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Just a Thank You song~ Always appreciative and in awe of life~ 

On 3/19/2024 at 7:07 AM, pubic_assistance said:

Very interesting perspective.

Although I didn't get this impression from the movie myself, I see how it could be perceived as such  from another vantage point.

Although I would point out that the father did frame the tryst as a gift not a theft.

Well… the father shifted the focus from the boy’s circumstances to his own~ Sort of a distraction point from the reality of the situation~
 ie. He justifies what happened by basically outing himself and saying, if things had been different in his life maybe he would’ve been a poofter instead of a breeder~ Suggesting that it’s OK because the guy was a hottie just seems too minimize the reality of the circumstances. None of the messages in that story seem particularly healthy simply because there was so little emotional and psychological accountability among and between the characters. There was some justification, but, perhaps tainted by distractions like hyper-eroticism and “shock value” themes~    
 My POV comes from having known and dated both men and women who in their youth were physically, emotionally, psychologically raped/abused~ Those situations can leave very real scars~ 
 You who have been in those circumstances, have their own two contend with in terms of self acceptance, and admission or confession/sharing with others outside of their situation… Older adults who are subjected to that have different obstacles, including a sense that being adult means dealing with problems on your own, gender expectations from your peers and adults around you, cultural aspects, religious foundations, and or political foundations…   Seniors, disabled individuals contend with not only vulnerability, but, actual ability to confront the authorities that manage and navigate their lives. 

Not downplaying the very real sexual harassment/abuse situations that can happen to males but, there’s also a pretty strong sense of males being sexual and wanting/seeking/imitiating sex… One might imagine that if the “MeToo” movement was a guy movement, it would look like these gifs below…  
 There’s a lot of cultural and biological pressure to be sexual~ There is a lot of stigma if one is not or expresses their sexuality in a nonconformist/nonconventional way~  Abuse takes on many different faces with many different expressions~ Power exchange may or may not be a common theme but, I postulate~ 
 Objectively look at how many people loved the movie “Call me by your name”, which, if you look is really about this older guy taking completed advantage of a very inexperienced, younger male unsure about his personal and sexual identity… The older male initiates this lad into something he really doesn’t have the social, cultural or personal sophistication to understand. At the end of the movie, this kid is left in an empty nest on the receiving end of a tele, broken hearted while the initiator goes off and marries some other interest he has cultivated in his sexual garden elsewhere and without a second thought~
  it’s amazing to me how many people loved this movie but, the reality of that movie is it’s based on an abusive scenario navigated by manipulation and opportunity and using age and inexperience as a means to an end, (literally an end): Emotional and psychological manipulation for the manipulator’s personal gratification takes a front seat. The adult is so successful at it, there almost seems to be consensual agreement but, this kid really doesn’t have the experience to navigate through that decision and understand what he is being mutual about. In the end he’s left bewildered and lost. How is that hot and healthy? (For many: it was viewed as both~).  
 It’s just a question I have in my own mind. I know many people view this movie very differently and many loved it… To me, it seems to be more of a “taking of age” than a “coming of age” message/movie/experience~ …but, it also raises a point… What is acceptable “abuse” and what is “unacceptable abuse”?   How does one clearly define abuse and advocate against it~?
 I have dated/known/Love(d) victims of sexual, emotional, physical, psychological, spiritual and/or gender abuse: both males and females~ I don’t condone the abuses at all.  
 
 
 

1 hour ago, Anthony said:

"Me-too" explicitly focused on sexual misconduct that women dealt with. Totally different since this is specifically male on male sexual misconduct. 

That sexual shame seems to be so prevalent and such a powerful cultural aspect. Two reasons come to mind but, I will let people draw their own conclusions~ 

11 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

Same with the "Me-too" movement.

Makes no sense why you'd wait 20 years to bring sexual misconduct to light. But I would point out that most Americans have a strange relationship with their seuxal selves and SHAME is a big factor in why people refuse to discuss it.

8 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I think it certainly counts as "sex" but I can share that in MY relationship sex with men is not considered "cheating".

My wife is fine with occasional hook ups with men. Particularly with paid company, but would draw the line if I were to be seeing other women. So yeah...it "doesn't count".

Also, it’s not really cheating when partners discussed, their extra marital activities with each other. My observation is that when couples, regardless of how the gender pairing falls within them, maintain a greater level of trust when the communication is open between all partners. It’s “agreements” arrangements are modified without committal, communication or broken in a way that touches on personal insecurities that can bring about lack of trust~   
Then it seems to fall more into the category of cheating. Variable definitions for each individual and in each partnered relationship even when it’s a triad quad or a communal family type situation.  
I have also found that the structure and agreements between partners in a relationship when there are more than two people involved are not always the same for everybody in the group. Each person provides their unique contribution to the group of a whole and then to each other. So, Physical monogamy might be more important to one individual but emotional monogamy may be important to what are more of the other individuals and financial or psychological monogamy might be a concern of somebody else… What is important, also changes over time and across circumstances, as people grow evolve. 
 So, what is felt or defined as cheating between two people or a group of people isn’t necessarily the same across individuals. What’s important to them at any given time is a fluctuating variable. So, Being in touch with oneself, exercising self honesty and honesty with each other can be helpful, navigating through extramarital, emotional, psychological, financial, physical  and spiritual Situations/circumstances

7 hours ago, pubic_assistance said:

I think it certainly counts as "sex" but I can share that in MY relationship sex with men is not considered "cheating".

My wife is fine with occasional hook ups with men. Particularly with paid company, but would draw the line if I were to be seeing other women. So yeah...it "doesn't count".

Yes… I hear you~ When I talk to women about this very topic, they feel much more threatened. If they partner either male or female sleeps with another woman, because there’s more potential for emotional monogamy to be fractured. Breeches in Emotional monogamy seems to be more threatening than the those related to physical monogamy. Financial monogamy can also be pretty threatening to sum in a relationship… Emotional monogamy seems to be the greatest concern. What’s your perspective?

On 3/12/2024 at 12:06 AM, Monarchy79 said:

Given that this is a military medical professional, I wonder if there has been any assessment of why this predatory behavior seems to be to easy to ensnare victims? I have two theories:

1.) From basic training, soldiers are conditioned to follow orders (without question), from those who are in roles of authority. As doctors are considered to be in a role of medical authority, it could make sense to a solider to follow the instructions of a Doctor, even if he’s not comfortable with it, or even if it doesn’t make sense, even allowing him to be touched in ways that makes him uncomfortable. 
 

2.) The conditioning from training solders that strips their overall sense of privacy. They are trained to shower naked in front of each other, sleep  and change  clothes in open areas,  and even bathrooms have toilets with no partitions. Gaining this sense of ambivalence to nudity and lack of personal privacy could leave a solider to not think twice of stripping in front of his doctor, even when his purpose for the visit doesn’t logically  require it. 
 

It’s  almost as if these environments can make people very vulnerable to sexual predators. 

And then there’s the “bro code” mentality… and the possibility that come of them were okay with it at the time~ Males process sexuality differently than women at time~ there have been so many times that I’ve heard guys talk about having sex with somebody besides their partner and justify it by saying it wasn’t sex, because it was only a blowjob, or was only a hand job… it was sex with another guy and I with a woman and therefore doesn’t count to sex. Not throwing any judgment at all but, it’s definitely something I’ve heard from guys in the past~ I’m really not picking any sides here… I’m just adding an element to the conversation~ 

Just a Thank You song~ Always appreciative and in awe of life~ 

Intelligent humor 

He’s so amazing… I love Gurdeep Pandher~ LOVE HIM~!

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Love cooking shows~ 

Puts Bond to shame~ 

9 hours ago, marylander1940 said:

yes, you've posted examples of conversations with potential clients and we're grateful with you for giving as an insight into the socially awkward,  misfit time wasters you and others have to deal on a daily basis. I've also interacted with folks like that during my professional life and I know I'm not alone.

As you point "if there's a will there's a way". 

In a perfect world an escort would check his phone and reply in a timely manner, even during an overnight there's always the chance to go to the restroom and reply saying: "I can't talk now but let's make plans tomorrow when I'm free".  Unfortunately, I doubt the provider contacted by @keroscenefire has work ethic to reply on time.

yes, Denver is very flaky! I've heard stories!

Fascinatin~ Again, as a respect and courtesy thing, when with a Client, the only time I’m checking the phone is when I’m on the toilet or my partner is in the shower or sleeping, working. Using their time to communicate with other business opportunities seems disrespectful on several levels~  
 Additionally, there are times where being available to less familiar inquiries is a lower priority than being in closer contact with those I may be seeing in the next week or two or three. Since there is a lot of travel involved with touring, transportation and cell reception can be an issue, especially when traveling abroad or with a Client up in some cabin in the mountains, diving/summing on a secluded beach or driving around in the Jeep across the Serengeti plains looking for elephants. It’s not a matter of being dismissive to last minute inquiries or anyone in general, but rather being attentive and respectful to those Clients currently on the calendar with whom a commitment is already established or am currently/presently with~     
 On rare occasion there is nearly daily communication with some Client but, that’s a special person and not the norm~ There is an understanding that all parties involved have things going on in their lives~ 
 Sometimes inquires take this approach: “hey”, “hi”, “what’s your rates”, “pics?”, “how big is your dick”: likely these inquiries will get a little more then a “hey” response in reply~ There’s no indication regarding what city/country they are in, what time zone they are in, if they are of legal age, if they are single, coupled, identify with a gender, have chatted together previously, etc.  
 Having an account on RM and some prior contact on site helps sort thru some of that mystery~    
  Random phone calls from google numbers with fragmented and/or incoherent messages will be likely ignored/blocked/reported as spam~   
 There are different business styles for providers and Clients have also their own needs and styles as well~ So, general assessments and blanket approaches can be misleading~   
 It can be helpful to Clients if they read the “about me” section of any given profile and if Providers actually put thing about themselves there or elsewhere for Clients to learn about them, their personal style and contact preferences~   
 RM recently shortened the number of characters allowed by providers in the “about me” section but, perhaps if Providers and Clients expressed, (to the moderators), the need and importance of having the greater space there, both would benefit~ 

Gosh… in nearly 26 years I have never taken last-minute appointments… perhaps only a few times with established Clients but, rarely with new inquiries~   
  I tend to schedule things several weeks on up to four or six months in advance.   
 Even now, August, September, October and November have appointments on calendar.  
 Longer appointments trend here and I can’t say that I’ve ever done a one hour appointment or multiple appointments per day~ 
 When traveling, regular established Clients have privy/priofity to availability as a respect and courtesy for their dedication and loyalty~  After meeting, there is some discussion regarding the next tour dates and that way they can plan both time and finances~ 
  If there are new inquiries who have been communicating with me but, not been able to meet on any particular tour, I let them know when I will be coming next into the area and depending on circumstances/situations, may leave a few days open on either end of my tour to schedule these new Clients~    
 People have made contact regarding last minute appointments but, it’s usually @ some wee hour of the morning and those inquiries seem to cast a drug vibe. Not being tolerant of PnP, I politely decline~  
  If regular guys make inquiries late while I’m on tour already in their town, it’s likely that I’ve no availability but, since we know each other previously, it’s possible to schedule in advance for a future date~   
 It’s been that way always~   
 

This is a three hour movie. It is also in Tamil, which is a fast, concise and expressive language. Regardless, the storyline is as powerful as it is multifaceted~ you can enjoy this fast paced hot action movie on the surface level but, if you have some knowledge of Indian history and culture, it’ll take you a lot further in the overall journey~  (Arjuna)~ 
 Master can be enjoyed solo as an action film but, it packs numerous viable and profound lessons~ It marks highly in both context and content~ 
 Vijay is a tremendous asset and powerhouse in this movie~   He is the ultimate Dad and hero here~  There is so much to love about him and this movie~ 
 Though this movie is also presented in Hindi, my personal experience is that a translates better watching it in Tamil and there’s no distraction of dubbing~    
This trailer tries to draw you in with some of the action but, there is so much more to this movie. The trailer really doesn’t give anything away.~