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Yeah, maybe I’m in the minority here, but this is crazy to me.  
 
One of the benefits of hiring is - or should be? - that you’re free of having to offer yourself up for evaluation and approval in order to have a sexually rewarding experience.  Isn’t that part of what you’re paying for?
 
And isn’t our #1 job skill an ability to find the actual sexiness in all men and reflect it back to them?  An escort asking for pics … I’d wonder if he has that skill at all.  

Asking for a face picture for a massage? It's not like the client expects the whole BFE and the masseur wants to make sure he can perform, right? Oops I forgot about the HE

There’s no reason a masseur or escort needs your face or body photos. It’s a red flag that they’re probably cherry picking clients based on whatever preferences they have. I suggest clients pass and move on to the professionals with no hangups about how their clients look.

Yes, understood. As I keep saying though, my issue is about requiring it more than it is just about what could be done.

Once you send out a picture you have no control over what someone does with it.  Better paranoid than sorry.

I think requiring a face pic to meet is silly for a masseur. It probably leads to them having fewer clients overall. 
And if people are anti-social media or keeping their lives very discrete, I think we should all be supportive of that. 
My issue is with guys who are all over Instagram and everywhere else but scoff at sending one to a provider, particularly one who has lots of pictures on their profile. 

Call us paranoid if you like, but I'm not sure that not wanting to send selfies of oneself is really paranoia. What if I'm a closeted doctor fearful of being outed, what if I'm locally known, what if there's a high chance of being recognized and my private life exposed that I'm trying to keep secret? I don't think it's paranoia to not want my picture 'out there'. Many people don't want their pics even up on social media. If someone is out already or just doesn't mind anyone finding out about their sessions, all power to them. It doesn't mean that those not like that are paranoid. 
I realize as @SouthOfTheBorder said, that I could be secretly being recorded. That's not in my control. The risk that is in my hands is all that I can control and nothing else. There's a gamble being taken by both the provider and the client, and both acknowledge that. Trying to think of ways to protect everyone is a smart idea, but I don't think requiring a photo does much to really provide security. If it's to identify who's at the door, then asking for a description is as secure as asking for a photo. Again, at the end of the day, both sides are accepting a certain level of risk.

I'm happy you raised this issue. It's become more common and I wasn't sure if I was the only one who feels like it's a deal-breaker. I am looking for discretion when I book with someone, and the idea of someone having my picture is uncomfortable. If a person cancels an appointment because I'm ugly, I guess no problem. It's the discretion that matters mroe to me. Some masseurs who have requested it are saying that it's for their safety...so I don't know what started that trend.

I am one of those who avoids social media altogether.
It seems like most people are debating just the effect of sending a pic, but to me, the demand itself is not reasonable. It's one thing to ask for a pic, another to require it. "hey, would you be willing..." is not the same as "I require a face pic".   
What if we were to reverse the demand? How many providers would be okay with the client demanding face pics of those masseurs who do not post face pics on their ads? Again, asking is not the same as requiring. I'm not okay with being required to send a pic, personally. Like I said above, if others are okay with it, all power to them, but I'm not. I care very much about discretion, and anything in my control with respect to discretion, I want to control. I do think, for me, it's a big deal to send my picture to someone I don't even know. To be required to take such a risk, is, in my view, unreasonable.
 
 
 
 

Call us paranoid if you like, but I'm not sure that not wanting to send selfies of oneself is really paranoia. What if I'm a closeted doctor fearful of being outed, what if I'm locally known, what if there's a high chance of being recognized and my private life exposed that I'm trying to keep secret? I don't think it's paranoia to not want my picture 'out there'. Many people don't want their pics even up on social media. If someone is out already or just doesn't mind anyone finding out about their sessions, all power to them. It doesn't mean that those not like that are paranoid. 
I realize as @SouthOfTheBorder said, that I could be secretly being recorded. That's not in my control. The risk that is in my hands is all that I can control and nothing else. There's a gamble being taken by both the provider and the client, and both acknowledge that. Trying to think of ways to protect everyone is a smart idea, but I don't think requiring a photo does much to really provide security. If it's to identify who's at the door, then asking for a description is as secure as asking for a photo. Again, at the end of the day, both sides are accepting a certain level of risk.

I think the only way I would do this would be if they’re ok using an app like WhatsApp or telegram where you can set a photo to disappear after viewing.

Call us paranoid if you like, but I'm not sure that not wanting to send selfies of oneself is really paranoia. What if I'm a closeted doctor fearful of being outed, what if I'm locally known, what if there's a high chance of being recognized and my private life exposed that I'm trying to keep secret? I don't think it's paranoia to not want my picture 'out there'. Many people don't want their pics even up on social media. If someone is out already or just doesn't mind anyone finding out about their sessions, all power to them. It doesn't mean that those not like that are paranoid. 
I realize as @SouthOfTheBorder said, that I could be secretly being recorded. That's not in my control. The risk that is in my hands is all that I can control and nothing else. There's a gamble being taken by both the provider and the client, and both acknowledge that. Trying to think of ways to protect everyone is a smart idea, but I don't think requiring a photo does much to really provide security. If it's to identify who's at the door, then asking for a description is as secure as asking for a photo. Again, at the end of the day, both sides are accepting a certain level of risk.

I'm happy you raised this issue. It's become more common and I wasn't sure if I was the only one who feels like it's a deal-breaker. I am looking for discretion when I book with someone, and the idea of someone having my picture is uncomfortable. If a person cancels an appointment because I'm ugly, I guess no problem. It's the discretion that matters mroe to me. Some masseurs who have requested it are saying that it's for their safety...so I don't know what started that trend.

Asking a client for a face pic.

Call us paranoid if you like, but I'm not sure that not wanting to send selfies of oneself is really paranoia. What if I'm a closeted doctor fearful of being outed, what if I'm locally known, what if there's a high chance of being recognized and my private life exposed that I'm trying to keep secret? I don't think it's paranoia to not want my picture 'out there'. Many people don't want their pics even up on social media. If someone is out already or just doesn't mind anyone finding out about their sessions, all power to them. It doesn't mean that those not like that are paranoid. 
I realize as @SouthOfTheBorder said, that I could be secretly being recorded. That's not in my control. The risk that is in my hands is all that I can control and nothing else. There's a gamble being taken by both the provider and the client, and both acknowledge that. Trying to think of ways to protect everyone is a smart idea, but I don't think requiring a photo does much to really provide security. If it's to identify who's at the door, then asking for a description is as secure as asking for a photo. Again, at the end of the day, both sides are accepting a certain level of risk.

I'm happy you raised this issue. It's become more common and I wasn't sure if I was the only one who feels like it's a deal-breaker. I am looking for discretion when I book with someone, and the idea of someone having my picture is uncomfortable. If a person cancels an appointment because I'm ugly, I guess no problem. It's the discretion that matters mroe to me. Some masseurs who have requested it are saying that it's for their safety...so I don't know what started that trend.

Generally, my response is "no, thank you."  And it's a deal breaker for me if it's a requirement. 

No pics, no pics, no pics.
You just don't know what will happen at a later point in time.
I develop lots of young managers and one of the things I teach them is...  your employees may love you today, but in the blip of a second, they could hate you and turn. Love you today, hate you tomorrow.... always exercise caution. Anything on a server will be there, somewhere, forever... with enough time and money to find it. Even if the escort or employee does not turn, someone else could.
I know I sound super paranoid, but it is a deal breaker for me if the escort requires a pic.

I have had this request only a couple of times but for me is a red flag and a deal breaker. I just said: I guess we are not a good match, thank you for your time and have a great day.

^This and what most other people wrote was also my experience. I communicated what I was looking for, but found him very kind (if not a little formal) by text, and then a little bit abrasive in person. I came here to read wondering if it was worth the repeat, as it's been about 1.5 years since I saw him. But it seems like the majority had a similar experience, and if I'm giong to drop that much money, I don't want to guess whether it's going to be what I'm looking for or not. 

I took the risk and saw MarkAnthany. The person I met is not likely the person in the picture. Their age and look are quite different. I know, someone will say that I should've left right when that happened, but for whatever reason, I didn't. The massage was a B-, sensual was alright. But I would not repeat, it's not him, and I'm not sure how he got reviews saying hte pictures are accurate... Maybe he had different ones up before, but the single pic on there isn't him. 

I took the risk and saw MarkAnthany. The person I met is not likely the person in the picture. Their age and look are quite different. I know, someone will say that I should've left right when that happened, but for whatever reason, I didn't. The massage was a B-, sensual was alright. But I would not repeat, it's not him, and I'm not sure how he got reviews saying hte pictures are accurate... Maybe he had different ones up before, but the single pic on there isn't him. 

I took the plunge and saw him tonight. He isn't nearly as chiseled as the photos or in the same kind of shape. He's not hard on the eyes by any stretch, but he's not the photos either. I thought it was going to go badly at the beginning when he started with a massage gun, but actually it got pretty good and I was surprised by his skill. I don't think I'd repeat, but it really wasn't a bad experience at all.

Just a follow-up on my own post from above. I've seen him at least 3-4 times, the price was different (and increasing) each time. Reached out today, and now what was once $200 is $350. It was mentioned that most escorts charge $300/hour, and the response was that his escort rate is $500/hour. I enjoyed his company, but those numbers are outrageous.

Anyone have experience with this gentleman?
 
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