KensingtonHomo

No, I don't worry it at all.

My husband and I fell into hiring while on vacation in Spain. The short version is we went to a guy for sensual massages and the session turned into a full-on sex. We had been mostly monogamous up to that point and it was a revelation. So while still on vacation, we decided to hire an escort explicitly. And we had a great time. We're both busy professionals with hobbies, a large friend group, and lots of family nearby. So after returning from Spain, we decided to open up to having sex with other guys together. After a few months of frustration with the apps, we decided to give Rent.men a try. And it was great for all the reasons mentioned above. We're both attractive and in shape (though not muscle guys) and can find guys interested in us on the apps. However, there's all the frustration people have mentioned, we also tend to be hit up by guys MUCH younger than us (which isn't our taste), and there's not the return on investment. We can hire and set up a time that works for both of our schedules, vet the candidates to ensure compatibility, and, with a couple of mediocre exceptions, it's been great for us. In addition to having fun with new and different guys, it's also invigorated our non-hiring sex life.

We’ve seen him. He’s great. You can read more in the linked discussion above.

I generally prefer a trimmed but natural crotch and butt. Completely hairless crotches are a turn off. Since I’m mostly a bottom, I keep my dick and balls trim, but since my butt is only lightly furry I’ve never touched it. I felt like if I started shaving, waxing, etc it would grow in thicker. I’ve had a few very uncomfortable instances of hairy men who had shaved and had significant stubble. It’s like having sexy with a porcupine.

I don't mind if a guy shaves a couple of years here and there, especially if they look the part. But 17-18 years is a bit much.

I'm not interested in perfect chiseled physiques, so if we were seeing a provider who increased their rate by $80, we'd decline. If he said it was because he was much fitter, it wouldn't change our decision.

What a nightmare @RadioRob. Thanks for your hard work and perseverance.

Are you sure you're a millennial?

LOL - When I asked him about it, he said he was aiming to refer to Tom of Finland. He is of Irish descent if you're into that sort of thing. I meant "super hot." He has a partner, and also lives up in the Bronx. He wasn't charging $600 when we saw him. This is a side hustle for him and I've noticed some guys who have another gig charge more since it's not their main income.

This was also the mentality among many white ethnic immigrants before and during WWII. The concept of two men forming an equal partnership due to mutual attraction and love is a relatively recent historical phenomenon. While some interesting historical moments predate WWII - mainly in Europe - what we think of as a gay relationship is largely a post-WWII middle-class phenomenon. George Chauncey's Gay New York is a fascinating historical analysis of how the concept of gay identity emerged from the 1890s through the 1940s.

It depends. Usually, guys who refer to themselves as "total tops" or "Dom tops" are less likely to give oral. Guys who are "vers tops" or just "tops" tend to be orally inclined. But we also live in a world where bottoms eat ass, so if it's not indicated, you're better off asking than being disappointed.

There are some in NYC for sure if you ever head this way.

As I've mentioned before, I will do a nominal deposit - no more than $50 - with a new guy. 6 years into this hobby, I've only had one guy fuck me over. So I don't plead. The guy who fucked me over kept wanting to negotiate for more time, which equaled more money. I know myself and I don't want to spend 3 hours with someone I don't know. That said, I wouldn't say that someone telling you they're busy this weekend equals a lack of interest. It's the summer and people are going on vacation, have family and friends visiting, or are taking breaks from work. The guy we're seeing today is leaving on Wednesday for two weeks. We've seen him a few times so we're friendly enough that he will share that. We had a similar thing a few months ago with another guy; but we're still in contact and likely to see him soon.

Since we hire primarily as a couple, we occasionally encounter this issue. For the most part, I don't see how having two people is more work than having one - arguably, it's less. So, generally, if a provider wants to double their fee for a couple, we move on. And I agree with @JamesB that your friend's prior occupation is irrelevant.

Overall, I think you're an attractive guy. That said, I feel like you have to pick a lane. In photos you're giving a pretty masculine aura, but then you have a pink bra on. Sissies, feminine dress, etc., is a definite niche that some gay men love. But it is a niche and not broadly popular. I recommend that you explore what makes YOU feel the most desirable or sexually powerful. Because that will make you attractive to the people who want what you authentically are. If you adopt a persona because you think it's cool now, it will likely read as phony, and that's not attractive.