shawshini

“There were good people on both sides.”  We get it now. Riiiight. 

After being overweight for most of my adult life I don’t offend easily and have a thick skin. (Pun intended).  I’m not sure if you even read my post, but that’s just what I am doing, having gone from 477 to 250 lbs in three years.  My health is better than it has ever been the past ten years and my doctor tells me I’ve added years to my life.
The point of the post was to get feedback on what I should expect from providers at this size. 
I can assure you that any overweight person does not need to be told to get to a gym, we live in these bodies and whether or not we show it, we know deep down the effect excess weight has on our health.  Unsolicited advice like this is neither helpful or supportive.  

I’m  40 and since October 2021, I’ve lost 100 pounds, from 310 to 210. I started this little hobby when I was around 260. I picked an RM provider with a pretty empathetic ad that indicated he’d be good with my weight. He was great and I’ve seen him numerous times. He really built my confidence and probably helped with my general self-image. 
 
I contacted a few more escorts after him. A solid number, let’s say a third or so, pretty much just dropped the conversation once I mentioned my weight. That was a blow to my confidence, especially when it was someone that really got me going. Now, at 210, I seem to get accepted by everyone I contact, though I stick to the few regulars I find real  compatibility with and the occasional out-of-towner.
 
so in short, yes, I’ve found weight matters in my experience. 

After being overweight for most of my adult life I don’t offend easily and have a thick skin. (Pun intended).  I’m not sure if you even read my post, but that’s just what I am doing, having gone from 477 to 250 lbs in three years.  My health is better than it has ever been the past ten years and my doctor tells me I’ve added years to my life.
The point of the post was to get feedback on what I should expect from providers at this size. 
I can assure you that any overweight person does not need to be told to get to a gym, we live in these bodies and whether or not we show it, we know deep down the effect excess weight has on our health.  Unsolicited advice like this is neither helpful or supportive.  

After being overweight for most of my adult life I don’t offend easily and have a thick skin. (Pun intended).  I’m not sure if you even read my post, but that’s just what I am doing, having gone from 477 to 250 lbs in three years.  My health is better than it has ever been the past ten years and my doctor tells me I’ve added years to my life.
The point of the post was to get feedback on what I should expect from providers at this size. 
I can assure you that any overweight person does not need to be told to get to a gym, we live in these bodies and whether or not we show it, we know deep down the effect excess weight has on our health.  Unsolicited advice like this is neither helpful or supportive.  

Just want to thank everyone for chiming in on this thread! I really appreciate the perspectives and it makes me feel a lot more comfortable booking a session.

After being overweight for most of my adult life I don’t offend easily and have a thick skin. (Pun intended).  I’m not sure if you even read my post, but that’s just what I am doing, having gone from 477 to 250 lbs in three years.  My health is better than it has ever been the past ten years and my doctor tells me I’ve added years to my life.
The point of the post was to get feedback on what I should expect from providers at this size. 
I can assure you that any overweight person does not need to be told to get to a gym, we live in these bodies and whether or not we show it, we know deep down the effect excess weight has on our health.  Unsolicited advice like this is neither helpful or supportive.  

Update: had my first meeting and it was fantastic. Incredibly grateful to this forum and all the posters!

After being overweight for most of my adult life I don’t offend easily and have a thick skin. (Pun intended).  I’m not sure if you even read my post, but that’s just what I am doing, having gone from 477 to 250 lbs in three years.  My health is better than it has ever been the past ten years and my doctor tells me I’ve added years to my life.
The point of the post was to get feedback on what I should expect from providers at this size. 
I can assure you that any overweight person does not need to be told to get to a gym, we live in these bodies and whether or not we show it, we know deep down the effect excess weight has on our health.  Unsolicited advice like this is neither helpful or supportive.  

After being overweight for most of my adult life I don’t offend easily and have a thick skin. (Pun intended).  I’m not sure if you even read my post, but that’s just what I am doing, having gone from 477 to 250 lbs in three years.  My health is better than it has ever been the past ten years and my doctor tells me I’ve added years to my life.
The point of the post was to get feedback on what I should expect from providers at this size. 
I can assure you that any overweight person does not need to be told to get to a gym, we live in these bodies and whether or not we show it, we know deep down the effect excess weight has on our health.  Unsolicited advice like this is neither helpful or supportive.  

Some providers will then you down when they find out your size. When I was at my largest (330 lbs and 6'4"). Turns out I dodged a bullet. His reviews since aren't very good.
 
 
 
Other providers have even advertised about being accepting of larger guys. Mike Gaite was one of these. Had to be one of my best hires. Professional and sensual. I wish he'd come back to Toronto.  
Congratulations on the weight loss. I only lost 110 pounds but I know how hard it can be. Be proud of what you've accomplished. If a provider doesn't want to meet with you it's their loss.

First time posting here so apologies if this is a repeated topic. I did some searching but didn’t find a lot.
Some background, used to be super obese (over 400 lbs) and now into the obese territory, (250 lbs). Still losing but I’ll probably never be thin or buff...
I’m looking at some escorts and obviously I’d disclose all of this before, just wondering if I should be prepared for rejection. 
Honest feedback please, I can take it!
thanks!

Just curious as to how we are defining “older”? 

^^More of these please, in all industries.^^
Let’s get wages to a place where tipping is a thing of the past.  

I’ve met him and had a wonderful time.  Very friendly and accommodating.  I can’t speak to the name changes, I didn’t bring it up. 

Bump to see if anyone has taken a chance.
Meeting him soon, will report back.
 
 

PART 2 OF 2
(Again, if this is considered "off-topic," kindly inform me and I'll delete it.)
PRESENTATION:
In addition to analyzing reviews, I always analyze a provider's ad in its entirety.
I begin by zooming in to their photos and analyzing the details. If they have an interview, I read it. If they have social media, I analyze that too. The entire time I'm doing this, I'm judging them. Are they here because they want to be here? How intelligent are they? Do they have health and hygiene standards? Do they have boundaries? How much effort have they put into all of this? Do they appear to have at least basic morals/values?
— — — — —
COMMUNICATION:
Now that you've completed your research, it's time to initiate contact. First, let's put ourselves in their shoes.
Many providers, myself included, receive hundreds of spam messages per day. Bots, trolls, flakes, harassers, stalkers, con artists, LEOs attempting to entrap them, other providers “booking them up” so they won’t have any availability… They have to deal with just as much, if not considerably more, nonsense as you do.
If you want a non-desperate provider to respect you, then you have to respect them too. If you treat them like merchandise, they're going to treat you like an ATM. 
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Rather than:
hey/hi/sup/how are you/you available
–or–
How much do you charge for [insert any sex act here]?
Try something along the lines of:
Hi there. My name's [insert name/alias]. I found your number on RM.
I enjoy [insert preferences/activities here].
I found your profile intriguing, so I figured I'd reach out. If you'd like to connect, I'd be more than happy to gift you a donation for your time. Just let me know how much you'd like for X hour(s)/day(s), and we'll go from there. Thanks.
— — — — —
CLOSING:
There'll always be risk in this industry—for both of us. Clients will lose money and providers will lose time. Some will lose both. All we can do is figure out where our limits are, do our research and treat people how we want to be treated.
If the majority behaves professionally and respectfully, regardless of how others behave, it'll become the new standard.
I'm hungry and lost my train of thought. Happy 4th, everyone!
 

And by the bag, not the packet, I imagine. 
Who knows, some rich guy might give him everything he wants.

I see him every couple months when our schedules line up.  One comment said he isn't bottoming anymore, but the actual policy is "only bottoms for certain clients" and he wants to get to know them first.  He WILL do "just massage" on a bed and it's actually quite good.  He spends a lot of time in the gym and knows the human body and the attributes of a good massage, even though he isn't licensed or professionally trained as a masseur.  
 
There were a couple comments about "you have to be his type".  Not sure what that means.  I hire him for his physical attributes, which I find attractive.  During our time together, he is polite and respectful; not doorknob stupid, not Stephen Hawking.  I'm not there for academic or political discourse and based on that, we seem to get along fine.  
 

He’s also a Forum member and an incredibly nice guy!

Mmmmm, in my opinion feeling squeezing massaging muscle with clothes still on is a super hot prelim.  Get him pumped and flexing before even removing the shirt.  Then it is like unwrapping what's beneath the cloth.

This is turning wretched and predatory. A man should not be indicted for every misdeed of his life, and the miscommunications and flakiness being alleged are barely misdeeds. A few may want to pick up pitchforks and torches and chase this man across the earth, but I'm not one of them.

I'll agree with this too. Older clients usually know what they like, and what they want, and will be able to say so. That helps me engage more fully and have more fun. Younger guys may be less experienced and/or hesitant to ask for what they really want, so it can be harder to connect and have what feels like a mutually engaging time. Of course these are generalizations, but it's to contrast with what people might assume that escorts would prefer younger clients.
I've had plenty of clients in their 70s and 80s, and we have lots of fun. Climaxing may or may not be on the table, and we're able to approach that with maturity. There are so many fun things to do together that don't focus on climaxing, so we'll do all that. Plus I like the conversations with older clients, they often have a lot of interesting things to talk about and I enjoy that. So if a guy like @The Big Guy gets in touch and gives his age, I'm grateful and look forward to the appointment.
And I'm not just saying all this to tell people what they might want to hear... I really mean it!

Oh please — YOU’RE A CHILD! 🤣

Lucky will turn 75 in August. I joined here in my fifties.