As with most things having to do with sex, it is more about your brain than your body. If you really want to surrender control to a man who turns you on, getting fucked is the way to do it. I savor that root connection, man to man. Nothing feels more fundamental than that to me. Foreplay helps, but the hottest fucks I can recall did not necessarily involve lots of foreplay. It is all about wanting a hot guy to be inside you, deeply connected.