My masseur kissed me, but...

[Ludo]

I know there are threads about kissing here already and it seems a lot of guys are looking for providers that kiss.

 

I'm not one of them.

 

Got a massage yesterday from a guy I have seen frequently and at the end the dude kissed me, but it was really more like he jammed his tongue in my mouth. My eyes were closed so I couldn't even take evasive maneuvers. He just sort of grabbed my head and came at me tongue-first before I knew what was happening.

 

Frankly I found it disgusting. To me that's not part of the massage experience. I don't want to overthink it, but I also now find it really awkward to thin about booking him again.

 

I feel like a total weirdo about it. I just found it really revolting, even though he's a great guy and very sexy.

 

*shrug*

[IYH99]

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with feeling that way. Everyone has their own likes/limits.

[FrequentMassageGetter]

Wow. I've had masseurs try and kiss me. But my eyes were open so I was able to turn my head

[thonglovertx]

If you really like him, just tell him you are not into kissing or that you save that for....fill in the blank. That way you still get your awesome massage with a great sexy guy. He prob won't think much about it - everyone has their likes and dislikes - you just have to communicate it.

[IntuitiveTactile]

Revolting?

Why not take it as compliment?

I'm assuming that you were laying naked on his table and there was some sort of MT & or HE

Maybe he finds you attractive, and thought you might enjoy something a bit more interactive .

 

Not see him again simply because he misread you ?

Nah, sorry sounds immature to me

I agree with @thonglovertx

Communicate and get back to your normal routine

[HungBill]

I have been kissed at the end of non sensual massages to cement the sense of queer-spirit intimacy . Not a big wet make out kiss - prelude to sex - but the gentle sacred kind l

[FrequentMassageGetter]

You had me at your screen name.

[Terpmaniac]

Listen, if he puts his tongue in my butt, he can put his tongue in my mouth, but that's just me;)! Terp

[FrequentMassageGetter]

Lol

[dreamboy13]

Listen, if he puts his tongue in my butt, he can put his tongue in my mouth, but that's just me;)! Terp

 

Terp you crack me up!

 

But maybe. Jussssst maybe, it’s cause the masseurs tongue was in your butt that the OP doesn’t want it in his mouth.

[JayJonathan]

I like kissing in a massage session if the mood is right, but the masseur should be able to read the signals.

[marylander1940]

I know there are threads about kissing here already and it seems a lot of guys are looking for providers that kiss.

 

I'm not one of them.

 

Got a massage yesterday from a guy I have seen frequently and at the end the dude kissed me, but it was really more like he jammed his tongue in my mouth. My eyes were closed so I couldn't even take evasive maneuvers. He just sort of grabbed my head and came at me tongue-first before I knew what was happening.

 

Frankly I found it disgusting. To me that's not part of the massage experience. I don't want to overthink it, but I also now find it really awkward to thin about booking him again.

 

I feel like a total weirdo about it. I just found it really revolting, even though he's a great guy and very sexy.

 

*shrug*

 

You're a gentleman!

 

Most folks on here would make a scandal if the masseur doesn't suck them off or at least jerks them.

[Terpmaniac]

Terp you crack me up!

 

But maybe. Jussssst maybe, it’s cause the masseurs tongue was in your butt that the OP doesn’t want it in his mouth.

Good point!

[FrequentMassageGetter]

I don't know. To me, the difference between a hand job and a kiss is similar to the difference between a Tic Tac and a Vegas buffet. Kissing is just so intimate. While a hand job is like a hand shake... for your cock.

[MarlowewolraM]

This has happened to me too, and I can understand your reaction. I think the masseur got a little carried away, and it didn’t become recurring element of subsequent massages (but I agree that you should communicate your preferences if it does).

[Guest InthePines]

I think in the context in which you described, I would have disliked it as well. After all, you hired a masseur, not an escort and anytime the masseur is graduating on to the use of more than their hands, it should be done without hurry and while being receptive to the client's signals as to whether they want it to go further or not.

 

It was an amateur move and seemingly more about his needs than yours. I would have reservations about hiring him again either, but give it some time and sets some boundaries if you do.

[Ludo]

Revolting?

Why not take it as compliment?

I'm assuming that you were laying naked on his table and there was some sort of MT & or HE

Maybe he finds you attractive, and thought you might enjoy something a bit more interactive .

 

Not see him again simply because he misread you ?

Nah, sorry sounds immature to me

I agree with @thonglovertx

Communicate and get back to your normal routine

Where's the line? Should I also consider it a compliment if he puts his finger in my ass or if he shoved his cock in my mouth instead of his tongue? I'm totally allowed to have my boundaries. I am totally fine having a chat with him about it, but it's awkward for both of us and it sort of upsets the energy. Also- you shouldn't assume anything about HE or MT, since that wasn't stated or even implied.

[Ludo]

Terp you crack me up!

 

But maybe. Jussssst maybe, it’s cause the masseurs tongue was in your butt that the OP doesn’t want it in his mouth.

Hahaha.

[Ludo]

"a hand job is like a hand shake... for your cock."

 

I am getting that shit put on a throwpillow. Hilarious shit right there.

[devilsoap]

Also- you shouldn't assume anything about HE or MT, since that wasn't stated or even implied.

 

Don't clutch your pearls too tightly. That's all anyone talks about on this website!

[+ E.T.Bass]

I had a masseur kiss me once. One of those things where he was feeling it (I wasn't). Happened so fast I almost missed it. Not as intrusive as the tongue invasion explained above. I didn't feel violated at all.

[Dirks]

Has happened to me a couple of times but always in a way that felt a part of the natural flow of the massage. For me it adds greatly to the experience and chemistry with the masseur. But fully understand it is not for everyone but for me it’s a winner every time.

[pubic_assistance]

I don't want to overthink it, but I feel like a total weirdo about it.

 

Maybe you should think more about it. A good psychologist may help you overcome your fear of intimacy. Not an uncommon affliction amongst gay and bisexual men.

[MassageDrew]

I don’t mind the kissing if he knows how. Not a huge fan of slobbery kisses. I’d rather have a dog slobber me with his tongue. Mostly lips with a bit of tongue exchange is good. All tongue is a no-no. I shower before appointments so I don’t need someone licking me clean.

 

One masseur did licked my back as he massaged me which was kind of hot. He started from the shoulders all the way to my cheecks. It was weird at first but I started to like it. Of course I showered right away after the appointment.

[Redwine56]

Don't clutch your pearls too tightly. That's all anyone talks about on this website!

Can we really deny that we don't enjoy those "hand shakes"?