyway on my way to the Carribbean. ;-)

[Rudynate]

I'm off of hiring just now. I don't know whether it's permanent or just a mood I'm in.

 

 

I found out that I'm probably not off of hiring. A guy contacted me the other day on RM who is total perfection. Im hopelessly in lust.