CuriousByNature

We just have to play the hand we're dealt as best as we can, and keep motoring forward. Pretty much anything we experience, whether good or bad, can either build us up or pull us down. Even if we live 100 years life is like a blink of the eye.

I imagine people can take things a bit too far, however...

This hits the nail on the head. I am very happy for you - it makes all the difference when one feels supported growing up. I am not in that boat unfortunately, and have spent many years being overly critical about myself - to the point where I am my own harshest judge. Brutally harsh. That can lead a person to just give up on believing that anyone would give them a second glance, and therefore miss those moments when someone may have been interested. I think building confidence in others is one of the greatest gifts we can give someone.

Everyone's human. There are those who might post negative comments for reasons other than an objective assessment of the situation. A client or provider could have a bee in their bonnet about something that would not bother most reasonable observers, and decide to post negatively to teach the person they are upset with a lesson. So, it isn't necessarily that anyone is posting 'fake warnings' - it could be that people are posting warnings that they believe are justified from their personal and subjective understanding, but in reality, a warning may not be objectively warranted. IMHO it's a matter of perspective, and unfortunately a lot of damage to the reputations of both providers and clients can result.

I hope you don't disappear from posting. A forum is only as rich as the diversity of thought and opinions it encourages. I've looked at your post and I see someone who was really hoping for great experiences in Chicago, but was unfortunately let down time and time again. By the time you were to meet Mr. Big, I think it is completely understandable to have gotten into a negative headspace and perhaps lost patience wondering if Mr. Big would bother showing up. Especially with everything else you happen to be dealing with, and the fact that he couldn't bother returning your calls. I doubt I would have waited more than 15 minutes myself, and if I did I probably wouldn't have been in much of a mood to meet with anyone. You are dealing with a hellish experience with brain cancer. I can only imagine that time is all the more precious to you, than it is for many of the people on this forum. Perhaps Mr. Big can afford to take time for granted, but I understand that you cannot, and God forbid I ever judge you for that.

For what it's worth, I think you were quite reasonable in your assessment of the situation. Right from the get-go it seemed like his commitment was 'iffy' at best because he told you he would be sleeping until 15 minutes before your appointment time, and you knew it was not likely he could be there by that time. IMHO, if he was serious about meeting you (and not just after he rolled out of bed) he should have asked to meet you at 3pm instead of 2pm, OR... maybe he could have been a grown up and not slept into the afternoon. This is his career, apparently. Sorry you are getting nasty personal messages - I think that's completely uncalled for regardless of whether anyone thinks you were somehow in the wrong.

And those who came close but 'lost' would include George Burns, who died about 6 weeks after passing 100.

Something looks off to me... perhaps AI?

... and then multiply by 1.5

Completely off topic, but when I quickly glanced at your name I thought it was 'Osteoporosisboy'... there are meds that can help with that. LOL

That would be terrifying...

Very true. And it can be scary. I think in my 40s I reached the point where my indignation about the state of the world and my defiance cancelled out the fear I may have had. And now that I am within weeks of turning 50, I feel even more emboldened by realizing I probably only have another 60 or 70 years left.

There's a difference between a phobia or irrational fear and trying to constantly protect oneself. I stopped worrying about 'what might happen' when traveling because I realized when your time is up, your time is up. Everything we do has some level of risk attached - even staying at home. So I would rather travel and potentially live a shorter life if an accident were to happen, than stay at home 'safe and sound' and regret all the things I sacrificed along the way. For me it would be a sacrifice, but for others, perhaps not.

Those sound like some pretty serious injuries for someone that age. Did the report mention anything about racing near train tracks and getting hit by the train?

So.... what did you end up doing?

Some attachments can be pretty scary... and others are less serious but still hard to shake.

I would recommend posting those everywhere - each forum and all of our personal inboxes But in all seriousness, perhaps in either The Lounge, Questions About Hiring, Public Galleries or here in the Deli? Maybe the Deli would provide the most exposure and opportunities for feedback.... just a thought.

I could only hope someone would be that interested! Not even by my cat... LOL

Cancer sucks. I don't know what type of brain cancer he has, but I have known a few people who had glioblastomas and didn't make it through one year after diagnosis. It's been more that 3 years for Jessie, and I really hope his outcome is different, whatever type of cancer it is. So young and seemingly so healthy - we shouldn't take our time for granted.

This guy may disagree...

Hello all, I'm not sure if this is the correct forum for this question, but does anyone have an update on Jessie and his health situation? I think it was about three years ago that he posted on social media that he was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, and there was a GoFundMe to help cover his medical expenses. I have never met him but I reached out at the time through his RM ad to see how he was holding up, and he was incredibly kind and seemed to appreciate the care people had been showing him. I reached out again several months ago to see how his treatment was progressing, but have never heard back. His RM ad is still active though, and the last review was October 2022. Does anyone know how he might be faring? Here is a link to the ad: Jessiecolter - Pornstar Performer, Rentboy, Gay Massage in St. Petersburg, FL | RentMen RENTMEN.EU Pornstar Performer & Rentboy in St. Petersburg, FL - Jessiecolter: Jessie Colter *CONTACT DIRECTLY BY TEXT ONLY*