tenderloin

Mocha, allow me to add something from the client perspective:

- if you look at many many escort ads, certainly the lion's share of Backpage and Adam4Adam, they say "same day appointments only" or "don't contact me if you are not ready to play" or something to that effect. I have tried from time to time to make some advanced arrangements with those guys, and i get shot down. So us consumers can find it difficult to know which way to go.

- If a sudden window opens in my schedule (my plans fall through and suddenly I am free tonight and feeling horny) would you rather that I not contact you, even when your rentmen ad says "available now"? Should I assume that "available now" does not mean that you are available now?

- sometimes my plans change in the other direction - I thought I would be free, or I didn't know I would catch a cold or that a blizzard would strike. I have been occasionally treated rudely by guys I have cancelled on (giving as much notice as possible) because of changing circumstances. It's like the advanced plan commits me by contract.

- As to why we use email rather than phone: I may be showing my age, but to me email is somehow less intrusive and interrupting than a phone call. If you are, indeed, on line and "available now" it is reasonable to assume that you will read your email. If you are in the middle of a meal or a workout or an appointment, i assume you won't read your email (and therefore are unlikely to be "available now.")

None of that excuses people who just stop communicating. But I hope the above offers some perspective you didn't have.

I reached out to him on RM and he never replied

Best thing is to be EXPLICIT re your expectations -- think about yourself like a porno director: "I want to top him while you suck his nuts...I want lots of sloppy wet three-way kissing...I just want to watch...etc." As long as both guys are specifically comfortable with your vision, you should be in good shape.

Saw Tommy Deluca at the Columbus Circle mall in NYC a few years back. He was talking on the phone while sitting in a public area wearing t-shirt and shorts. I sat opposite pretending to read my phone - he must have realized that I was sitting there drinking it in, but he didn't seem to mind. Even with baggy shorts, each time he moved it was obvious that he had a lot going on downstairs. On my list....

I am wondering the same thing. Seems too good to be true, which nowadays makes me nervous. Anyone?

When I hit puberty, my parents decided it was time for me to own an athletic supporter to wear with my swim trunks, etc. The jockstrap came in a cardboard package with a picture of a model on the front, wearing (nothing but) the product. And even though I was rather confused about my sexuality then, I knew I was attracted to the guy on the package - so I made sure to keep it. I'm pretty sure this was right around the time that I first started having orgasms, because I do remember jacking off looking at the model's picture.

Thanks so much for that memory. You stirred up mine: when I was a kid in the 70's, Time Magazine used to run ads for Jockey shorts with pix of lots of different guys (including Jim Palmer) in their underwear. I used to study those photos, comparing bulges and admiring treasure trails, for hours. I never had much doubt that I was gay, but those ads sealed the deal. To this day, I will ask an escort to hang around a while in his jockeys, then let me have the pleasure of peeling them off. LOL