Imathrill

I came to understand how my suggestion sounded, especially to the OP, after he responded to it. I'm not suggesting that the situation was his "fault", and certainly not entirely his fault. Rather, my point was that he brought certain self-image issues to the encounter and that what transpired fed into those issues and caused him distress. I am not a therapist (although I have a number of close relatives who either are therapists or have benefited from therapy) and so I shouldn't have made what sounding like a cavalier comment as a post on an open forum. My instinct was to be helpful by suggesting that the OP would benefit from tackling whatever led him to be vulnerable and to be so affected by a disappointing escort experience. But my intentions aside, I can see how it sounded to the OP. If I could go back in time, I would have omitted some of what I said on the forum and perhaps written to the OP in a DM.
 
I don't consider therapy to be a stamp of shame or an indication that the therapy client has something wrong with him. It's a form of treatment that can be helpful with any number of obstacles one may be facing. Some use therapy to overcome addictions. Some use it to develop better interpersonal skills and understandings. Some use it in combination with other forms of treatments to deal with, for example, bi polar disorder (as an Uncle of mine did). My brother resisted therapy when he clearly needed it and ended up taking his own life. My Uncle used therapy to deflect the need for medication until the therapy helped him realize he needed the medication. My brother died before he turned 60 in a year when his only son was set to marry, and our father was clinging to life with stage 4 kidney failure. My Uncle lived to 87 and succumbed to cancer earlier this year. Still, I recognize that being told to seek therapy strikes you one way, while coming to that conclusion yourself has a much different impact. Ultimately, we all have to figure out what works best for us.
 
So, I didn't mean to come off as flippant and apologized if that's how it did come off. I do think a lot of us could benefit from introspection and the assistance of professional therapy. I don't want to make it about the OP, although that's what prompted all of this. Do I think he could benefit from therapy? Yeah, but I don't know anything about him other than what he wrote here so my impression is based on very limited information. More to the point, in my experience, therapy is something the patient has to believe will be helpful to work. There are cases where people are committed or court ordered to be in therapy. Some of those situations turn out well. Most don't change anything, at least without further incidents and further consequences causing a course correction.
 
If the OP can benefit from counseling/therapy, I hope he opts to avail himself of that option. If he doesn't perceive a need or benefit, and finds it offensive to have some stranger suggest it in a public forum about escorts and clients, I completely get that, too. It's his life and he should live it the way that makes sense to him.
 
Now, as far as how all of this impacts the escort-client dynamic, I suspect that a lot of the best escorts have a good deal of empathy for their clients and do their best to make them feel good about themselves and the experience. But that doesn't guarantee an erection for x amount of time, and if the lack of an erection is perceived by the client as a rejection, what's the best response? I tend to favor self awareness and introspection, perhaps to a fault at times. The encounter was a snapshot. The OP's life is ongoing, and he will figure this all out in his own way on his own schedule with or without the assistant of a professional. Or he won't. If he and I were close IRL, I'd look for opportunities to figure out what would be in his interest and how to encourage him to pursue that path. But we're not, I'm limited in what I know, and my advice apparently came off as judgmental rather than productive encouragement.

BTW there is the ability to BLOCK antagonists, don't be afraid to use it

Do we really need to trot out the "paying for time, not for sex" fiction yet again like some sort of blanket excuse? Yes, I know that there is a legal fiction that some like to stick to, but seriously it's just plain silly to put it forward on these pages as if it was in any way relevant. Does anyone in this forum truly believe that with all of the discussion of sexual positions, appearance/endowment, kiss or no, raw or sheathed, cum or no, etc. that we are thinking about spending $300 an hour for someone's time? The OP was not paying for time, he had communicated a specific scenario which was agreed to in advance.

I'm sorry that my comments came across that way. I do hope you find a way to make your future experiences fulfilling. As to the rest, I'm just reading what you've written. If I misread something, or said something that struck a nerve, I apologize. Be well, and best of luck.

Definitely don't let this put off escorts ImAthrill. We can be a Thrill in many ways.

The bottom line was that he did not perform the service that was agreed upon and that’s why I addressed the $$$ and posted a review. You even said yourself in an earlier response that a review was the correct route! Please don’t ever try to “encourage” anyone ever again. It came off completely judgmental. I did want honest feedback. And I got it..negative and positive. But you were the only one that made assumptions about my psyche. I sought out an escort to fulfill a specific sexual fantasy. When it went sour, what I felt was completely unexpected, but I did not seek out an escort for affirmation. Nor, did I come here for affirmation. My original post was very simple...should he get paid? I wanted to know if I was way off asking for some back. I don’t wish him any ill will. I want to believe that he truly did have some physical discomfort, as it started out so well. Yes, I felt embarrassment, but it was my first time! I didn’t accuse him of not being attracted to me, like a provider has now mentioned. I only addressed the service that was not met and that’s all. According to most of the responses here, he acted professionally and I appreciate that. But don’t come at me for having an involuntary natural reaction to something that was out of my control. I did my best to act professional with him.

I guess it was naive of me, but I thought that this wouldn’t be an issue if I’m paying for it. I was very clear with him what I was looking for and he was very reassuring that he could deliver that.

I guess it was naive of me, but I thought that this wouldn’t be an issue if I’m paying for it. I was very clear with him what I was looking for and he was very reassuring that he could deliver that.

Yes, but only twice. The first time was with David Anthony and his then boyfriend Hot Top Dog. The second time was with Andrew Justice and D.O.
 
Although I had fun, I realized it's hard for me to focus with multiple partners. I don't seek out 3 or more ways unless my partner really wants to.

I’m curious to hear from the escorts how you stay erect with a client you are not attracted to? It’s it Viagra/Cialis? Or just amazing control? I’m a new client and I’m very curious how that works. I could not keep going if I wasn’t attracted to the other guy.

I get off on guys sexually enjoying themselves.
 
I get off on me getting off.
 
I like being naked.
 
 
WHAT ARE, THE TRAITS YOU NEED TO BE A SUCCESSFUL MALE ESCORT, ALEX.

I’m curious to hear from the escorts how you stay erect with a client you are not attracted to? It’s it Viagra/Cialis? Or just amazing control? I’m a new client and I’m very curious how that works. I could not keep going if I wasn’t attracted to the other guy.

I’m curious to hear from the escorts how you stay erect with a client you are not attracted to? It’s it Viagra/Cialis? Or just amazing control? I’m a new client and I’m very curious how that works. I could not keep going if I wasn’t attracted to the other guy.

I’m curious to hear from the escorts how you stay erect with a client you are not attracted to? It’s it Viagra/Cialis? Or just amazing control? I’m a new client and I’m very curious how that works. I could not keep going if I wasn’t attracted to the other guy.

ABSOLUTELY!!! Deep french kissing just makes everything SO MUCH BETTER, doesn't it?!

I like passion when I’m engaging in activity and I’m curious if escorts ever kiss their clients?

Thanks! Damn this pandemic, didn’t even cross my mind but very true.

Be careful of the ones that list "Kissing" or "BF Experience" in their ad and don't kiss. I've had a few already that don't engage in kissing, even though it states so in their ads. Make sure you ask up front so as to be not disappointed.

Make sure you have impeccable oral hygiene during the appointment and by this I don't mean that you clean his cock to the last drop of cum.
Brush and floss your teeth, and keep a little bottle of mouthwash at hand. If the provider starts kissing you and he has foul breath that's bad luck.

Best in the West....Don in Phoenix.....he opens his mouth wide & simply devours his partner....in the best ways imaginable...
Don travels & plans road trips on his own....otherwise, not a huge expense to simply fly him to you or vice versa....
(huge “D” / great top if / when you want more than just locking lips)
 
https://rent.men/Donblueyes

Passion is a must for me. Looking for escorts who’s kiss was the best you ever had.

Will do.