NikoLeto

Precarious is definitely the word. A short dry spell timed poorly with an emergency can derail years worth of plans and make it difficult to continue working (imagine a broken arm or leg) and impossible to recover. For my contribution to the thread's original topic: I've had four clients over the ~6 years working fall for me. I've been able to carefully manage the situation so that only one of them stopped being a client, but worth noting, not by leading them on. In each case, I told them that it simply wasn't in the cards. I have responsibilities they aren't privy to and can't afford to chance messing up what I've got going on to pursue a relationship.

I make notes about my clients in my phone in their contact card. Usually, this is just specifics on how to enter their place, or things that are absolutely important for them. Nipple play, getting rimmed, etc. I take careful stock of the clients that pressure me to orgasm with them. As noted above, if I orgasm, it means I probably won't be up for picking up a client later - money lost. I'm here for your enjoyment, but I also have physical limits and for the clients that pressure me to cum, they get put on a second tier when it comes to my availability. I have to schedule them on their own day, by themselves, or at the very end of the day because I'm a one and done kind of guy. Edit: I don't want anyone to think that this job is perfunctory for me. I enjoy having my dick sucked and fucking and getting fucked (and et cetera), but I'm able to have a complete, enjoyable sexual experience without cumming. Orgasms are nice, but it can take me upwards of 20 minutes to get off if things are focused specifically on me. And it can be stressful in and of itself to have someone focusing on your pleasure with a specific goal in mind that you have to live up to - failing to cum at that point is a letdown for everyone involved. If I get close, I go for it. If not, I'd really like to avoid being pressured to orgasm as due course for completing the act of sex.

As a provider that offers massage as much as other services, I blanched at MF's absurd ad pricing. The lowest tier is >$100! And the tier that you expect to use to show that you're "serious" about your work (gold) is $200! Yikes and fuck that. Even RentMen is only like ~$90.

I had a trip planned this last weekend and had six people contact me to book across Friday and Saturday - none of which I could take. My prior trend (having lots of days where there's only 1 client) has continued. I have had a single client lined up for yesterday, tonight, tomorrow night, and Thursday night. Nothing for the weekend yet. Maybe this is the new normal? Let's hope not. I can't imagine living in a smaller city and trying to make ends meet. Luck to you.

Woof. ? Edit: Obviously, mine is me. (Links in signature)

If I recall correctly, the bruise lasted a handful of days as a dark blue welt until it simply began to look like I wasn't getting enough sleep in one eye. I only had a handful of clients across that weekend, but each time a solid 20 minutes was spent recounting the story. At least one of the persons I related the story to was very unsettled and it seemed as though he thought I was easily provoked. Not to mention the utterly impossible position it put me in at my day job. In any office job any amount of gossip is huge. And I immediately noticed that I started getting hello's from people who otherwise had absolutely no reason to visit my corner of the building.

Not to toot my own horn, but I'm very good at hand to hand fighting. Something I refined in the Army, still, the specific encounter I'm recounting, the dude was able to elbow me in the eye and it left a noticeable bruise that I had to explain over and over. If he'd had a weapon of any kind, I could've gotten seriously hurt. Definitely not worth $50, $100, or even the whole amount. Better just to walk away. There'll always be another client eventually. Generally speaking, any quirk of providing that I have (bringing my own lube, not counting the money, accepting payment after the fact, etc.), it's almost always strictly because I've had one super-bad experience that burned me enough that I make it my priority to never make that particular mistake again. Which is not to say that I've been hounded by consistently bad clients, quite the opposite. Probably 99% of the people I've seen have been amicable, even when we don't end up meeting for whatever reason. It really just take one particularly bad experience to change your perspective on things.

I've been burned as recently as a month ago for my policy, but like @Armann, I ask for payment at the end. I think this allows everything to run similar to the kind of encounter a client would experience during a regular hookup, minus the obviously necessary business at the end. I also avoid counting the money until I or the client has left. I once had a client get violent when I confronted him about the missing money. Not worth the scuffle. Even if you win, you're still likely to come out with a black eye or a bloody lip and that's not sexy.

That is exactly the way it was related to me. They knew he came in to give a "massage" and the details of expectations had been discussed through text, but he was not detained after they searched him and had a narcotics dog sniff him. If I were to try and make a pattern fit the data, it sounded like he got involved with a sting operation that was casting a wide net and was just hoping someone would roll over on their supplier. This was just before a friend of mine who was a dealer got busted and ... I think he's still in jail. It's just my viewpoint that the two are related. It's entirely possible that my friend got sloppy and him getting jailed had absolutely nothing to do with the LE my provider friend encountered. However, I wouldn't be surprised to learn that my dealer friend had other provider friends and one of those providers had drugs on him when he was caught and that's how LE got my dealer friend. Again, I can only confirm the facts of the situation. The rest is conjecture on my part. I don't like to do any drugs when I go to a client anyways. Too many times I've needed a clear head to make difficult or important decisions.

In Atlanta, I know an escort who had a run-in with law enforcement. Essentially, he got caught up in something accidentally? His story didn't make much sense, but he doesn't speak much English, so it was hard to press him for details. It basically boiled down to: they searched him for illegal substances; he had no drugs on him and they let him go. This is not the norm, just a cautionary tale. I've been operating in Atlanta for more than 5 years now and it's the lone tale I have to add to the conversation.

Frustratingly enough, I can be fairly certain that I caught it from a promiscuous roommate's boyfriend. He and the roommate were not observing social distancing, or masks or anything. Even more frustrating, I had diminished lung capacity, difficulty breathing, etc. They only had a mild cough for a day or so (and did not observe a 14-day quarantine). The best I can do is manage myself. I've run out of stamina for being upset at everyone else not doing the things I consider the bare minimum for this pandemic.

I have to admit, having had coronavirus made me really lax with masks. I would wear them to the gym, and that's pretty much it (though, to be fair, the gym is almost the only place I go, besides the grocery store, and masks are mandatory there), though with a close friend's father on a ventilator due to COVID spread to him by his sons, I'm masking up even to answer the door or accept fast food - literally any interaction with people now has me reach for a mask. :\ It's easy to forget how life-changing this virus can be.

As a former straight guy (figured out pretty late that I liked dudes too), I do not see the draw. The vast majority of straight dudes have bachelor frog-level (it's a meme, Google it, you're welcome ) hygiene at best. I used to be a slob, and that was when I considered myself 'hunting' or 'on the market'. The couple of girls I've had since I started having sex with men have actually remarked about how clean my place is - and that I have clean sheets/pillow cases. The bar is that low.

Do these places have names? ?

I'm not sure if we've reached a point in the topic where people are still responding to the original question or the thread has taken a life of its own, but... I prefer Cialis over Viagra, but I use generics for both. Levitra is another drug I use. I don't know if I'm some weird monkey about these drugs, but they act on me very fast. Viagra feels like it takes, at most, 10 minutes to act, and Cialis takes about 45 minutes. Cialis' effect increases in potency for about two to three hours before it reaches a maximum effect then degrades quickly to a stable medium strength for as much as 48 hours. Viagra lasts for, at most, 6 hours, but follows a much stricter peak->valley effect. After about 10 minutes, I'm getting hard at the drop of a hat (or a stiff breeze, thinking about something sexual - the effects are dramatic), and that persists for about 40 minutes, then steadily decreases in effect until I can't feel the effects anymore. Viagra causes headaches, nasal congestion, an moving from laying down to standing or reverse is a big swing in BP that requires me to sit still for a few seconds while the world chills the fuck out. Cialis only causes mild congestion and that's why it's my preferred erection drug. I'm experimenting with taking 10 mg per day for the long haul, but with clients as they have been recently, I end up taking one 20 mg pill roughly every two days anyways.

That dude toward the end that goes from splits to split to splits is WILD! I wish I was half as flexible.

Just two days ago I was headed to a client's place who lives downtown. Had to turn around because protests were happening fairly close to his place and he didn't want to expose either of us or my car to the potential to come to harm. As an update since 8/20, things have ground to a halt suddenly, particularly in response to new protests in the area. I remember 8/21 I had a client, and since then it's been dead quiet. Have another client tonight. Thankfully this month's bills have been paid. My two provider friends that I speak with regularly said that they likewise had 0 clients this week. Hope this isn't a trend, but a blip.

Doesn't Cash App succeed at providing the necessary anonymity? Users are only identified by "cashtags" that can be changed on a whim.

I think my definition of a time-waster does not align with other people's. If someone is approaching me for a service, I recognize that there's no guarantee that they're going to hire me. Up until "the fun part" of the meeting begins, I don't have any expectation of being paid for my time. Someone could feel unwell, have a bad reaction to food or drugs, a minor emergency could come up, whatever. There's a billion reasons that a person could genuinely want to book with me, set up a time and fail to meet. It's the people who have no intention of ever meeting that are time-wasters to me. One of the friends I mentioned earlier in this thread is hounded by this fellow that will use different numbers to reach out to him and he sets up appointments and has never met once, and since he wants my friend to bottom, my friend is making those preparations and is understandably incensed when this guy falls silent. [edit: my friend and I have come to the conclusion that this guy just gets off on the idea of my friend preparing to bottom - if anybody else has any explanations, I'm all ears] If you reach out to me and you're reaching out to a bunch of people at the same time and I'm the last one to return your message, I completely understand if you don't end up hiring me. I'm still happy to carry on a conversation with you, because like most living, breathing humans, I'm going to continue to exist in this city that you're visiting (and are likely to visit again). Maybe you'll hire me in the future. Maybe you won't. But if I'm rude, or cut you off for "wasting my time", you definitely won't. Besides, why not just be nice? It's just as hard as being rude only fewer people are angry at you at the end of the day.

This is exactly my technique. Also lets them lean on your chest and just pound away.

Interestingly, my regulars making bookings have declined, but overall my bookings have gone up. Similar to Jarrod above, I'm not seeing as many 'crowded' time slots, that is, there are fewer nights where I have to manage timing and more steady work. If I were to try and put numbers to it, presently it looks like: 1 client/day every day, with some days having 2 clients ... as opposed to in the past where it would be: 0 clients on Monday 0-1 clients on Tuesday 0-2 clients on Wednesday 1-2 clients on Thursday 2-4 clients on Friday 3-5 clients on Saturday 0-1 clients on Sunday These 'past' numbers come from tracking my earnings for a full year and toying with the data in a bunch of different ways. I really need to do that again. Maybe this upcoming calendar year...

Oof, and he's a bottom? Yes, please.

I didn't make the unreliable under-40 clients, I just recognized a pattern. ??

People coming to me for fetish work is usually a 'calming' factor for me. Those clients know what they want, or, at the very least, are very sure of the direction they want things to go. Maybe they haven't even been tied up before, that's fine, they still know that the idea of being tied up excites them. They like the look of ropes and how they press against they skin (as opposed to some other type of restraint, like metal, handcuffs, etc.). The more concrete a vision the client has, the less concerned I am with them wasting my time; the more serious they sound right off the bat.

Haha, that is definitely another component to the red-flag nature of a young client. Even a modestly unattractive person that's on the younger end of things will still find free sex from time to time. Corollary: If a young person is approaching a provider for sex, there's something keeping them from getting free sex easily. Be on the lookout for sooooome problem.